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A comprehensive guide to help you manage your social media and internet use
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Social media and the internet are powerful tools that are an important part of our everyday lives. We use them to learn, communicate, work, and more. But, sometimes, using social media and the internet too much can overwhelm us and negatively affect other aspects of our lives. We spoke with Licensed Psychotherapist Lauren Urban and Life and Career Coach Annie Lin to find out the best ways to manage social media and internet use and prioritize your mental health.

Quick Steps

  1. Use apps to reduce your phone use.
  2. Disable social media notifications.
  3. Install browser extensions to block sites.
  4. Limit how often you check your devices and take breaks periodically.
  5. Schedule your internet time.
  6. Turn your phone off during activities and do a screen-free hobby.
  7. Delete social media apps.
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Track where you’re spending your most time.

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  1. Use an app like RescueTime on your computer to learn what sites and social media you’re using the most. If you have an iPhone, use the built-in “Screen Time” feature to see what social media and other internet-based apps you spend the most time on. [1]
    • If you use Screen Time , be sure to remember your password.
    • There are other 3rd-party apps for Android phones to track usage. Google phones have a built-in feature called Wellbeing.
    • Once you know where most of your time is going on your devices, you can try different ways to stop visiting those sites and apps.
    • Licensed therapist Lauren Urban, LCSW, advises, "Pay attention to when/why you engage with social media. Is it mindless or are you paying attention to what you’re doing? Is it meant to numb or distract? Is it meant to help you decompress? Details such as these will help you figure out what purpose the behavior is serving and come up with replacements for scrolling social media for when you’re bored, need to relax, want to discharge some emotional energy, etc." [2]
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Use an app to reduce your phone use.

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  1. Choose an app that lets you block specific apps like Facebook and Instagram and limit yourself to the internet features you need, such as your work email. Or, opt for an app that lets you completely lock your phone for a set amount of time or at certain hours. [3]
    • For example, Offtime (for iOS and Android) lets you block distracting social media and other apps and choose from filtered modes like “work,” “family,” and “me time” to allow yourself access to certain things you need.
    • Moment (for iOS) is another option. It lets you track your device usage and set limits for yourself. It notifies you whenever you pass the limits you set.
    • Or, there’s Flipd (for iOS and Android), which lets you lock your phone for a certain amount of time. Once you lock your phone, bypassing the app is impossible. You have to wait until the time is up!
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Disable social media notifications on devices.

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Install browser extensions to block sites.

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Limit how often you check your devices.

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  1. If you find yourself checking social media or browsing the internet every 15 minutes, start by limiting your checks to every 30 minutes. When that gets easier to do, increase the amount of time between uses to 45 minutes or 1 hour. [6]
    • If it’s really hard to avoid grabbing your phone or another device frequently, put the distracting device in another room to make it easier.
    • Or, put your device in a bag or in a closet in between checks to keep it out of arm's reach and remove the temptation.
    • Licensed therapist Lauren Urban, LCSW, says, "Research has linked social media consumption with depression and anxiety, as well as loss of productivity and difficulty completing tasks." [7]
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Schedule your internet time.

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  1. Pick a time in the morning to check emails, news sites, and other things you like to look at on the internet. Give yourself a cutoff to close the internet and focus on other activities and responsibilities. [8]
    • For example, you might decide that 9 a.m. to 10 a.m. is your time to check and reply to emails and catch up on the latest news. After that, it’s time to focus on work, family, or other important things.
    • Stop using technology 30-60 minutes before bed. Using technology right before bed can negatively affect sleep quality. Try doing something analog before bed to disconnect, like reading a book or journaling. [9]
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Turn your phone off during activities.

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  1. Turn your phone off when driving, in a meeting, eating a meal, hanging out with friends, or at the gym. Practice giving all your attention to whatever you’re doing at the moment instead of distracting yourself by scrolling through your social media feeds or using other apps. [10]
    • Better yet, don’t bring your phone anywhere unless you really need it! That way, you’re completely removing the temptation to get online.
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Delete social media apps from devices.

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  1. Uninstall apps like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter from your phone or tablet. That way, you can only check them from your computer, so you’re less likely to do it as frequently. [11]
    • If you find there are just 1 or 2 apps that are sucking up all your time, you can start by deleting just those and seeing if it helps limit your social media use. For instance, if you mainly spend hours scrolling through Instagram, get rid of that.
    • You could also try moving apps over to a screen other than the home screen on your devices so your thumb doesn’t go straight to them when you pick up your phone or tablet.
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Take digital breaks periodically.

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  1. Pick a time when you don’t need to check your work email or use your devices for other essential activities. Commit to not checking social media or using the internet during this period and repeat it every week. Use the time to focus on other activities, like spending time with family, catching up with friends, or completing a personal project. [12]
    • For example, you might choose to go offline starting at 5 p.m. on Fridays and not allow yourself to check social media or use the internet again for 24-48 hours.
    • It’s okay to set some exceptions, such as allowing yourself to use a map app for directions or video calling your family.
    • Life and Career coach Annie Lin says, "If you feel depleted and lethargic after using social media, or you feel envious and anxious that you’re not where you should be in life, you probably need a break. " [13]
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Spend more time with friends offline.

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  1. Go to dinner with friends once a week, get together with a group of people for a weekend hike, or reach out to people you haven’t seen in a while and schedule a catch-up date. If you feel like you don’t have anyone to spend time with, reach out to acquaintances and ask them to join you for lunch or a coffee — you can always make new friends! [15]
    • You can also join a club or attend meetups to spend more time on offline social activities. For example, look for a local hiking group or a weekly board game club.
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    How can I limit social media use without completely cutting it out?
    Ben Whitehair
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    Ben Whitehair is a Social Media Expert and the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of TSMA Consulting. With over a decade of experience in the social media space, he specializes in leveraging social media for business and building relationships. He also focuses on social media’s impact on the entertainment industry. Ben graduated summa cum laude from The University of Colorado at Boulder with BAs in Theatre and Political Science as well as a Leadership Certificate. In addition to his work as CIO, Ben is a certified business and mindset coach and Executive Vice President of SAG-AFTRA. He is also a successful entrepreneur as the Co-Founder of Working.Actor, the premier business academy and coaching community for actors.
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    You could try the old school technique of setting a timer. Let yourself have 20 minutes or so at the end of the day to relax and look through social media. Once the time goes off, you stop. Another thing you can do is set aside a specific timeframe during the day to use social media, like from 12 to 12:30 every day. That would be your social media time to catch up with everyone and engage with the community.
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    How does one get off social media entirely?
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    Delete your account. That is the best way to get off social media entirely. That way, you can't message or post new things, you have nothing to return to and look at and you won't be tempted to play with the settings and updates. It will take a lot of willpower to begin with but distract yourself with hobbies and activities that you can do at home and go out a lot as well, such as for walks, to visit people or to do activities like sports, movies and night classes.
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    Is it mandatory that I limit social media? I'm dealing with self-isolation due to the COVID-19 pandemic and social media helps me feel less isolated.
    Community Answer
    No, it's not mandatory but highly recommended. Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, many people are dependent on social media for keeping in touch with friends and family and it's normal that social media helps you feel less isolated. But you shouldn't exceed your limits on social media, either. It is generally advised to set your boundaries and limits on social media even during the pandemic because too much of social media means too much of screen-time; which is not good for the eyes.
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