How to Get a Cancer Man to Fall for You

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Attract a Cancer man and get him to chase you with this complete guide

Co-authored by Stina Garbis and Annabelle Reyes

Last Updated: February 3, 2025 Fact Checked

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How to Make a Cancer Man Fall in Love

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What are Cancer men like in love?

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Cancer Zodiac Compatibility

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Cancer Fast Facts

Cancer men are known for being sensitive, loyal, and romantic. No wonder you’re interested in one! If a Cancer man has caught your eye, you’ve come to the right place. We’ve compiled a complete guide on how to make a Cancer man fall in love, including insights from expert astrologers Stina Garbis and Angel Eyedealism. Keep reading for everything you need to know to win him over!

How to Woo a Cancer Man

Cancers can be a bit shy at first, so be patient and give him time to open up. Show him that you're empathetic, understanding, and reliable, so he feels safe enough to share his strong emotions with you. Cancers also love to care for others, so give him a chance to support you emotionally and do kind things for you.

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How to Make a Cancer Man Fall in Love

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Be patient and give him time to open up. Cancer men are known for being a bit shy and hesitant at first, explains Eyedealism. ^{[1]
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Angel Eyedealism
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Expert Interview. 7 September 2022.} Like their symbol of the Crab, they have a protective outer shell, so it may take some time for them to get comfortable enough to let you in. Try not to rush him, and just focus on showing him you’re consistent with your affections. When he feels safe enough, he'll drop his guard, which is an important first step in getting him to fall for you.
- His need for emotional security can be pretty strong, so he will need to sense a certain degree of emotion from you before he can let himself feel the same way. Once he feels certain of your feelings, though, he's more likely to be free and honest with his own.
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Empathize with his strong emotions. Sensitive Cancers feel everything very deeply, and Eyedealism even goes so far as to call them “the most intense water sign.” ^{[2]
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Angel Eyedealism
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Expert Interview. 7 September 2022.} This makes sense considering they’re ruled by the moon, which is the planet of moods and emotions in astrology. ^{[3]
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Research source} If you’re empathetic and understanding toward him while he navigates his emotions, this will likely go a long way to bring you closer together.
- For example, if he seems stressed out, sad, or upset, ask him what's wrong and let him know you’re there for him. If he hesitates, let him open up at his own pace, but make it clear that you’re willing and eager to listen.
- Garbis says you should try not to be offended if he needs time to himself to process things. “Beware of changing moods, and give him space when he needs it,” she says. “Know that he’ll come back around in a couple of days as a new man.” ^{[4]
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Lean on him for emotional support. If you’re trying to get a Cancer to fall for you, “Let them take care of you,” suggests Garbis. “Go to them and ask for their help if you’re sick or injured, or just ask for help in general. They love to emotionally support others.” ^{[5]
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Stina Garbis
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Expert Interview. 14 February 2022.} If you drop your guard and let yourself be vulnerable in front of him, he’ll likely jump at the chance to talk things through with you, offer a practical solution, or even just be a shoulder to cry on.
- In fact, as you and your Cancer man deepen your connection, he might even go overboard with his need to be nurturing and supportive.
- Although this can be a bit much at times, Garbis explains it’s a good sign in terms of his feelings for you. “Allow him to smother you a little bit. He is going to want to be close and to be helpful and you should give him opportunities to be close to you,” she says. ^{[6]
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Show him that you value stability. A Cancer man craves safety and security in his romantic relationships. He wants a partner he can count on, someone who will show up for him no matter what, and who has their own life in order. To truly win him over, show him you can be this kind of stable, grounding force in his life. ^{[7]
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Research source} Be his calm in the storm, and he’ll likely swoon over you! Here are some specific tips:
- Stay true to your word. If you tell him that you’ll do something for him or show up somewhere, make sure you follow through on this. Your reliability and trustworthiness will help him feel safe to get closer to you.
- Try to eliminate chaotic or hectic circumstances in your own life, like issues with ex-friends or ex-partners. Consistency-loving Cancers may pull away if they sense that there’s a whirlwind of drama surrounding you.
Cancer is one of the most family-oriented signs in the zodiac, so it’s a good idea to show him you’re on the same page. Talk about your own relationship with your parents and siblings, and ask about his relationships with family members. Once you get to know each other better, let him know that you’d love to meet his family and introduce him to yours. If he sees that you share his family values, he’s more likely to be able to see a real future with you! ^{[8]
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Do little acts of kindness and be affectionate toward him. A sentimental Cancer man values tenderness and warmth in relationships. He wants to feel close and connected to you, and if he can sense how much you love him, he’s more likely to match your energy and return your feelings. A sweet gesture like a handwritten note or a package of his favorite candy can go a long way, for example!
- Gifts that remind him of your relationship can be especially effective. Think photo albums, love poems, and trips to sentimentally significant spots—like the place you first met.
- Gestures that are nurturing also work especially well. You might try making him a home-cooked meal or a hand-knitted scarf, for example.
- Reader Poll: We asked 248 wikiHow readers what small gift they, as Cancers, would be happiest to receive from someone they’re seeing, and 49% of them said a sweet note. [Take Poll]
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Create a cozy environment. Due to his love of family, security, and comfort, the Cancer man thrives in a warm, cozy environment. It nurtures his spirit and allows him to feel safe enough to open his heart. If you want to really grow close to a Cancer man, try inviting him to your home, and make sure you’ve got some cozy decor around, like fuzzy blankets, soft pillows, and yummy scented candles. Extra points if you’ve got a treat baking in the oven, too!
- If you create an environment that’s warm and welcoming enough, he’ll likely want to spend a lot of time hanging out there with you, and he may even start to see it as his safe haven.
Once you’ve spent some time deepening your relationship, don’t be afraid to talk to a Cancer man about your future as a couple. Cancers are usually looking for true, stable partnership, not tumultuous on-and-off-again affairs or casual flings. ^{[9]
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Research source} If you show him you’re serious about the relationship, he just might match your energy and take things to the next level!
Cancers are incredibly passionate, which means they throw themselves into their relationships completely once they’ve fallen in love. Before you go after his affections, make sure you’re as serious about him as he’ll likely be about you. A hopeless romantic at heart, a Cancer man is looking for true love and enduring commitment, so make sure you’re ready for that seriousness! ^{[10]
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What are Cancer men like in love?

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Cancer men are affectionate and caring partners. Cancer men are deeply romantic and pretty traditional, so they’ll do things like write you love letters, take you out to fancy candlelit dinners, and buy you bouquets of flowers. Because Cancer men love to take care of others, he’ll also do kind things for you without being asked, like bringing your favorite coffee to you at work or helping out with handiwork around the house. ^{[11]
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- Cancer men have a tendency to be a bit jealous and possessive in relationships. As a result, they don’t respond very well when potential partners play hard-to-get or flirt with others to try to get their attention.
- Instead, they prefer partners who show that they’re stable, trustworthy, caring, and committed. All of these things allow a Cancer man to feel safe and secure enough to fall in love and be their best selves in relationships. ^{[12]
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What signs are compatible with Cancer men?

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Fellow water signs Scorpio and Pisces share Cancer’s sensitivity, emotional intensity, and passion, which makes them great matches. Earth sign Taurus has a lot in common with Cancer, too. Both signs are romantic, caring, and helpful, so they fit together very well. Taurus is also known for being reliable and consistent, which is something Cancer deeply values. ^{[13]
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Cancer Personality Overview

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Cancer is the 4th sign of the zodiac. This water sign is known for being empathetic and nurturing. They care deeply about their home lives, and they seek comfort and security above all. Ruled by the moon, Cancers are also deeply intuitive, and they’re often in tune with their spiritual or mystical sides. ^{[14]
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- Element: Water
- Modality: Cardinal
- Ruling Planet The Moon
- Symbol: The Crab
- Dates: June 22 - July 22
- Keywords: Caring, nurturing, empathetic, sentimental, emotional, intuitive, thoughtful

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Just started dating a Cancer man and I've had a couple of people tell me to "be careful" with this sign lol...... I think it's going well so far but I'm curious what to expect? I tbh don't really know all that much about Cancers so what are the pros and cons of dating a Cancer dude?

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