How to Pick up Girls at the Mall

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The mall is a great place to meet girls because it’s filled with girls enjoying their free time. However, It can be hard sometimes to approach a stranger and end up getting her number. By looking your best and learning to approach a girl, you will be able to seal the deal and pick up a girl at the mall.

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Approaching Girls

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  1. Using eye contact to flirt with a girl is a great way to get her paying attention to you. Play an eye flirting game. [1]
    • Glance in her direction and wait for her to look over at you. When she does, turn away and look at something else. Do the same thing again, but this time wait a little longer before turning away. Continue until it’s obvious you’re looking at her and then go up to talk to her.
    • Say something like, “Hi, I just had to come talk to you. I could see how beautiful your eyes are from all the way over there.”
  2. If you see a girl your want to pick up in a store, try going up to her and asking for fashion advice. Grab a shirt off the rack and approach her with it. Hold it up to your face and ask her if she thinks it looks good with your eyes. Saying something like this will make her think you appreciate her knowledge and get her to look you in the eyes. Once she gives her answer you can continue the conversation. Try saying “Thanks. Wow, you have beautiful eyes. I bet everything in this store would look good with your eyes!”
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  3. A great way to pick up a girl at the mall is to be upfront and approach her directly. Directly telling a girl that you find her attractive can be intimidating, but it can also be very rewarding.
    • Go up to her and say something like, “I’m sorry to interrupt you, but I just had to come over here to tell you how beautiful you are. You light up this entire room with your beauty!"
    • When you approach her directly, be calm and just act like yourself. If you feel awkward, say that. You could tell her, “Hey, I feel awkward saying this, but I wanted to tell you that I think you are incredibly beautiful.”
  4. If the girl you want to pick up is with a group of friends, approach the entire group first and then speak directly to her. [2]
    • You could say, “Excuse me ladies, sorry to interrupt your fun, but I just had to come over here to introduce myself to your friend.” Then, say your approach line to the girl you want to pick up.
    • Next say, “Hi, I’m Matt and I just needed to come tell you that you light up this entire mall with your smile. You must have a beautiful soul because you radiate with beauty.”
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Getting a Date

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  1. [3] When you approach a girl, she may be a little suspicious at first, so don’t immediately ask her for her number or give her yours. Let the approach lead you to a conversation with her. Talk to her for a while so that she’ll feel comfortable and get to know you a bit. She’ll be more likely to want to see you again if she feels like she knows you a bit. [4]
  2. One of the best ways to seal the deal and get a girl’s phone number is to be confident and calm the entire time you are talking to her. [5] If you are really anxious or self conscious, the girl will pick up on it, get a negative vibe from you, and most likely not give you her number. If you feel nervous, take a deep breath and try to fake the confidence. Imagine you’re just talking to a friend instead of a girl you like. [6]
  3. At the end of your conversation, ask if you can exchange numbers with the girl to possibly see her again. Ask her to enter her number in your phone and you can to the same with hers, or you can call or send a quick text so your number is on her phone. [7]
    • Say something like, “I’m sorry to end this, but I have to be going. I’ve really enjoyed talking to you, and I’d love to do it again sometime. Let’s exchange numbers so we can meet up for coffee sometime.”
  4. [8] The great thing about picking up a girl at the mall is that you don’t have to go far to have a first mini date. After talking to a girl for a bit, go out on a limb and ask her if she’d like to join you for coffee or lunch at a place in the mall. Tell her you want to hear more about her and would love to buy her a coffee.
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Looking Your Best

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  1. When girls are at the mall, they’re engulfed in a world of fashion so they will be more likely to check out what you’re wearing. [9] Make sure you come to the mall dressed in a stylish outfit that accents your best features. Wear something that is your style, but make sure not to wear anything that has lots of stains or looks dirty. [10]
    • Wear a shirt color that matches or complements your eye color. This will help accentuate your eyes and make them pop.
    • Classic pants like dark denim or khaki are a good option to appear stylish.
  2. Before approaching a girl at the mall you want to make sure you look your best. Head to the bathroom to check out how you look. Make sure you don’t have any food on your mouth or shirt. Use a brush or your fingers to brush your hair and smooth over any stray hairs that might be sticking out.
  3. One way to get a girl to remember you is to wear a hint of scent on your body. Use one spritz of cologne or perfume to give yourself a subtle scent that will stay on the girl’s mind. Make sure you don’t put on too much or she might be turned off. Stick to one to two sprays max.
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    Being happy in your life is the most basic, it sounds so basic, but it's so vital to attracting a partner. Because if you're not happy in your life, you are not going to attract anybody, let alone a romantic partner. It's also important to work on yourself and to really feel attractive in the way that you look, so improve your physical appearance by getting your body in shape or getting fit. I also suggest that men should work with a stylist in order to improve his physical appearance can dramatically improve is attractiveness.
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      1. ↑ https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-approach-girl-wherever-you-are-easily
      2. ↑ https://www.waytoosocial.com/pick-up/how-to-approach-a-group-of-girls/
      3. ↑ Alessandra Conti. Celebrity Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 23 April 2021.
      4. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lindsey-kesel/the-right-way-to-approach_b_4577088.html
      5. ↑ Alessandra Conti. Celebrity Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 23 April 2021.
      6. ↑ https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-phone-number-girl-every-time-you-ask
      7. ↑ http://datingtips.match.com/girls-number-13443500.html
      8. ↑ Alessandra Conti. Celebrity Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 23 April 2021.
      9. ↑ Alessandra Conti. Celebrity Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 23 April 2021.
      1. ↑ http://theartofcharm.com/approaching-a-woman/pick-girl-mall/

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