Q&A for How to Attract Boys

Men find it attractive when women set boundaries and standards for themselves. Men want to be able to respect the woman that they're with, but it's hard to do that when women don't expect to be treated well.

Men want women who have their own lives. It's important for women to have their own priorities outside of a relationship, like getting exercise or spending time with friends.

Take responsibility for your actions; unless you're very codependent, it's hard to really respect someone who plays the victim in their own life. Also, try to surround yourself with a grateful, enthusiastic, and positive energy.

Try to have a positive attitude—no one wants to date a partner who makes judgmental assumptions. We all want to be seen for our best self.

Some guys will try to hang out with you, compliment you, or tease you. Shy guys might just stare or look nervous when you say hi.

Everyone has different tastes, so act natural instead of trying to please everyone. Just make sure to be an active listener while others are talking.

Sure, this behavior often means the man is interested, but it can easily turn immature and obnoxious. Force him to move the flirting along: "Are you making fun of me because you like me? You know there are more effective ways to admit that."

Here are a few tips that anyone can practice. Whenever you get nervous, take a few deep breaths, tell yourself you'll do great, and go fake it 'til you make it.

It may take a long time if the guy is inexperienced or shy. Sometimes you need to set aside gender roles and do the asking out yourself.

Hint for a kiss by touching his arm, moving in close, and glancing at his lips before making eye contact. If he's still too shy to start, why not start the kiss yourself?

If your boyfriend doesn't seem interested in your life and doesn't put any effort into spending time together, he's failing to keep up his end of the relationship. Have an honest talk about it, and prepare to end it if he isn't willing to change. On the other hand, if you are unhappy whenever you're alone, or don't have a social life outside the relationship, you may need to find other ways to occupy yourself.

As long as he hasn't said that he's annoyed by your messages, and he's still responding to them, you can keep talking like you normally would. Even if he's interested in your best friend, you can still have a friendship with him!