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    How can I make my outfit extra ladylike?
    Tami Claytor
    Etiquette Coach
    Tami Claytor is an Etiquette Coach, Image Consultant, and the Owner of Always Appropriate Image and Etiquette Consulting in New York, New York. With over 20 years of experience, Tami specializes in teaching etiquette classes to individuals, students, companies, and community organizations. Tami has spent decades studying cultures through her extensive travels across five continents and has created cultural diversity workshops to promote social justice and cross-cultural awareness. She holds a BA in Economics with a concentration in International Relations from Clark University. Tami studied at the Ophelia DeVore School of Charm and the Fashion Institute of Technology, where she earned her Image Consultant Certification.
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    Always dress for the proper occasion. For instance, you wouldn't show up to a wedding in a denim dress. Also, if you're wearing high-heeled shoes, make sure the heels are well-maintained. If you walk on sidewalks a lot, the heels can get caught in a sidewalk crack, which can peel away the shoe's material.
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    What are some of the things that a lady has got to have with her all the time/everywhere?
    Community Answer
    Good manners, a small mirror and enough cash to get herself out of a spot of bother.
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    What should a lady's skin look like?
    Community Answer
    Clean and well cared for.
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    Can we always speak our mind for everything or is it rude?
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    This depends upon how you speak your mind, there is always a polite way to make a point. Being assertive and stating your case is a very important part of being a successful and happy human being. Just do it with good manners, kind intent and a determination to be considerate of other people too.
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    How do I style extremely long hair to look ladylike?
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    Long hair is best kept in top condition and tamed in neat hairstyles that reveal a sense of good grooming. Buns, braids, classy ponytails and hair in a snood are nice ways to style long hair. See further How to Style Long Hair for some more ideas.
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    How do you go to the bathroom like a lady?
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    You don't talk about it, you just "disappear to the powder room to refresh yourself". In the bathroom, do your business quietly and efficiently, wash your hands, touch up your hair and makeup, then slip back into whatever you were doing beforehand.
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    How would I dress to look like a lady?
    Community Answer
    Part 2 of the article above describes just what to do for dressing well. Prefer classic, well-tailored and long-lasted quality pieces over cheap, throwaway, faddish pieces.
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    How can I be beautiful?
    Community Answer
    For help on being beautiful, it is suggested that you read How to Be Beautiful , for some suggestions.
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    How can I appear elegant and ladylike while being very overweight?
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    A woman can be ladylike no matter how much she weighs. All one must do is be kind and polite, be well groomed and practice proper hygiene, and think before acting.
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    Do I have to wear makeup to be pretty?
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    No. After all, makeup is only meant to accentuate the natural beauty that you already possess.
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    I'm very shy, so I'm bad at making conversation, I always say something awkward when I get nervous. How can can I get better?
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    For me, it really works to listen to politicians, comedians, etc. and observe what they do. I also have conversations with myself in which I try to answer hard questions (preferably in a funny way!). These questions could be either made-up or from conversations you have overheard from others.
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    How do I act like a lady without changing who I am?
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    You don't change who you are. You add to who you are through acts and gestures that suggest you are a lady (knowing how to carry yourself, following proper etiquette, behaving with class in social situations, etc.).
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    Why is this article so incredibly sexist?
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    While your argument is understandable, I would like to bring to your attention that the same points could be applied to anyone, regardless of sex or orientation. Sexism is discriminating against or stereotyping someone because of their sex, but this article discusses many things that apply to people of any gender, such as basic hygiene, table manners, and conversation etiquette. The article neither explicitly states nor implies at any point that any sex or gender is superior. Perhaps the title should be something like, "Be a Classy Person".
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    I have a pixie cut. Is this an obstacle to being a lady?
    Tamara
    Top Answerer
    No. Being a lady is not determined by the length or style of a woman's hair, but by how she behaves and carries herself.
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    If I have acne, can I still be proper?
    Community Answer
    Certainly. Acne is a common annoyance, and nothing to be ashamed of.
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    How can I be a proper lady as a tween?
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    Be polite and kind, be well-groomed and clean, speak clearly, do your best at school and learn as much as you can, and never abuse drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes.
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    What if I have to wear pants?
    Tamara
    Top Answerer
    You can look ladylike and elegant in pants as long as they are well-tailored, clean, wrinkle-free, and fit you well.
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    Can I scold others for not being proper?
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    Use your best judgement. If you are speaking with someone who is being a little rude, but not overly offensive, it's best to let it go. Nagging others about their manners may make you look like a know-it-all. However, if someone is making you or others very uncomfortable or is embarrassing themselve's without realizing it, you may want to politely inform them of their error.
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    Could I read while I wait for my food?
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    If you are dining with others, it would be impolite to use the internet or read at the table. If you are dining alone, it okay, but if you are in a restaurant and a server approaches you, put away your device, or at least set it down to show respect.
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    Should a lady put her back against the chair?
    Community Answer
    Of course. Resting your back against the chair does not mean you aren't a lady.
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    Being a lady sounds a bit boring, sorry if that sounds offensive. Can I still be myself while being polite and professional?
    Community Answer
    Of course! It's important to always be yourself. And you're right, "being a lady" is a bit of an outdated concept. Incorporate whichever you want to from the article and skip the ones you don't want to do.
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    Should I keep my glove on when shaking hands?
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    That is entirely up to you.
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    Just because a woman wears a revealing garment doesn’t mean she’s “asking for it” or anything of the sort. Isn't it sexist to even suggest something like that?
    Tom De Backer
    Top Answerer
    The article does not say, not even close, that a woman wearing revealing clothes is "asking for it". It says instead that to wear revealing clothes gives the impression you're not dressing for yourself, but rather to attract men. That's something entirely different and a valid point. You may not agree with that point, but you're wrong to put this in the category of "she's asking for it", which is simply not what the article says.
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    Can I be a lady if I'm only in my early teens?
    Community Answer
    Below this article is a related wikiHow that will address your question. Click on the box titled "How To Be Ladylike (Teens)".
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    Should I wear pantyhose if I have open-toed shoes?
    Community Answer
    Typically, no, you should not wear pantyhose with open-toed shoes.
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    Do I have to dress for my body type and show my curves?
    Community Answer
    There's no need to hide your curves, but you certainly don't have to show them off if you're not comfortable doing so. You should wear whatever you're comfortable wearing!
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    Is it proper to wear a wide brim hat to a brunch?
    Community Answer
    Sure, that could definitely be proper.
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    What does "don't talk with your mouth full" mean?
    Tom De Backer
    Top Answerer
    It means you shouldn't speak when you still have any food in your mouth. At dinner, while eating, take very small bits of the food you have and put them in your mouth one by one. First chew and swallow, then talk, then take the next bit. The smaller the bits of food, the more time will be available to carry on your elegant and intelligent conversation.
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    How do I get rid of scars?
    Tom De Backer
    Top Answerer
    A scar is when a wound did grow closed, but the skin did not return to its normal state. Scrapes and cuts and bruises usually heal without leaving a trace, but more serious wounds often leave scars. There are surgical procedures that can 'break' scars, and moistening cream does smooth the skin, but scars can be difficult to remove. You could try the tips in Get Rid of Scars and Cover up Scars .
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    What manners are very important for ages ten to fifteen girls?
    Galasy4969
    Top Answerer
    Use 'please' and 'thank you.' Take care of yourself by bathing and brushing your teeth. Watch your body language (no slouching, arms to the side). Respect your boundaries and the boundaries of others. Be respectful of others in general and don't assume you know everything; be a good listener.
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