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    My ex is in a new relationship and we both still like each other. He doesn't want to hurt her by breaking up with her, so he says we can start talking again when they break up. Should I try to break them up, or leave it be?
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    Something's not right here - if your ex is still interested in you, then why did he enter another relationship and why is he reluctant to end it? Especially if he was the one to initiate the breakup between you two; he knows that breaking up at any point is going to hurt this girl, so his explanation doesn't line up. (Even if he didn't initiate it, chances are good you were unhappy in the relationship - remember, there's a reason he's your ex.) From an outsider's perspective, it looks like your ex is stringing you along, so it might be better to let go of him and pursue other relationships; he's dating another girl while essentially telling you "maybe later", and that's not fair to you.
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    I tried this before and I failed, resulting in me temporarily losing the friendship of the boy. We have forgiven each other now, but should I try again?
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    No. You've already hurt your friendship with him once; if you try again, you're likely going to lose it again permanently. Additionally, if you're trying to break up the same couple, they're going to immediately be suspicious and catch on very quickly since they know you've tried this before. If this is the only way you can see to solve the issue that you have with the couple (whether you hate the couple, or want to be with one of them yourself), you need to take a break from interacting with them and spend time with other friends or do other activities. It isn't healthy to be so fixated on a relationship that you attempt to damage it multiple times.
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    This girl that I don't like is dating my crush. Should I tell the guy that she's pregnant and cheating on him to break them up, even though she is none of those things?
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    Absolutely not. Both of those things can be disproved, and will leave your crush unable to trust you when he inevitably discovers that you lied to him. Doing so makes you look jealous and manipulative (which are not traits that people want in their romantic partners), and could actually result in your crush and his girlfriend becoming closer to each other as they work through the conflict. A plan like this is highly likely to backfire on you, and won't have positive results. Take a break from these people instead, and talk to someone you trust about how you feel.
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    This girl is still with the boy, and I've been there for her through everything. Everyone sees how perfect we would be together, but she doesn't. I don't want to make her jealous, because she's the one. What should I do?
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    It's not what you want to hear, but you need to look at the relationship between you and this girl. It doesn't sound like she views you romantically, and if she doesn't see flaws in the relationship or keeps going back to her boyfriend despite the flaws, there's virtually no chance of them breaking up. You can't force a couple to break up, and she doesn't owe you a relationship because you've been there for her - that's just what friends do. She may feel like The One, but if she doesn't reciprocate your feelings, she isn't The One. Instead of focusing on her, focus on meeting new people without intending to find a date, so you can form relationships with others that don't revolve around this girl.
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