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QuestionWhat do I do when finding a life coach?Lucy Yeh is a Human Resources Director, Recruiter, and Certified Life Coach (CLC) with over 20 years of experience. With a training background with Coaching for Life and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) at InsightLA, Lucy has worked with professionals of all levels to improve the quality of their careers, personal/professional relationships, self marketing, and life balance.Listen to your inner voice for guidance, as it's common for goals and values to shift as we move through life. If you are facing a significant change, the process can feel easier with help from an accountability partner and coach, and this person should listen to the goals that you are setting. Their job is to hold you accountable and help you navigate this time in your life!
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QuestionHow can I be more mature and responsible?Community AnswerFor responsibility, keep yourself on track. If you forget things easily, you could write down the things you need to do for that day, take a picture, and make it the wallpaper on your phone. Keep yourself on task and make sure you get everything done. For maturity, always think before you speak or act. Be a bigger person, walk away from conflict, be kind and polite to everyone.
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QuestionHow do I change everything about myself?WikiHowUser20171109012036Community AnswerAsk yourself what you want to change. Don't just say, "my appearance" or "my personality". What about your appearance? Is it your facial features? Maybe you have braces, glasses, and/or acne. Maybe you feel like you have a short temper. Write everything down or type it up in detail. Then, found solutions to your problems. Search online for ways to make your facial features larger, smaller, softer, and/or harder. There are braces that can go on the inside of your teeth. Research those. Research eye surgeries or considering getting contacts. Learn ways to lessen acne. Find anger management classes. If you really want to change yourself, research. Find ways to change what you want.
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QuestionWhy are people jealous of my success?Community AnswerBecause you have something desirable that they don't have. That's the normal situation to feel jealousy in. However, no one should be mean to you or try to bring you down because they're jealous. You can help minimize such behavior by being humble and offering to help those who are worse off than you. You definitely don't need to bring yourself down in the process, though.
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QuestionHow do I stop being a negative person?Community AnswerFocus on the positive in your life. Make a list of the things you have going for you and the things you're thankful for (if you need help with this, ask someone to assist you in brainstorming). Compliment someone else, and actually mean it.
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QuestionWhat happens if my friends don't like what I change to? I want to change a little bit but my friends like to judge so what if they don't like it?Community AnswerIf you think you are changing to be a better person than you were before, and you find your friends not accepting it, take some time to evaluate your priorities and your friends' priorities. Evaluate how this change will affect the people around you. Is it going to change you for the better and make you a more fulfilled person? If so, go right ahead. True friends will understand the rationale behind your transformation. If they don't understand, then move on from these "friends" who ridicule your positive transformation. Do not succumb to judging. Those friends are not real.
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QuestionWhat if I want to change myself because I hate who I am and I'm doing it for someone else?Community AnswerChange yourself for you. Not anyone else. If they don't accept you, they aren't worth your time. Deal with why you hate yourself before trying to fit someone else's ideal. If you don't, you'll never be happy and you'll be easily manipulated.
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QuestionI am suffering from several health problems, and thinking of the future distracts me. What can I do?Community AnswerDon't worry about the future or the past, just focus on the present. Be thankful for the opportunities, people, and possessions you currently have in your life. Try mindfulness meditation, this will help you to be more aware of the now.
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QuestionMy fiance is always yelling at me and telling me I am simple because I cry easy. What can I do?Community AnswerJust leave this person. Why would you want to be with someone who treats you this way? A healthy relationship is pleasant and makes you feel good about yourself. Your fiance should not be yelling at you or insulting you. It's better to get out now than end up stuck married to a person who doesn't respect you.
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QuestionMy family and friends always call me "kid"! What can I do?WikiHowUser20171109012036Community AnswerTalk to them. If you're the youngest in your family, they will always see you as the "baby". The same can be said for a close group of friends. Another reason they call you "kid" could be because you act like one, or their impression of one. Try acting more mature and take on more responsibilities to prove yourself as a teenager or an adult.
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QuestionHow can I stop telling white lies to my spouse?Community AnswerAs soon as you catch yourself telling a white lie, instantly come back with the truth. Repeating this again and again will help you to break the bad habit.
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QuestionHow can I be more confident?Community AnswerTry spending a little bit more time on yourself when you are getting ready in the morning. Also, try to encourage or compliment yourself at least once a day; it can be simple as "Yes! I finally got around to cleaning my room," or "Hey, I actually do look nice in white."
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QuestionI'm a very shy and obstinate girl. I don't know how to talk to people. I lack self confidence and I'm bullied by my friends. What should I do?Community AnswerThat's horrible! I suggest you talk to your loved ones about what's going on. You could also try telling your friends that they are hurting your feelings and asking them to stop. If the behavior continues, you should find a new group of friends. If all else fails, talk to the guidance counselor or principal at school about the situation.
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QuestionMy boyfriend thinks I am sometimes self-centered. What should I do to show him I'm not?Community AnswerChange his perception by changing your behavior. Volunteer at a shelter or soup kitchen, or just help out more at work or school. He will see by your actions that you are not self-centered.
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QuestionHow can I learn to be nice in front of my teachers and avoid swearing?Community AnswerBe especially careful with what you're saying. Be aware that it's a teacher you're speaking to and think of the consequences of swearing in front of a teacher. Keep eye contact, and if the teacher says you've done something wrong, don't argue or talk back. Apologize instead and make amends.
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QuestionI want to dye my hair. What if I don't like how it looks after I dye it?Community AnswerYou can always dye it another color!
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QuestionHow can I lose weight without exercising?Community AnswerHave a good diet plan, drink lots of water and fat-burning tea. As long as you are taking in fewer calories than you expend during the day, you'll lose weight.
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QuestionHow can I stop drinking beer?II BoomSmash IICommunity AnswerGoing to a group or seeking medical help is the best. Get a few friends and help each other out.
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QuestionHow can I change my body shape?Community AnswerYou can do a lot of exercises to grow and emphasize certain parts of your body. Weight loss can also do a lot to change your body shape (though it's impossible to target weight loss to one area of the body).
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QuestionHow can I become more laid back and chill?II BoomSmash IICommunity AnswerRemember that you only live once. Take a break once in a while. You need to take the time to reset, even if you're just kicking back with a good book or listening to your favorite music. Don't overthink things and don't get upset over small slights.
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QuestionI want to get inspiration from my role model, but how do I approach them when my teeth look terrible and I'm embarrassed by that?Community AnswerTeeth are important part of your overall health. If finance is your reason for the neglect teeth, then there are dental collages that will fix your teeth for free, the work is overseen by a teaching doctor. Be sure to brush them regularly and floss too. At the end of the day though, you need to weigh up being held back by your teeth or moving forward in a direction that can allow you to bloom and find more ways to care for yourself.
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QuestionHow do I change myself completely without people thinking I'm weird?Community AnswerStart small: maybe get a new haircut, or try taking small risks like raising your hand more in class. Even if people do think you're weird for changing yourself, you should ignore them and do whatever makes you happy.
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QuestionPeople keep telling me that I am annoying or I start too much drama. How can I change myself so people will stop hating on me?Community AnswerWhenever people complain about you, ask them to tell more details about the problem and what exactly they find annoying. Ask at least one friend to warn you on the spot right when you start doing something that people see as annoying or starting drama - they could say it explicitly or you can agree on a sign. This way, you can recognize patterns and it will be easier to change and stop doing these things completely.
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QuestionOne of my parent is too negative and always unknowingly puts me down. I've tried talking to them about this issue, but it hasn't helped. What do I do?Community AnswerIf you've already spoken to them about this issue and nothing's changed for the better, then maybe ask one of their close loved ones to have a word with them. The next best thing is to try not to let their opinions affect you negatively, they clearly have their own issues. Find people who fill you with optimism and good feelings and aim to nurture such traits within yourself, too.
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QuestionMy boyfriend hates many aspects of his life and he is always talking about change. How can I help him improve his life?Community AnswerMost people talk of change but don't initiate, help him visualize, plan, and then act on his transformation. Engage him and understand why he wants to change, be supportive, and stay positive.
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QuestionHow do I break bad habits?(I have a life... had...)Community AnswerSelf-discipline. Punish yourself every time you indulge in the habit, by, for instance, taking away something you enjoy for a period of time. Also, reward yourself every day that you don't perform the bad habit.
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QuestionHow can I control my anger when my teacher puts me down in class?Community AnswerIf your teacher is singling you out and saying inappropriate things to you, talk to your parents, the principal, or a guidance counselor about what's going on. Otherwise, try the "5 years rule," if it won't bother you in 5 years, just forget about it, it's not important.
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QuestionWhat should I do if I'm only an introvert in certain places?WikiHowUser20171109012036Community AnswerYou may be a social introvert. Around people you don't know, you're really shy, but if you're with a close group of friends, you're really outgoing. That's natural for a lot of people. If you want to get over this, remember the phrase, "Fake it till you make it." Fake the confidence and outgoing nature until it becomes your default pattern of behavior.
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QuestionHow can I be nice to everyone and control my anger?Community AnswerJust keep a smile on your face and don't be rude, even if you're angry. If you get upset, walk away from the situation, or try to calmly address the problem and work it out.
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QuestionHow can I change myself without feeling someone is pressuring me?Community AnswerPressure can help you achieve the goals you need to accomplish in order to change yourself. Embracing the pressure set by others may motivate you to stick to your goals. Being accountable to others is an excellent way to keep you dedicated to making real, significant change.
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