Q&A for How to Figure Out Your Gender Identity

You may be experiencing gender dysphoria if you notice persistent discomfort with multiple aspects of your assigned gender (not limited to aspects that are due to sexism or limited gender roles within a given culture of a community).

Try to experiment with different labels and see what you are comfortable with—it’s possible you could be demiboy or bigender. Remember that being a guy doesn’t matter if you like being feminine, but you still want to be a guy, you can be a feminine guy and use he/they pronouns.

Sometimes, but not always. A lot of online quizzes are made by people with personal experience who question(ed) their gender, and not by experts. It's better to go to a gender therapist or gender identity center and work with an expert to understand your gender if your having trouble determining your gender.

You might be genderfluid, but you might also just enjoy dressing masculinely or as a guy. (See more in How to Know if You Are Genderfluid ). As for "coping" with gender expression, don't worry about what other people think of you, simply dress in ways that make you feel comfortable and confident.

It may take some time to figure it out. You experience body dysphoria and like using he/him pronouns at least part of the time. Do you wish everyone used he/him pronouns with you, or would that not fit right either? If there were a button you could press to make everyone see you as a guy, would you press it? You may be a trans guy, or you could be a nonbinary person (e.g. agender, demiguy, genderfluid, or something else). Try exploring LGBTQ+ spaces to learn more. Also, it may help to see someone who specializes in help for transgender people. If puberty is still starting, you might get puberty blockers to pause puberty while you figure this out. And once you have a better sense of it and are old enough, you may get hormones like testosterone to help your body match how you feel inside. Give yourself time to feel out what makes you happy.

Demigirl means having a partial connection to being a girl. For example, a demigirl person was assigned female at birth and most resonates with being female, but the other half of the person feels masculine.

Yes. Gender identity and gender expression are two separate things. You can be any gender and like these things.

You're comfortable with being a girl, which makes it sound like you're a girl. A girl who dresses in "masculine" clothes and doesn't follow gender roles might call herself a "tomboy." She identifies as a girl, but her gender expression is more boyish than average. That alone doesn't make her LGBTQ+. If you think of yourself as a girl and are comfortable that way, then you're a girl. There's nothing wrong with being a tomboy or anything else.

You could be genderfluid or nonbinary! You can explore different labels and find one that fits you, or you could stay unlabeled if you want to.

Gender identity is how you perceive yourself. If you feel both non-binary and male, you might be a Demi boy, which is a nonbinary identity.

There's no problem with doing a "girl for a day" challenge! You won't forget who you are in a single day, but you might discover something new about yourself and what you feel comfortable with.

You might be agender, bigender, or demigender. Agender is when you have no gender. Demigender is when you partly identify as a different gender, and bigender is when you have 2 genders.