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How do I tell my gay best friend that I like them?

Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
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Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.

Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW

Psychotherapist

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Being honest is the best way to handle this. When we aren’t honest, we create barriers that can block connection and trust. Being upfront helps you stay true to yourself and keeps things real. Find a comfortable, private place to talk with your best friend where you both feel relaxed. Keep it simple by telling them how you feel. Be clear that you're not expecting any particular reaction, and it's okay if they don't feel the same way. The goal here is just being honest and keeping things open and respectable. This will give both of you the time and space to think things through moving forward.

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Any tips if my friends have abandoned me for being gay?

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You need to find some new, more accepting friends. If your friends abandoned you because of something you can't control, they're not worth having around.

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So I have a GBF, but some of my other friends don't think it's right for me and him to be friends. So what should I do?

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Your friends are wrong. There's no reason why it wouldn't be 'right' for you two to be friends, unless he's mistreating you or something. If you care about the friendship, stay friends and don't worry about what people say.

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I am asexual and questioning my romantic orientation, and I want to have some friends who are in the LGBTQ+ community. How do I make LGBTQ+ friends in my middle school?

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If your school has a LGBTQ+ society, you could go there to meet new people. If your school doesn't have one, you could always start one! If this doesn't seem appealing, you could just try and find out which people are LGBT and make friends.

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