Q&A for How to Get Your Cousin to Like You

The simplest way would be to have an honest talk. Tell him something like "Hey, I know we're close, but I think it's best if we just enjoy our relationships as cousins and nothing more." If that seems too upfront, ignore any flirty behavior until it goes away.

First, know that it's not uncommon to develop a crush on an older cousin, especially if you didn't see each other a lot when you were younger--you're not alone! Second, remember that someone in their 20s is a legal adult, so it's not a great idea to fixate on a relationship with them if you're under 18 (whether you're cousins or not). To get rid of your feelings, make sure to stop any flirty behavior (fake it 'til you make it!) and try to find a non-relative to crush on that has traits similar to what you like about your cousin.

Since you live far away and probably don't see each other often, use the opportunity to talk about all of the cool things that you've done since the last time you saw them. It could be something like a vacation you took, a cool project you worked on, a competition you competed in, or anything you see as interesting!

It could be any number of reasons. If your cousin is older, maybe they feel like they don't have anything in common with you. You could try starting the conversation by asking them questions, about their day, their favorite band, whatever you think they might want to talk about. They might also just not be in the mood to talk. There's also a chance you upset them in some way. If you think that might be the case, just ask!

You can call, video chat, or text message. Find something you guys are mutually interested in, and build on it.

It depends on her facial expression. If she is smiling, she wants to know you more, and she wants you to smile back. If she looks sad, ask her if she is okay. It's possible that she is trying to get your attention. Try approaching her and talking to her.

It's normal for young women to have crushes on older men. However, it is not a good idea to pursue or indulge these fantasies, no matter who the man is. Trust me, when you are 30, the idea of someone your age having any kind of romantic relationship with a 13 year old will horrify you. Just keep your crush to yourself and enjoy being a young teenager.

It shouldn't matter what gender you are. You should still put in time and effort.

Try to find some time around your homework and church to have a little fun. Manage your time efficiently so you can accomplish everything you want in a day.

They will come around. Try asking them why they are mad and don't argue that it is not your fault, even if it isn't. Apologize even if you feel like you don't need to. Ask their parents why they are angry if you don't know. Texting or emailing will help because they will probably read the text.

You could do something nice together, like going to the cinema or even have a holiday at the sea!

Try to say sorry, if you can't, tell another cousin to say, "(Your Name) wants to say sorry, can you forgive (him or her)? And they might say no or yes.

You could phone, text, chat, FaceTime/Skype, e-mail, and be active on one another's social media pages. If you're both into gaming, you could also play online together.

Try to talk and tell them your feelings. If they don't feel the same, that is also alright.

It is possible, but romantic/sexual involvement between cousins is a taboo in many areas and cultures. The most important thing is that you both freely consent to being in a relationship, and that you are both above the minimum legal age of consent where you live. Check out the laws relevant to your country on how distantly related cousins must be for it to be legal.

This can happen and yes, it's awkward. Say that you're flattered at your cousin's interest but you don't consider your cousin in that way and won't ever. Suggest that you both always be the best of friends, supporting each other and always be there for each other throughout life. That should help to ease down your cousin's expectations gently.

Find out when she's available and make plans to meet her at a place you both like. Also, have some patience. She may actually be quite busy, so just wait until her schedule opens up.

This is your aunt, therefore it is not appropriate. Put aside your feelings and be a good nephew or niece. You are family.

Talk to them privately and tell them that the way they're treating you is hurting your feelings. If the behavior continues, talk to your parents, their parents, or any other adult family member about it.

There's not a lot you can do about that. You can try encouraging your parents to patch things up with their parents, or you can try explaining to your cousins that you guys shouldn't let their problems affect your relationship. If you haven't already, try talking to your parents about how you'd like to be able to spend time with your cousins.

If you're too shy to ask, just send her a letter or a text or contact her on social media. It's okay to just ask her, though. You're family, and you should feel comfortable talking about your feelings with each other.

You may have embarrassed him by talking to his friend without his permission. Apologize and tell him it won't happen again. Ask if there's anything you can do to repair the friendship.

If you can't see you two getting along at all, then it may be best to not pursue the friendship and just see each other at family events. If this hatred is recent, then learn some of their interests. Make smalltalk and expand from there. If at any point you KNOW it won't work out, then stop trying.

Do they go out of their way to talk to you and hang out with you? If you invite them to do something, do they say yes? If so, they probably like you.

Ask him/her if they want to hang out. Try to think of an activity that you know they like to do and invite them to do it with you, like play video games, toss a football, play miniature golf, etc.