Q&A for How to Get a Guy Who Has a Girlfriend

Write a list of at least ten things that are amazing about you. Think about what’s great about your personality, how you treat people and what your unique talents are. The more you focus on what’s good about you, the more confident you will feel.

First of all, if he sees you as a friend, that means he does like you! He must appreciate your personality and all that you have to offer if you're part of his inner circle. While it's disappointing to have an unrequited crush, it's totally understandable that a guy who's already attached wouldn't want to lead you on. Right now, value what you do have: a buddy who's self-aware, has strong values, and kind. After all, he still wants you to be part of his life!

Hey, while it's understandable to get excited now that everything's out in the open and he's aware of your crush, it's best to be patient. It's fine to impress him with your wits, humor, and skills. That's totally within the realm of what's normal between a couple of friends. However, there's no way to really "speed up" a break up. What happens in his relationship is between him and his girlfriend—there's no sure-fire way for you to expedite them calling it quits. Just hang in there and remain supportive!

Try to play around with the language you use—it's important to frame what you say in a way that's chill and non-threatening. After all, you don't want to upset his girlfriend: it's unlikely that getting under her skin would work out in your favor. Instead, just be laidback and avoid making any one-on-one time sound romantic. Tell him you want to "kick it" or "hang out." You'll still score some quality time with him without causing any issues!

If he only did it once, it may have been unintentional. But if he continues to do it, try to confront him about it -- ask him how he feels. Maybe he and his girlfriend are on the verge of breaking up.