Q&A for How to Leave a Note Signed 'Secret Admirer'

You might want to consider putting it in his bag instead; leaving it at his desk allows too much opportunity for it to be seen by those for whom the note isn't intended.

Most people who leave secret admirer notes are unsure whether or not the other person likes them. If they knew they liked them, then there would be no need for a secret admirer note. Just give it to them and see what happens.

If you're not certain that he's pursuing someone else, then just go with the note. However, if you determine that he is trying to start a relationship with someone else, then it's best not to interfere.

Yes, of course.

Yes you can do that. Then they will know that they have a secret admirer.

You could write another note to your crush, giving him some kind of clue about your identity, or at least a clue that would lead him away from the person he suspects.

Ask your friend to give it to them. If you have lockers, then put it in their locker.

You should send him a note anyway. Maybe he told your friend that because he doesn't want people to know that he actually does like you. If you write a secret admirer note, he won't know it's from you anyway. Slip it into his desk or backpack when he's not looking.

Just write "from your secret admirer" at the end of your note.

First, get to know the person a little bit. Then you can send the person a secret admirer note.

Do it after school! Your crush will have a wonderful surprise when they open the locker to see the note you made!

Write the letter somewhere quieter and less crowded, so people don't see you writing it.

Yes, but make sure that you don't get caught while you slip it in. Make it seem like a normal part of the schoolday routine and not to arouse suspicion.

Yes. Just know that without a return address on the envelope, the letter would not be returned to you in the event the mail service is unable to deliver the letter to the addressee.

Obviously, a secret admirer would be nervous and embarrassed about their crush, and would act jumpy and scared when the topic is brought up to them. If you don't show any strong emotions, your friend's crush likely won't suspect you. Another clue is the topics brought up in the secret admirer notes, do any of them describe you?

Put the note folded in a small, generic, securely-closed/wrapped box with flashy text saying something like "To (crush's name), Your Secret Admirer" on it, and toss it quickly into their yard. Be careful nobody sees you doing this. You may try a wooden box if they have a big dog who could destroy cardboard. If they live on a busy street, toss the box into their backyard instead.

If you have a crush on someone and want to show them your feelings without revealing yourself, you'd send an anonymous, secret admirer note to them. This is used to "test the waters" to see if the crush's reaction is positive or negative before revealing your crush on them, possibly saving you some embarrassment.

A "tracer" refers to a specific, unique word or phrase used in secret admirer notes so the admiree knows it's the same person. Basically, a secret catchphrase. An example would be the word "Wowzers" written above before the first sentence, or using a pseudonym unrelated to you.

Just be very, very careful. Don't write anything too specific that gives your identity away, and you might want to change your handwriting completely just to be safe. You might want to try writing it as graffiti while in the school restroom toilet or somewhere else on school property where there is nobody watching you, someone will see it and start rumors, you will find out your crush's "safe" reaction before you can write actual notes yet.

Find someone else. They most likely lost interest in you, especially if you were/are dating someone else during or after that time.

You could probably mention a specific detail that's associated with you, something that could narrow you down a bit without being too easy to identify. Examples include: your hair and eye color, favorite movie, and favorite songs. Make sure you don't give away too many specific details. Obviously, don't say the name of your pet, your birthday, or anything else unique within your peer group.

Probably not, since there are cameras in the room except for the stalls, and someone can easily flush the note down the toilet or put it in the trash can. If you have a marker or pen, you can probably write your crush's name on the wall and a sentence about how much you love them, and someone will notice it.

Don't act suddenly different about them than usual, or else you'll accidentally reveal yourself in someway. When you write more notes to them, make it less obvious as to who you are, but when you feel more confident, you can add a little more hints to yourself.

You would have to know their social media profiles first. Then, create a second anonymous account, and type a secret admirer note to them like you'd do in person, and send it. Depending on the site/app, you might send it either publicly on their profile, or privately as a direct message. Also, be careful if you send it on Wordpress, since the owner of the blog can see your IP address and possibly find out who you are (if they know your IP for example). To be extra safe, you can try using a VPN/proxy IP.

They may be embarrassed, or maybe they've simply never thought of you that way.

Slip the note into a random locker, someone will find it and the drama will start. Make sure nobody sees you while you do it, and that the note specifically says his full name.

Yes, any type of paper can be used.

Yes! That would be a very good idea as you can send the note via email or social media. Use an email address that doesn't have your name in it, you could send it with a throwaway email.

If you are confident enough, tell your crush that it was you. Otherwise, start leaving less personal notes or stop leaving notes so if the teacher asks to see them. Make the handwriting different from yours so the teacher won't realize it's you, as they probably know your handwriting.

Only tell people you trust about secret admirer notes. Otherwise, it could turn into an embarrassing situation. It is best to only ever tell very close friends (not many) or family.