Q&A for How to Pick Up Gay Men

You can try flirting back and see if he responds to it, or you can be direct and tell him how you feel. It might be awkward if he doesn't feel the same way, but if he's a good friend, he'll be understanding about it, and the awkwardness will likely fade with a little time. It's hard to put yourself out there, but it's better than not knowing. Good luck!

You can always ask him directly if he'd like to go home with you (or be a bit subtler and try "Want to get out of here?"). He might be up for it, but he also might turn you down, so make sure you've got a thick skin!

That's a pretty common experience, though it can be frustrating! It's possible you're more confident and open around guys you aren't into because you feel less anxiety around them, and confidence is a turn-on for a lot of people.

Do what feels right to you. If you're not bi or gay, just tell him. If you are, then think about how you feel for him. If you don't like him romantically, you can just tell him. If you aren't sure, just tell him that you need to think about it. You don't need to rush figuring it out. Take your time.

You can't always tell that a guy is gay just by the way he acts. If you want to attempt to figure out without asking, try seeing if he romanticizes men or flirts with them. If you don't see things like this happen, find a way to ask him. Just don't come off as rude.

His size doesn't matter. Small guys can be just as great. If you want to know, though, try asking.

Gay men are men who only like men. Bisexual men are men who like both men and women.

I know it's flattering and exciting, but it's not a good idea to get involved with a married man. If he is truly interested in you and no longer interested in his wife, he'll get a divorced. Keep your relationship strictly platonic, and explore other dating options.

Ask him if he'd like to come to your house (or apartment) to play cards or a board game to pass the time some day (or night!). Maybe you both could play a game on your computer, if you have such software. You could watch a DVD, video or other activity instead of a game too. Once he's in your own home environment, you'll both feel more comfortable and you can let the seduction begin. You can read How to Seduce Your Friend for ideas on the next steps to take.

Not really. Every person is different. Some people are over the top, and some people are chill.

Maybe talk to him about something that would turn you on, but if it's your first move, then don't get too crazy with what you want to say. Start slowly and follow his reactions.

You can't. If you're gay and he's straight, then it's not going to work. If you're gay and he's "curious" then there may be a possibility for some "experimentation," but don't expect anything more. Just accept that he's your straight friend and let it stay that way.

This could be sexual experimentation, or you could be attracted to men. Consider the possibility of you being bisexual. However, it is also normal to be attracted to sexual images without being attracted to that kind of sexual relationship.

The best way to find out is to tell him how you feel. If he doesn't like you, you will know.

You can't. You have to let him choose what he wants to be.

You can use the same methods. Some people might be wary of dating an amputee but you'll have no trouble finding plenty of people who would love to go out with you.

Making an observation about someone's attractiveness can be a sign, but isn't always. My mom tells me I'm a good-looking young man all the time, for example. Other signs, like whether this young man seems to enjoy your company and seek out conversation with you, should be taken into account.

Try obsering him more and watching for signs. If you still are not sure you can ask. Be very polite and ask him straight up. To be safe, consider having a good friend with you, just in case the guy is homophobic; he will be more likely to back off in that case, than attack you verbally or physically.

It's simple, sit in a nice calm place think about relationships and marriages. If the first image in your head is a handsome boy you may be homosexual.

Yes, this is possible. However, you should avoid having sex with someone for the first time when they're drunk as they're not capable of giving reliable consent.

Flirt in a "feminine" way. Act a little shy. If you're dancing, shake your butt a lot to draw a guy's attention there. Maybe you can even add a little eyeliner for a "pretty boy" look. Tell some dirty jokes that suggest what you're thinking about.

If a guy is saying he loves you, pay attention to his manner. Does he say it flippantly or does it seem important? Also, be careful! If this is a guy you don't know well take it slow and keep your distance. You don't know who he is or what he's capable of. And in my experience, when a guy says he likes or loves you he is usually just obsessed and it will fade over time.

Well it sounds like he's definitely interested. Asking him to clarify wouldn't be a bad idea, but if you don't want to address him like that, you could try just waving him over and introducing yourself.

Flirt with this guy and send him hints that you're into him. He'll get it eventually. But if he is straight he may not be willing to be seduced, and you must accept that.

You could try putting an ad on Craigslist, asking for replies from men ranging in ages from 40 to 70. Craigslist works for all ages.

You ask! Do NOT be afraid to ask, particularly if you anticipate romantic involvement.

You cannot seduce a straight person into a homosexual relationship. You can't change who he is. If you want to spend more time with him as a friend, tell him that! Just say something like, "I really have fun around you, do you think we could hang out more?"

Online dating sites or apps are good places to be open about your sexuality. Just always be careful about the information you give out in an online forum.

Yes, it's not as strange as it might seem. Many straight guys like to be penetrated by a woman using a sex toy. (And plenty of straight guys occasionally have sex with men as well.)

There's nothing wrong with wanting to do that, but unless you and your wife have an open marriage or some other sort of polyamorous arrangement, you should not actually do it.