Q&A for How to Say Hello to Your Crush (for Girls)

All you can do is put yourself out there. You don't have any control beyond that. I know that's a little scary, but you're just going to have to be okay with it if the feelings aren't reciprocal.

It kind of depends on your personal style and how comfortable you are putting yourself out there. People process and react to things differently, so you want to take the other person's style and feelings into account. If you're just flirting and he's kind of shy, it may be better to be suggestive. If he's a confident, outspoken person, you may want to be more direct.

If your confidence isn't there, build it up first. Get to know him, let him see how cool you are, and remember that you're a catch. You could try pumping yourself up by putting on your cutest outfit, psyching yourself up, or using some kind of positive affirmation.

It’s always a good bet to start with a simple, “Hi! How are you doing?” If you’re looking for an excuse to talk to them, think of a question you could ask them—for example, “Have you looked at that homework from Mr. Lee’s class yet?” If you know something about your crush’s interests, you could also text them a link or a video you think they might like. Say something like, “I saw this and thought of you!”

Ask them questions about things they’re interested in so you can get to know them. For example, “What’s your favorite movie?” or “What do you like to do for fun?” You can also ask questions about things you have in common to get a conversation going. For example, if you both take the same class together, say something like, “What did you think of that quiz yesterday?”

Take care of your hygiene so you can look, feel, and smell your best—shower, brush your hair and teeth, and put on clean, tidy clothes. Pick out clothes that you like and that make you feel confident. If you want, you can wear a little makeup, but that’s totally up to you. Stick to what you feel comfortable with and be yourself!

Try thinking of something you'd like to talk to your crush about before you go up to them, like a movie you saw last weekend or a question you want to ask them. Once you say hi, ask your question or make your comment and see where the conversation goes.

Try to think of your crush as just another person - because this is what they are! It's likely that your crush won't even notice if you slip up a little when you're talking to them, so just try to be yourself!

Sometimes people do have crushes on multiple people at once, so the best thing you can do is try to strike up a conversation with them so they can get to know you better.

There are lots of reasons your crush might ignore you when you say hi to them - either they didn't hear you, they're nervous around you, or they're just not sure what to say back. Try saying hi to your crush when they aren't around other people to see if they react differently.