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    How do you talk to your crush without being nervous?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Try focusing on your breath if you're nervous. It's a natural thing to be attracted to someone, and it's okay if it gets your adrenaline pumping. However, you can calm yourself by paying attention to something real, like your breathing.
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    What do you talk about with your crush?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Keep the conversation light and playful. You do want to be sincere, so it's okay to go a little deeper sometimes depending on the conversation, but don't throw all your feelings at them right away.
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    What should you tell your crush to make them smile?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Tell them how you feel! Don't beat around the bush—you're not stealing from the cookie jar. You don't want to throw it all out there and ask the person to marry you right away, but you can say things like, "You're easy to talk to," "You're beautiful," or "I'd love to meet up again sometime."
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    How do you get your crush to like you?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Be a great listener. As you listen to the other person, allow natural chemistry to happen between the two of you. Improvise the conversation based on what's happening between the two of you. The more they talk and express themselves, and you listen, respond, and relate to them, the more the two of you will connect. But, don't fawn over the person. When you have a crush, keep in mind that you're there to learn about that person. Don't just decide that you like them no matter what. Over time, you may discover that there are things about them that you find unattractive, so be really curious about getting to know the person.
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    What do I do if my crush and I are both shy?
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    Take the initiative--start a conversation or just say hello. It may take you both some time to get comfortable and loosen up around each other, but taking that first step is all you need. You can do it!
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    I finally talked to my crush but I'm afraid he thinks I'm weird. What should I do?
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    Try saying hello the next time you see him and if he seems responsive, make a little conversation. Don't worry--it may feel awkward at first, but once you get to know each other and start to feel less shy around him, talking will get easier. If you keep trying to make conversation and find that you don't connect, that's okay too!
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