Q&A for How to Tell if Another Woman is Bisexual

They may not necessarily be bisexual, but it's probably reasonable to assume that they may be LGBTQ+. They could just be a cisgender and heterosexual ally, but it's not a crazy assumption to make.

There is a lot of cruelty and bigotry out there towards people who are LGBTQ+. As a result, the people in these communities often play things close to the chest so to speak, since it's a way of protecting yourself from the intolerant people in the world.

Your intuition is going to improve with this over time. It can be hard at first, but as you keep meeting more and more people, you'll naturally start getting better at picking up on the hints people drop.

Unless she acts the same way with absolutely everybody, yes, she likes you.

Give her some time, she may be feeling confused. If it's been a few days and she isn't speaking to you, try approaching her and saying "I'm sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable the other night," or something like that and she'll probably give you an explanation for her behavior.

Try bringing up LGBT topics and see how she responds. If she responds positively, try flirting with her.

Give her another chance, come out again and tell her something like, "I'm being completely serious." Tell her you don't think there's anything funny about being bisexual so you're not sure why she would think it was a joke. If she's rude to you about it, find another friend.

Ask what she thinks about homosexuality. If she says something rude, then that's a sign she might insult you.

It could be, but it could also just be how she behaves with a BFF. If you're interested, try flirting with her more directly or intimately and see what happens.

Tell her that you like her as more than a friend if you want a relationship with her. Or you can just ask her if she would mind you kissing her. Make sure not to ask in a joking way as she may not understand you are serious. Don't ask her around other people as that could be intimidating.

This could go two different ways. She could have stopped touching you because she likes you and is trying to be subtle. On the other hand, she might be afraid that you will get a crush on her and it will ruin the friendship. The only way to know for sure is to talk to her about your feelings.

It's hard to say. Maybe she looks at everybody, or maybe she just wants to be your friend. You could try making eye contact with her and smiling or giving her some other encouraging sign, or striking up a conversation. If you talked to her, you could probably get a better idea of how she feels.

Try to bond with her by watching (preferably horror) movies together. Try to be alone with her and attempt to get closer to her face or put your arm around her waist. If she seems uncomfortabe, that is a sure sign she will not be interested in kissing you.

No. Bisexuality is a sexual orientation and not something that is caused by any outside circumstances. It's just something you are.

You should tell them how you feel! You never know what could happen until you try. Worst case scenario, they tell you they're not interested. Put yourself out there and let them know you like them.

Here's the thing. Some people with religious objections to being LBGT would actually dislike someone who takes that label simply for being LBGT. On the other hand, many actually care very much for people, LBGT or otherwise, but their religious convictions keep them from supporting someone "choosing" to identify that way. It's impossible for us to know which category your friend falls in, but let's assume she's in the more thoughtful camp. If so, she'll love you no matter what. This doesn't mean she'll approve of you're "choice" (as she sees it). It's up to the two of you to figure out how to handle your differing perspectives and whether your friendship can survive this disagreement.

You have to ask her. That's the only way.

Not necessarily. Some people's taste in pornography has absolutely nothing to do with what they like sexually in real life. The only way to know for sure is to ask her.

So I am going to suggest that you start by creating a VERY clear boundary regarding workplace relationships. Simply being attracted to a woman doesn't mean that you are or are not a lesbian. The reality is, these titles don't encompass everyone's feelings. If you're married to a man and you're attracted to him sexually, you're probably not a lesbian. You may be bisexual. The labels really aren't as important as people think they are and there's nothing wrong with feeling attraction for any other (adult) person, regardless of gender.

There's no way to predict how she'd react to that, but if you're going to ask her, make sure you do so in private so there's no risk of her putting on an act for other people. If you haven't told her you're bi yet, start by coming out to her and see how she responds.

Yes, of course it's okay. It is okay to like anyone of any gender. Sexuality doesn't matter, all that matters is that love is love and you can't really control who you like or how much. Just respect your friend's personal space is all but otherwise yes liking a friend is just fine.

Don't ask her directly. Try to talk about this with her and try to catch something that will show you she is bi. If you really want to tell her in the end, just say it.

It could be, but it could also just mean she's flattered by you or she thinks you're being a good friend.

You should try talking to her about it. Explain exactly how you feel about the things she's doing. It may seem awkward and uncomfortable, but if you don't address the situation it will probably just keep going.

Well, if she says she's straight, you should believe her, regardless of how she acts or what you suspect. Telling dirty jokes isn't necessarily flirting, either. Many people like to tell them with no ulterior motive other than trying to get people to laugh.

Touching her hair doesn't really mean anything, unless she only does it around you. Most of the experimenting that kids like to do doesn't really mean anything, either. If there are no bigger indicators than the things you listed, she probably only likes you as a friend.

Honesty is the best policy. If you want to know, ask.

Her body language, how she talks to you around her friends, if she touching her hair.

If you find yourself attracted to one girl, it might not mean you like all girls. You could just be curious about your sexuality, which is completely normal for people of any age. Keep spending time with her and see where it goes. The more you get to know someone you like, the easier it is to determine your feelings.

She may be. If you can ask her directly, then try to do that. Maybe ask her if she wants hang out or maybe even go out.