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Is it okay to be gay or bi at 13?

Kaitlin Crepage

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Of course it is. Some people know very early, but others come out in time.

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Is it common for preteens, say 12, to be concerned that they may be gay? This preteen says they aren't sure and are confused. Is this normal?

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Yes, absolutely. Preteen years are when many people begin getting inklings of their sexuality, and may start dating. Help your loved one find resources on what it means to be gay, bisexual, straight, etc. Let them know that it's okay to be confused and take time, and that your love for them doesn't depend on the answer they eventually find. Encourage them to experiment (which at their age usually means hand-holding in movie theaters) and take their time.

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Is it okay to tell someone that I'm gay right away?

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Sure! It's completely up to you.

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Is it safe to have gay sex without condoms?

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No, you should never have anal sex without condoms.

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I'm 15 and I'm gay. I live in Iran where homosexuality is totally illegal. I want to tell someone that I'm gay but I don't know who! I'm afraid.

Lucy Deegan

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If you know that it's illegal to be gay in the country your living in, then do not tell anyone. It could put you at risk if they told anyone else. That could be very dangerous for you. Don't risk it!

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I think my friend is gay, what should I do to support her? Also how do you know if someone is gay, I am too nervous to ask her.

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There's really no way to 'find out' if someone's gay unless you rely on stereotypes. It's perfectly fine to ask someone if they are gay, as long as you're polite. You can support your friend by being respectful, and listening when they talk, and if they face discrimination, speak up.

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Is it normal that I don't feel bad about being gay?

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Yes. Being gay is perfectly normal and you shouldn't be ashamed about it. Just as straight people don't feel bad about being straight.

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Why are people so against the LGBTQ+ community?

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No, there's nothing wrong with being a member of the LGBTQ community. There are a variety of reasons why some people are opposed to LGBTQ folks. Some people's religion prohibits it, while others simply think it's 'gross,' whereas others believe it's a 'sin,' and so on. Many people dislike things because they do not understand them. Ignore everything someone says about you, especially if they are homophobic.

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