Q&A for How to Win a Teenage Girl's Heart

You can’t make a girl fall in love with you—that feeling has to come from her! However, you can do your best to make yourself attractive to her by being kind and confident and looking your best. Give her your attention and be courteous when you’re with her, offer her sincere compliments, and show a genuine interest in who she is as a person. Earn her trust by being honest with her and respecting her boundaries. That way, she’ll have a chance to see what an awesome person you are.

Check to see if she makes eye contact, smiles at you a lot, and looks for excuses to be around you. She might flirt by teasing you in a friendly way or giving you compliments. You might also notice that she laughs a lot when she’s with you, gets close, or occasionally touches your hand or arm. The best way to know for sure how she feels is to ask her, but you can also try asking her friends if you’re feeling nervous about approaching her directly.

Be honest and reliable with her. For example, if you make a promise to her, make sure you keep it. If you make a mistake or can’t keep a promise, own up to it immediately and explain what happened. You can also gain her trust by respecting her boundaries. For instance, if she asks you not to call her at a certain time, don’t do it. Show that you trust her as well by opening up to her about your feelings and allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

You can follow these same steps for someone who's 12, as long as you're about the same age!

First, take some time to decide whether or not that's something you feel safe doing. It can also help to find someone supportive, like a friend or a school counselor, and talk to them.

Try asking her questions about the things she likes, and try to figure out what you have in common!

Everyone has a different sense of humor. If you're totally sure that she thinks this is funny and won't get her feelings hurt, then it's fine! However, it's best to avoid going overboard so you don't accidentally offend her.

Remember, you can't control what anyone else does. Focus on being confident and comfortable with yourself. If she ends up dating your friend, then that just means she wasn't the right girl for you, so put your energy into finding someone who is!

You definitely can! However, she may be a little surprised if the two of you don't know each other well. If that's the case, spend some time around her so she can get to know your personality better, then tell her how you feel.

It can be really hard to talk to your crush, and it's normal to feel a little nervous! However, try to remind yourself that if you can never talk to them, you're not likely to have a very interesting relationship, so push yourself to at least say hi!

You can't, and shouldn't, try to make anyone kiss you. However, if she seems to enjoy when you give her attention and the two of you enjoy spending time together, she may be open to kissing you when the time is right.

Unfortunately, it can be complicated when the person you like has feelings for another person. If she isn't quite over her last crush, it might be best to give her a little space to sort out what she really wants.

Just be yourself, and try to stay calm and confident when she's around. If she doesn't like you for who you are, find someone who will!