What Kind of Reality Check Do I Need?

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We all have blind spots, especially when it comes to the ways we treat others (and ourselves). Unfortunately, it can be pretty tough to take a really objective look at what your own weak points are.

We’re here to help. Hit “Start Quiz” to rip off the Band-aid and see what your blind spots really are. Keep in mind, though—this quiz is just for fun!

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1. Pick a sea creature:
  1. Sea turtle
  2. Dolphin
  3. Crab
  4. Cuttlefish
2. Would you redo the past 10 years of your life if you were given the chance?
  1. Yes, without hesitation.
  2. Maybe—that doesn’t sound so bad.
  3. I’d have to think about it. It could be a great chance to help others more!
  4. No. That sounds like way too much work.
3. Which of the seven deadly sins do you most relate to?
  1. Wrath or greed
  2. Sloth
  3. Lust or gluttony
  4. Pride or envy
4. Which of these holidays do you like the most?
  1. Valentine’s Day
  2. St. Patrick’s Day
  3. April Fool’s Day
  4. Labor Day
5. Which unflattering yearbook superlative are you winning?
  1. Most Likely to Win the Lottery after Going Broke
  2. Most Likely to Waste Money on a Yacht
  3. Most Likely to Be Forgotten
  4. Most Likely to Take Their Parking Ticket to Court
6. Your boss just gave you 0. What are you doing with the money?
  1. Treating myself to something super nice. I deserve it!
  2. Nothing. I’ll probably just save it.
  3. Ask if they’re sure. I feel guilty taking it!
  4. Ask for a little bit more.
7. Choose a foreign word that doesn’t have an exact English translation:
  1. Schadenfreude: taking pleasure from others’ misery
  2. Fernweh: a feeling of longing or nostalgia for somewhere you’ve never visited
  3. Tsundoku: buying several books and then never reading them
  4. Greng jai: A deep sense of thoughtfulness and consideration for another person’s feelings
8. What are your plans for the weekend?
  1. Helping out my friend with a project.
  2. Forcing my friends to see a movie with me.
  3. Taking a nap and lounging around.
  4. Waiting in dread as Monday quickly approaches.
9. Which of the four elements do you resonate with the most?
  1. Water
  2. Earth
  3. Fire
  4. Air
10. Why did you steal a cookie from the cookie jar?
  1. It was there.
  2. I deserved it.
  3. I was stealing it for a friend.
  4. I was hoping no one would notice.
11. You’re not going to school today. What’s your excuse?
  1. My brain is all over the place today.
  2. I just don’t feel like it.
  3. I’m helping my parent/guardian with something important.
  4. I dunno. I’ll make something up the morning of.
12. Time for a self-roast! Which pair of words best describes you?
  1. Overwhelmed and exploited.
  2. Insecure and rash.
  3. Unmotivated and apathetic.
  4. Self-centered and anxious.

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Tips & Tricks to Be Your Best Self

With each new day comes a new chance to learn, grow, and become the very best version of yourself. While everyone’s life journey is a little different, here are a few tips that can help just about anyone put their best foot forward in the future.

  • Practice mindful meditation . Mindful meditation is all about focusing on the present moment with a clear and carefree mind. Take a few minutes each day to focus on the immediate moment, like how you’re breathing and what you’re sensing. Just a little bit of mindfulness can go a long way in how you think and feel!
  • Practice self reflection . Each day, take a little bit of time to better understand yourself by asking open-ended questions, like What made me happy today? or What could I have done better? Let your mind wander as you reflect on these questions and search for the answers.
  • Adopt a growth mindset . It can be tough living up to your potential when you don’t think that it’s possible to change or improve—this is known as a “fixed” mindset. Adopting a growth mindset is all about believing in your ability to grow and improve, even if those changes don’t happen all at once.
  • Practice gratitude daily. Set aside a little bit of time each day to really think about what you’re thankful for—it might be a roof over your head, or a friendly interaction you had with someone at the store. To really get in the habit of practicing gratitude, try keeping a journal where you jot down a few good things that you noticed/experienced throughout the day.
  • Hone your reappraisal skills. Reappraisal revolves around looking at negative situations and scenarios in ways that are a little more positive. For instance, instead of thinking I can’t believe I did so poorly on that test , you might think Now I know where my weak spots are so I can study more effectively next time.
  • Do at least 1 act of kindness every day. Doing something nice for someone else won’t just make them feel happy—it’ll make you feel happy, too! Look for opportunities to make someone’s life just a little bit easier, whether that’s holding a door for a stranger or spotting your friend for coffee.
  • Take a break from social media . Let’s face it: while social media can be a helpful way to stay connected, it makes it all too easy to compare yourself with others. Give yourself a break by logging out of your socials for a couple of days (or even deleting the apps from your phone).
  • Practice self-care . Self-care centers on activities that help boost your health overall. Simple things, like getting 30 minutes of daily exercise, drinking water , getting enough sleep , and taking time to relax each day are all important ways to stay healthy and be your best self.

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