How to Request No Gifts at a Birthday Party

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Requesting no gifts at a birthday party is a popular option if you don't want more clutter, would like to help the environment, or would rather people spend their money on something else. Ask birthday party guests not to bring gifts clearly in the invitation, but don't be surprised if a guest does end up bringing one—sometimes people feel uncomfortable showing up to a party empty-handed. There are lots of alternatives to regular birthday gifts that you can suggest for your guests that are cost-efficient and environmentally friendly.

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Wording the Invitation

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    It’s important to make this request using clear, concise language so there’s no confusion. You might write a simple, “No gifts, please!” on the invitation or say, “Your presence is the perfect gift, please no things!” [1]
    • Another way to phrase this is by saying, “Please no gifts, your presence is the gift!”
    • If you want to give a reason for not wanting gifts, you might say, “Our house is already overflowing with items, so please no gifts!”
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    If you want guests to donate to an organization or bring something specific with them instead of a regular birthday gift, make this clear on the invitation. Put the link to a donation page on the invitation to make donating easy and be as specific as possible when nicely telling people what is okay to bring.
    • For example, you might write, “Instead of birthday gifts this year, please bring a canned food item with you to be donated.”
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    If you’re worried about guests feeling obligated to bring a gift even though you’ve asked that they don’t, make it clear you’d really like them to respect your request. You might create an invitation that says, “No gifts, please!” followed by “Any birthday presents received will be donated to a local charity,” or something similar. [2]
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    Even if you ask guests not to bring gifts on your party invitation, a few of them may still bring one anyways. If you or the birthday recipient is given a gift, just say “thank you” and place the gift to the side to be opened later. [3]
    • Many people feel awkward showing up to a birthday party without bringing a present, so they may bring a little something no matter what.
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Offering Gift Alternatives for Guests

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    This could be something like a local nonprofit or an animal shelter. Choose a charity that’s important to you or the birthday honoree and ask that guests donate any amount they feel comfortable with to the charity instead of bringing a gift. You can even post a link to a charity on Facebook to make donating super easy. [4]
    • Provide guests with the website or direct link to donate to the chosen charity.
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    Ask each guest to wrap up a new or used book and place them in a pile once they arrive at the party. Each person can choose a different book from the one they brought from the pile, letting them bring home a party favor. [5]
    • If you’d rather let everyone choose the book they bring home, ask guests not to wrap each book.
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    This is a great way to make sure everyone leaves with a party favor while also providing entertainment. Set a limit on how much each person should spend on the gift so that the items are roughly the same value and no one feels pressure to purchase something expensive. [6]
    • For example, you might ask each guest to bring a gift that’s $5 or less to participate in a gift exchange.
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    If there’s a specific thing that you or the guest of honor wants for their birthday, ask guests to donate a small amount to this one specific gift. This might be a new bike, a small vacation, or a concert ticket. [7]
    • Have guests pitch in whatever amount of money they’re comfortable with.
    • You might collect the money at the party in envelopes or create a page online to collect donations.
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    This is a great way to support a local food bank or similar nonprofit while also helping guests feel like they’re not showing up to the party empty-handed. Ask guests to bring a canned food item or other non-perishables to the party to be donated to a local charity or organization. [8]
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    This is a great sentimental gift that will mean a lot to the person whose birthday it is. Encourage guests to write a letter sharing things like memories they have with the birthday honoree or advice they might have for the future. [9]
    • Gather the notes or letters together at the beginning of the party to put them into one book that could be read by everyone.
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    This is a great way to provide food at the party, similar to a potluck. Ask each guest to bring a small food dish, side item, or even an ingredient that will be used or shared at the party. [10]
    • For example, you might have a pizza party where each guest brings a pizza ingredient, or you could plan to make ice cream sundaes at the party and ask each guest to bring their favorite topping.
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      2. ↑ https://www.metroparent.com/daily/food-home/kids-party-planning/no-fewer-gift-ideas-kids-parties/#
      3. ↑ https://www.theminimalistmom.com/fewerbirthdaygifts/
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