How to Show a Woman You're Attracted to Her

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Showing a woman you like her can be as easy as looking her way. However, you also need to show interest in her in other ways, such as talking with her and laughing with her. If you know her fairly well, you may also bring her small gifts or show you're interested in what she likes. The best place to start, though, is with body language. In this article, you'll learn how to use your body language and communication skills to show a woman you like her, as well as how to show a woman you know personally that you like her.

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Using Body Language

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    Smile at her. [1] Smiling is one of the body language signals that shows you're open to another person. Also, a smile makes you seem like a happier person, while at the same time increasing your happiness. In turn, that shows the woman you are glad to see her. [2]
    • Smile a big, genuine smile to show that your attracted to a woman. Showing your teeth or making sure it reaches your eyes can make it seem more genuine.
    • A smile also acts as a reward, meaning when you smile at someone, they're brain registers it as a reward, making them happier. Therefore, they come to associate happiness with you.
    • You can even flash a smile from across the room to show you're interested in someone.
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    Untangle yourself. You may not even notice that you're crossing your arms and legs. For many people, it's natural to cross one or the other. However, for open body language, you should uncross your arms and legs, as that signals to the woman that you're open to her. [3]
    • Crossing your arms and legs comes off as a defensive pose even if you're not feeling defensive at the moment.
    • It says, "Hey! I don't want to talk to you. Go away!"
    • It can also help to turn your body towards her instead of away from her.
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  3. Looking down at your shoes or lap doesn't draw people to you. Plus, it indicates a lack of confidence. Make sure you are looking up at the person, so that you show you are interested in her. [4] Gazing into her eyes is a good way to start. [5]
    • Combining a smile with gazing in someone's eyes, even from the other side of the room, can be an effective way to say you like a woman.
    • However, you should stare at her. Keep your glance across the room to a couple of seconds. If you're talking to a person, though, looking into her eyes throughout the conversation can let her know you are interested.
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    Show your best self. Often, when you're trying to show attraction to a woman, part of your nonverbal body language is a bit of preening. For example, you may want to stand up straighter or pull your stomach in. You may also touch your hair or your clothing. [6]
    • Mostly, you'll do these actions without even thinking about them. However, they can show your attraction without you realizing it.
    • You also want to exude confidence. Stand up straight, look the person in the eye, and talk in a confident tone of voice when speaking.
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    Lean towards her. [7] When talking to a woman you like, one way you can show attraction is to lean towards her. It subtly indicates that you like the woman you're talking to, so as you lean, she'll feel your attraction. However, if she pulls back or tries to walk away, let her. You don't want to invade her personal space without her permission. [8]
    • Don't try to corner a woman in a private setting, such as an elevator, especially if you don't know her at all. That can seem threatening. Stick to using this technique when you're in a crowded area.
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    Use touch. Of course, you don't want to grab someone and kiss them without their permission. However, casual touching in a conversation can help create intimacy. For example, touching her arm or shoulder when you are talking to her can let her know that you like her. [9]
    • You could touch her shoulder as you compliment her sweater, as another example, such as "This sweater looks nice on you."
    • If she pulls back from your touch, don't try to do it again.
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    Tilt your head. When you tilt your head, you show you're engaged in the conversation and that you care about what's going on. It tells the other person that you're listening intently because you're inclining an ear towards them, which in turn shows your attraction. [10]
    • The opposite of engagement is looking around the room. If you're looking around, you're saying you don't care about the person you're talking to.
    • Instead of looking around, gaze into the person eyes, as that indicates you like her.
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Talking to Her

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    Get the conversation going. It can be hard to get the conversation going with someone you don't know, especially if you find the person attractive. Your attraction can make you a little tongue-tied and shy, but don't worry, you don't have to use a super cheesy pickup line to get her attention. Simpler tactics can be more effective, as long as they get you talking to her. [11]
    • For example, asking her a question can help get the conversation going. It can be something as simple as, "How do you like this warm weather?" or "Isn't this coffee amazing?" This tactic can work even better if you get the person to evaluate themselves instead of you, such as "Is that a designer bag you have?"
    • Ask them to do something for you, such as pass a napkin or move her bag. Asking her a favor will actually endear her towards you and can help get a conversation going.
    • Don't forget to introduce yourself and ask the person's name.
  2. If you say hello and then walk away, that doesn't show much interest. However, if you keep the conversation going, especially if you are getting her to talk about herself, you show you are interested in her and what she has to say. [12]
    • Make sure that you ask some open-ended questions to keep the conversation going. For example, you can ask her questions about herself, such as "What do you do for a living?" or "What do you like to do for fun?"
    • As you listen to her, try to find common interests, so that when there's a lull, you can bring up something about yourself that you have in common with her.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 338 wikiHow readers how they prefer to get to know a girl, and 62% of them agreed that the best conversation topics are hobbies, interests, and extracurriculars. [Take Poll]
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    Compliment her. [13] A genuine compliment goes a long way in showing her that you are attracted to her. The emphasis is on genuine . Therefore, as you're talking to her, notice something unique about her that you like, such as her beautiful green eyes or her witty banter.
    • For example, you could say, "You know, you have really engaging eyes. They are such a beautiful green."
    • You could also say, "You're so witty!"
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    Repeat her name. Once you know her name, try using it conversation. You don't want to overuse it, but saying it once or twice can help create a sense of intimacy. It shows that you cared enough to remember it. Plus, people like hearing the sound of their own names. [14]
    • For example, you could say, "Nice to meet you, Jessica." or "What do you think about this weather, Jessica?"
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    Laugh with her when she says something funny. If she tells a joke, be sure to laugh at it. You don't want to go overboard. Laughing too much can come off as trying too hard. However, giving her a laugh when you know she is cracking a joke can endear you towards her and let her know you find her attractive, especially if you both know the joke wasn't that funny. [15]
    • If she seems too nervous to crack a joke, crack one yourself. You could poke fun at yourself, such as saying, "Giants cause all kinds of trouble. That's why people get their pitchforks when we're around," if you're tall and accidentally knock over a chair.
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    Be attentive. [16] Being attentive to her needs will let her know that you care about her. Anticipating her needs will wow her, along with showing her that you care about her enough to figure out what she wants and needs before she asks for it. [17]
    • For example, if you notice her drink is empty, ask if she'd like another. If you notice she's getting antsy standing up, ask her if she wants to find a table to sit down and chat.
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Showing You're Attracted to a Woman You Know

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    Show interest in the woman. That is, be sure to talk to the person every time you see them, even if she only has time for a "Hello!" If you have more time, ask how she's doing, and be sure to show genuine interest in how she responds. Try to remember little details about her that you can slip into the next conversation.
    • For example, if she says, "Just okay," dig a little deeper. You could say, "Just okay? That doesn't sound too great. Want to tell me about it?"
    • If she mentions her dog is sick in one conversation, ask her about the dog the next time you see her. Just a simple, "Is your dog doing better?" is all you need.
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    Stay in contact. If you can, find the person on Facebook. You don't want to seem like you're stalking her, but if you've seen her more more than a couple of times and had genuine conversations with her, most women will be receptive to a friend request.
    • Once she accepts, try to make the occasional casual comment on her wall. Keep it light and borderline flirty. For instance, if she updates her profile picture, you could say, "Cute picture!"
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    Give her a nickname. Create a nickname that is for her and only her. Don't use it much when other people are around. You don't want other people to start using it. It should be one only you use. Creating a private nickname helps create a sense of intimacy between the two of you. Just make sure it isn't a name she hates. [18]
    • This approach will probably work better with a woman you know pretty well. Giving someone you've met twice a nickname may come off as creepy.
  4. You don't want to do something too elaborate, as that may turn her off. However, bringing her a small gift just because or because it's her birthday can send the message that you think of her as someone special, not just another woman.
    • For example, bring her a small bouquet of flowers on her birthday, or grab her a coffee when you're getting yours.
    • In the same vein, once she tells you her birthday, remember it, and always acknowledge it.
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    Create a running joke. Laughter is one of the great social connectors, and if you share a running joke that's just between the two of you, it can create a sense of intimacy and togetherness. Try playing off of something you both see all the time or a mistake you made to poke fun at yourself. [19]
    • For example, maybe you slipped up one time and asked her if she wanted her coffee purple instead of black. Now, every time you bring her coffee, you could say, "I've got your purple coffee right here."
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    Show support for her interests. Everyone likes having support for the things they do, so if she mentions something she's doing soon, show your support for it. Giving attention to what she likes will help show her that you care about her and what she does. [20]
    • For example, say she mentions that she enjoys poetry and often reads at an open mic. Tell her you'd like to come hear her sometime, and then show up. That shows that you have a genuine interest in what she does because you've backed up your talk with an action.
    • Let her borrow something she's mentioned. If she's brought up something she'd like to read or watch, let her borrow it. Don't even say you'll do it. Just show up with it sometime when you know you'll see her. She'll appreciate your thoughtfulness, and she'll likely notice you're giving her special attention. You could say, "You mentioned this book the other day, so I thought you might like to borrow it."
    • Offer her an "extra" ticket. If you want to ask her on a date without really asking her, you can offer her an "extra" ticket that you specifically bought for her to a fun event, like an art gallery gala. Inviting her to an event shows you enjoy her company. [21]
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    Get her opinion. When you're trying to make a decision, ask for her opinion on it. Doing so will help her see that you value her and what she thinks, and then when you follow her it advice, it will make her feel good about herself and being around you. [22]
    • For example, say you want to paint your bedroom. Ask her what she thinks a good color would be.
    • If you commit to that color, show her a picture later or invite her over to see your remodel.
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    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    As you're talking with her, lean in and make eye contact. Try to mirror her body language to show that you're interested in her.
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      There are many simple ways to show a woman you’re attracted to her. Hold her gaze and smile for a couple seconds before looking away. When you talk to her, keep your arms uncrossed and face her with your body so you seem friendly. To show you're intersted in her, ask plenty of open-eneded questions, which will also keep the conversation flowing. Don’t be afraid to talk about yourself or tell a funny story, but always direct the conversation back to her. You should also compliment her from time to time. For example, say, “I love your laugh,” or “You’re such an interesting person.” The more hints you drop, the more obvious it’ll be that you’re interested in her. For more tips from our co-author, including how to stay in touch with a woman you like, read on!

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