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Mean girl bullying tends to be conducted behind the scenes, out of sight from teachers and parents, and often consists of social torment and ostracization. This behavior can be extremely damaging for those on the receiving end, but it is possible to defend against it. This article will help you learn what to do when you encounter mean girls to protect yourself and shut them down.
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- Don't show them that what they do affects you, just let it roll of your back because if you do it will show them that they are succeeding and getting to you.Thanks
- Don't let it get to you, pretend that you don't notice her.Thanks
- Remember: all the bullies want is a reaction, so don't give them one.Thanks
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- If a girl bullies you, make eye contact and do not say anything. Do not even smile. Just stand there and watch her reaction. When she realizes she cannot get one from you then she'll move onto something else.
- If you're worried about consequences, write down everything the bully has said or done over a long period. Then, send an anonymous copy to an adult and have them deal with it.
- Interrupt a bully by asking her a tough question. It'll make her stop and think, and if she can't come up with an answer she'll be embarrassed in front of everyone.
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Warnings
- If she acts innocent around your boss or a teacher, DON'T FALL FOR THIS STUFF! She is just using them, she only thinks about herself, don't think she'll be miss prissy sunshine when the teacher leaves; she will more than likely be the same jerk as always. Bring it up with your boss/teacher and they will most likely believe you and not be surprised, this is a very common thing. However, this doesn't work with all teachers, so just be careful. If you feel that a teacher has a thing against you or so, don't tell them otherwise they'll think that you're lying and believe the bully. If your bully has been at your school since Jurassic times unlike you, this is another turning point. If you don't really have any supporters (ie. you just sit around with random people silently) then that's a bad move too.Thanks
- Don't fall silent; don't push it away as if it's nothing. Your respect is worth fighting for! Fight for it!Thanks
- Mean Girls (Like most vicious animals) Prey on the weak (AKA. those who don't get much attention) And like stealing others best-friends too have a bigger entourage while ruining someone’s life.Thanks
- Mean girl bullies are also known to be gossips, and they tend to spread nasty lies and rumors about the outcast. Just ignore it! Again, she just craves attention.Thanks
- Mean girls also like to seem innocent to others, don't let it fool you. If at least five or more people tell you that she's a mean, bully, and have a good reason to...then they're probably right. Stay clear of that person and don't fall for their false charm, they will only use you in the end.Thanks
- NEVER do something you'll regret.Thanks
- If the mean girl is at your school and is a popular person, they will have a lot of supporters if you try and fight back, and if you do anything you will have more people against you along with the original bully, who will hate you even more.Thanks
- Mean girls are mean and the best thing to do is ignore them.Thanks
- NEVER bring violence into the picture unless it is to protect yourself from her physically fighting you.Thanks
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References
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/kids/bullies.html
- ↑ https://www.stompoutbullying.org/get-help/about-bullying-and-cyberbullying/are-you-being-bullied
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/kids/bullies.html
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-couch/201702/6-smarter-ways-deal-bully
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-couch/201702/6-smarter-ways-deal-bully
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