Find common ground Get to know her through your shared interests (e.g., a book she’s reading, a class you have together, activities you both enjoy). “Hey, I saw you reading one of the Mistborn books, I’m almost done with the series—what do you think of it so far?” “Hey, I’m Brandon, from your 3rd period English class. What did you think of that poem we read in class today?” “Hey, my name is Karl, I saw you kicking a ball around on the field the other day. What position do you play?” Ask questions about her life This will show her that you’re curious to know more about who she is and her interests. “Do you have any pets at home?” “What’s your favorite type of music?” “What kind of movies are you into?” Compliment her Give her an (appropriate) compliment on her appearance and/or personality. “You have a great laugh!” “I like your jacket today, blue really makes your eyes pop.” “You’re super creative, I’d like to see more of your paintings!” Be honest about yourself Be sincere about your hobbies, interests, and accomplishments. Don’t make things up just to impress her or find things in common. “This might seem nerdy to most people, but I have a huge collection of action figures.” “I’m not super into classic poetry, but I love going to slam competitions.” “I’m great with words and won the regional spelling bee last year.” Ask her to a group event If you’re not ready to ask her on a one-on-one date, ask her to join you and your group of friends to hang out. This will lay the groundwork for a deeper connection by giving her an idea of who you are and the types of people you hang out with. “So my friends and I are having a game night this weekend if you’d like to join?” “A friend of mine holds group painting nights at his house on Fridays. Interested in joining?” “Would you like to play soccer in the park with me and some friends after school tomorrow?”