Start the conversation lightly at a time when food isn’t present. “Hey, can we talk for a second?” Tell them what you’re worried about without blaming them. “I’ve noticed you haven’t been eating much over the last few months and I’m starting to get worried about you.” “I’ve noticed you skipping meals pretty frequently and not taking lunch to school. I’m worried and wanted to check in with you about it.” Expect them to be angry or defensive. “I know this might be hard to hear. But I wanted to bring it up because I love you and I’m worried about you.” “I don’t want to make you angry, but I think this is something we need to talk about.” “I’m not going to leave right now. I really think we need to talk about this.” Ask them how they feel, and listen. “I want to understand what you’re feeling. Can you try to explain it to me?” “Can you try to describe it to me from your point of view? I’m here to listen.” Tell them that you support them, no matter what. “I might not understand, but if you need to talk to someone, I’ll help as much as I can.” “I love you and I’m here to help you with whatever you need. You’re not alone in this.”