Hey everyone! Edit: This is the new heartache thread, the original one unfortunately is stuck on the 11th page of General chat and everyone was having problems getting to it. If you are feeling sad in anyway, stressed out from daily life or any other reason. Come and visit and we can talk about it and give you a hand
I’m moving this to General Chat, since the Village Pump is meant for wikiHow related threads.
Finally this has returned! I have been waiting for this… but what shall I talk about? I vaguely remember this :(
je suis a la recherche d’une femme blance je peu avoir une
Wow c’est grossier s’il vous plaît déplacer votre flirt pour un site de média social
wow that is rude please move your flirting to a social media site
I dont know what language you speak sorry.
I speak English, but I use google translate
well I just feel unpopular and like I have no friends, I really dont know where I belong please help me
^I wish I could help, but not only am I in the same boat, but I have set up camp and built a small cabin on this boat. Want to come over and roast s’mores?
Lexys
9
Je parle un peu Français. Je suis desole, mais ceci n’est pas un site de rencontres. Mais je pense que tu es simplement un troll.
Don’t know if you’d even consider it, but I was feeling in the pit and started going to church. Most folks are always glad to see a fresh face and are very kind and helpful. The Pastor is always a good resource. The Pastors, “Shepard their flock” and care for them.
I found it helpful, anyway. Just a thought.
system
11
I am a loner, no one understands me… I am an American living in England but where I live is full of European folks who hate everyone else, including the English. I cannot join church, I am an atheist and religion will just make things worse, besides no church in town would accept me in…except one but it comes at a hefty price (not just money wise). I am a forgotten soul, lonely and misunderstood… nothing can help me now
So I am a recent high school graduate and I am glad about that. I have started college about a week ago and am student working for my college. (My first day of college was actually before my last day of high school.) Anyhow this is my problem: I have feelings for the man who had been one of my teachers last year, my junior year. I didn’t realize my feelings for him at first actually I had wanted to set him up with my older sister. As time went on through the school year I realized I didn’t want to set him up with my sister and that the thought of that made me jealous. That’s when I realized I liked him. Not for his looks, or because he was older, or that I didn’t want him to be with my sister. I just liked who he was and the personality and attitude he came with. I had talked to a few people about him but, I don’t think they really took me serious. So I just dealt with and kept my behavior normal. Let it be known that I haven’t really dated anyone so that is another annoying add on. Alas my junior year ended and it was summer break. I kinda thought I would get over it. I was wrong. I thought about him a lot of the summer. When the next school year came around I got nervous. I didn’t want him to find out and think differently of me. I didn’t want anyone to think differently of me. I know that you "shouldn’t worry about what people think’ and “do what makes you happy” but, I am human and I care about that kind of thing. I know for fact that student teacher relationships are consistently laughed at and frowned upon in society. I didn’t want to do that to either of us. I espically didn’t want to get him in trouble or worse, fired. So there I was at the beginning of my senior year of high school trying to not be obvious around him and others. My group of friends found out slowly and they surprisingly were very supportive of me. Some of them had also had him as a teacher and we cool with him too. So pretty much everyday we would go and hang out with in his classroom towards the end of lunch. Later on when began eating lunch in the room but, that was because of teenage drama and no one wanted to sit downstairs in the cafeteria with some people. Anyway, as the year progressed I am sure I was obvious and that he could tell, though I have no idea when he realized. As far as being able to talk about him to someone I would talk to my somewhat best friend, John. He listened to a lot of my problems and we give each other advice about life, dating, whatever. Well John thought that at the end of the year I should confess my feelings. “If you never ask the answer is always no.” The end of the year came and I said nothing. The last week of school came and I said nothing. The last day of school came and I said nothing, I pretty much didn’t talk to people the majority of that day because I was so unsure about telling him. I wanted to because I wanted him to know and I wanted to know if he reciprocated. I didn’t want to tell him because I was afraid, and not of rejection, but of him possibly looking at me differently. I know that really didn’t have to be a big deal because I wasn’t going to see him again but it was. So there was about a week off between graduation and the last day of school. In that week the high school had finals but I was exempt so I started college and began taking a summer class. Then the Friday night before graduation I sent him a friend request on Facebook and he accepted. The next day was graduation and the seniors had practice for it that morning and of course he was there because he was a marshall. Nothing was said and I was okay with that if I was going to say anything it was going to be that night after the ceremony. The night went on and after everyone threw their caps and blah blah blah I found him. We had talked for a few and he kind kept staring like he was waiting for me to say something. And I didn’t because there were people around and yeah… Then my mom and sisters pranced up and then he looked like he had wanted to say something and it didn’t get to happen. We did get a picture together though. Now it has been almost a week since my graduation and I want to tell him but I still don’t know how and don’t have the right words. I don’t even have to have a romantic relationship with him, I am okay with friendship. I just know that having him in my life will make me that much happier and that he affects me in a good way. I don’t want to lose him. What do I do?
Marina
13
Message him on facebook? “Hey, how are you? I really enjoyed being in your classes. Have plans for the summer? :)”
As Marina said, you could just send him a message. If he seems interested in talking to you, then you could tell him that you always thought that he was cool or something and see if he thinks the same of you.
As far as age and it being “legal” there isn’t really a problem. I am of age and I’m not part of that school district anymore so that code of conduct doesn’t apply to me. Thanks for listening guys
@WarriorOfEden
I don’t know anything about student-teacher relationships, but since they are no longer his student anyway, I’m not sure not that the whole code of conduct thing matters, I could be wrong though. If they are of college age in America, then I think that they are old enough to have a romantic relationship with someone a bit older than them.
Marina
17
I’m very sorry about your friend. That’s horrible what happened to her. But ultimately it’s the result of an abusive relationship, the fact that he was older and a former teacher is very sad, but this happens at any and all ages. I go to a support group for rape victims since I suffered a rape in my adolescence, and I hear stories of controlling relationships degenerating into abusive, and finally physically abusive and rape all the time. It breaks my heart. But I also hear of people who’s mother is 52 and their father is 64, or even wider gaps and the marriage going happily. We don’t know just how old this guy is. If the girl is cautious about her approach and his (which you probably should be at any age) it’s totally fine. Any kind of relationship is going to come with risks, and that’s sick and wrong…But true. I have my own opinions of what a fair gap is and you have yours, and the op probably has hers. If she feels that the guy is safe and she is mature in approaching him, then it’s fine. However, I agree that caution is appropriate.
@WarriorOfEden
True dat true dat… lol Anyway, yes. Caution is definitely key.
@WarriorOfEden
I am sorry about your friend, that is truly terrible. As far as the age he’s 9 years older. I appreciate the advice and understand where you are coming from. And as far as telling him anything I haven’t, for those who are curious. I have been trying to approach this situation with caution, that is part of why I came here to ask advice. Thanks for all the inputs.
