Hi, here’s the thing I need some help. I’m becoming more and more distant from my cousin and it’s becoming a real problem for me. A few years ago, my cousin and I were really close; we were almost inseparable, but for some reason we’re drifting apart. I suddenly don’t know what we have in common or much about her, and it’s becoming a little awkward. I’m 16 and she’s 15, and I’m not sure if it’s a teen thing or because we only see each other about 5 times a year, but I really want to connect and be a part of her life again. Thanks in advance for your advice:)
system
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This is natural… sometimes when a friendship gets older it begins to drift as you said but there is a way to fix this. Friendship is like a tree, you plant it and it grows as you begin to bond with a friend, the more you bond, the taller it gets. The branches of the tree are for other friends, reaching out in the sunlight, sometimes flowers will bloom on the tree which represents a new found love
But you need to care for this tree, love and nature it so it keeps growing and stays strong even in the strongest of storms. So you need to continue talking to her, get to know her new goals, pleasures and talents, make her happy and in return she will make you happy
Thank you so much, I think trying to connect with her new goals and interests will help to make the tree taller and make things easier for me. And also making her laugh, and happy as you said, will help to secure our relationship. Thanks:)
Hibou8
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Facetime and skype are fantastic. My cousins and I used to FT almost every Saturday. You can just sit at the “same” table and do homework, play games (most board games don’t even require much modification to be FT-friendly), screen share and play video games, etc. It’s a great way to stay in touch when you don’t see each other often.
I hadn’t thought of doing that. I think that will really help, talking to each other on a regular basis. It will give us a chance to re-connect and really get to now each other’s interests. Thank you:)
Hey! Most of my cousins live far away (half way around the world!). I email them a lot, Skype, phone them, and even writing letters. Those are all great things to help keep in touch.
