Hi everyone! Just wanted to let this feeling out since my friends are so sick of listening to me anymore. My exbf broke up with me after a 2years relationship. I really wanted him back even. To cut the long story short, I visited him in Norway after a year of being in a long distance. (he works in an oil and gas industry and often times tranfer to other assignment every year or so). He paid for all the expenses in that trip. But when I arrived there, I got so overwhelmed with the weather because it was winter that time. Especially being someone who used to live in a tropical country. I complained a lot and got extremely confrontational. I did not want to go out. I easily get pissed off in everything. I was completely a different person. As a result we fought everyday. He was unhappy and so do I. But he still made his efforts to please me but Im just really not comfortable with everything. I went back to my hometown after a month of everday quarrel with him. After a day that I arrived home, he just broke up with me and questioned my love for him. I realized everything that I did to him. I know it was all my fault. I do love this man so much. But the thing is, he doesn’t listen to my explanations anymore. He just totally lost his hopes for us. I have been hoping that he would take me back…but what can else can I do?? He is too far away. But I know that he still loves me. I told him that when I have the means to visit him, i’ll visit him wherever he will be by that time. He even agrees to it. What do u think should I do? I really love this man with all my heart. Thanks in advance Chie
Wrote on wrong thread sorry!
Jlynn1
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I really feel that subconsciously you fear intimate relationships & this is why were so unhappy when you visited your boyfriend. Without realizing it, you complained about every aspect of the trip to avoid any emotional connection with him. Maybe you are afraid of being hurt, or possibly you don’t love yourself for some reason. I believe that you do love him, but you have to be happy & comfortable within your own heart to be free & able to love someone else, & enjoy a healthy relationship. In my opinion, you need to be on your own at this time, examine your behaviors, & emotions, learn to be ok with you, & then invite someone to share your life! I write this to you, my friend, with all respect. Good luck to you!
