Q&A for How to Know Your Sexuality

Absolutely—it's definitely okay to be confused about your sexuality. In general, sexuality is very fluid and not always black and white. It's okay to not have a direct answer for what your sexuality is, and it's also okay to explore! See if you're ready to take that next step and see how you feel within that situation. If the experience doesn't feel right to you, you'll at least have a little more clarity.

If you don't feel attraction, you could be aromantic, asexual, or both! It's also okay to not be sure what you are. If you still don't know, you could just use the label "queer" or go unlabeled.

You might be bi-romantic. It’s the same as bisexual but with the asexual label as well. You can want to have sex with a woman even with this title and just not have sex with a man.

You could be minsexual, androsexual, or heteroflexible/homoflexible. Look at labels to find one that fits you if you like!

Yes, of course! While you could see yourself with someone one the same gender as you, you don't have to want a relationship like that in the present.

You could be toric or uranic. You could also label yourself as bisexual if you want a less specific label, because bisexual doesn't necessarily mean men and women, it just means attracted to two or more genders!

You could possibly be an asexual person that experiences only romantic attraction to men.

You can have multiple different labels, many people do! You can figure out your orientation at any time, and your orientation and labels can change over time.

You could be abrosexual! Abrosexual is when your sexuality changes sometimes. You could also look into the SAM (split attraction model) if you're, say, romantically attracted to men but sexually attracted to women.

If you aren't interested in having sex with anyone, you could be asexual or on the asexual spectrum. I suggest looking into different labels to find one that fits you.

If you feel attraction but don't want a relationship, you could be orchidsexual or orchidromantic. These are when you feel romantic/sexual attraction, but you don't want a relationship.

From your description, it sounds like you could look into labels like asexual, graysexual, and hetero/homoflexible. It also sounds like you could be transmasculine or nonbinary. Look into different labels if you want, or you can just be unlabeled!

Yes, you can identify with both terms. Being specific in describing your identity is great, and the queer spectrum is broad.

You can observe your preferences with different genders, research various terms, and take quizzes. Look into what LGBT+ stands for to understand more. Remember, it's okay to change labels, and you can even have more than one at the same time since there are no strict rules.

You can explore different labels under the bisexual umbrella, such as pansexual, omnisexual, heteroflexible, or homoflexible. You can also stick with bisexual.

Bisexuality involves attraction to two or more genders, while pansexuality involves equal attraction to all genders. Bisexual is an umbrella term that includes pansexual, omnisexual, and polysexual individuals. Explore different terms to find one that resonates with you, or choose to remain unlabeled if that feels right.

You might be bisexual or omnisexual. Bisexual doesn't necessarily mean only two genders. If you're attracted to all genders but have a preference, you might also identify as omnisexual.

Being aroace means not feeling sexual or romantic attraction to anyone. You might identify as grayaroace or demiaroace, among other possibilities. I suggest exploring a-spec and other sexuality labels to find one that fits you.

You can be sexually and romantically attracted to different genders (for example, biromantic homosexual). It's also normal to have a different type for different genders.

You could be graysexual, demisexual, or ace-spike. Explore labels under the asexual spectrum, or consider going unlabeled if that feels more comfortable.

You could be on the asexual or aromantic spectrum. If you aren't interested in dating someone, you should let them know that you aren't interested. You could also be cupioromantic. Look into labels until you find one that's right for you.

Of course. There are some people in the LGBTQ community who don't label themselves and that is completely okay. As long as you're happy with who you are, don't feel that a label is needed.

The quizzes can't tell you for certain. They might give you an idea, or push you in the right direction, but only you can know for certain.

If you want to look into different labels that you think could describe you, you can do that! You can also just be unlabeled, and it's perfectly valid either way!

Traditionally, people made the distinction that bisexual meant being attracted to two genders and pansexual means being attracted to all genders, but the definition more loose than that. Bisexuality is better defined as being attracted to two or more genders. Some people identify as bisexual even if they are attracted to all genders, but gender still plays an important part in their sexuality. So in the end, it's up to you which if you feel bisexual or pansexual fits you better (omnisexual and polysexual are other sexualities you may want to look into). Of course, it's okay to use more than one label, or not label yourself at all.

It's up to you. You could simply say that you don't know, or that they are not entitled to that information. It depends on how comfortable you are with this person.

It could be a sign, but not always. Many people watch porn that doesn't align with their sexuality. Pornography isn't real life, people may watch porn for the fantasy. Instead you should focus on what you want in real life. Who are you attracted to when you are not watching porn?

Lesbians generally are attracted exclusively to girls (or on some cases non-binary people whose gender is close to female). Many bisexual people have a preference for one gender over another, so if you are attracted to more than one gender, but mostly girls, you could still be bi.

If your safety, well-being, or living situation would be put in danger by coming out to them, it would probably be best to wait until you're more independent before coming out. If you are independent enough, before coming out you should try to anticipate how they will react when they learn you're LGBTQ+.

If you are attracted to girls and guys, you're most likely bisexual. Being bisexual means somebody is attracted to only two genders.