Tell a trusted friend or family member what is going on and why it’s unhealthy. “Ann has been verbally abusive recently. She calls me stupid and says that if it weren’t for her I’d be a total failure. I need to talk to someone about this because I’m feeling really depressed.” “Brandon stormed in and demanded to read my text messages saying that it’s bad to keep anything secret. He’s also telling me I can’t hang out with Collin anymore unless he’s there to ‘supervise.’ I don’t know what to say to him because he always makes me feel guilty when I’ve done nothing wrong.” Share your feelings about the relationship. “I feel like Dan shuts me down whenever I start talking about my feelings.” “I don’t think it’s fair that I’m expected to do all these things.” “I feel like I’ve lost my independence.” “I can’t think clearly when I’m around Jerry.” “My needs aren’t being met.” “I’m always wrong and feel like I’m constantly having to make up for being myself.” “I don’t feel good enough.” Ask them for feedback. “Does that sound fair to you?” “Am I crazy for thinking/feeling this way about him?” “Do you think I’ve changed in a positive or negative way since being in this relationship?” “Have I seemed sad or stressed out lately?” Ask for their advice or support if you want it. “What would you do in my situation?” “Can I call you for support when I confront him/her?”