Tyler Talks Dear Tyler, I have noticed my girlfriend becoming more and more distant recently. I don’t know that I’m doing anything different, and she says she’s fine, but I can feel it that things have changed. Any advice? Lovelost in Lincoln Dear Lovelost, Every relationship has its rough patches, but I think you may have answered your own question when you said that you weren’t doing anything different. Relationships require work, and without that work, they stagnate. It’s quite possible that your lady friend has just gotten a little bored with the same old same old and needs something new. When’s the last time you did something exciting or had a night out on the town? Most relationships need more than endless Netflix marathons. Does she have a hobby? A favorite place to visit? A new restaurant she wants to try? Take her on an adventure, and see how quickly that distant shell cracks. Of course, as I don’t have a lot of information to go on, it’s possible there are bigger issues at hand. If things still aren’t going the way you want them to, it’s time for a real relationship talk to make sure you two are on the same page. Dear Tyler, My sister is planning her wedding and has become a real bridezilla. She expects all of our family to essentially work as hired help so she and her fiance can pinch pennies on the big day and spring for a lavish honeymoon. We’re all willing to lend a hand, but we also want to enjoy Rachel’s big day. How can I tell her she needs to cool it without causing a nuclear meltdown? Beleaguered in Boise Dear Beleaguered, It’s possible your sister doesn’t even realize that she’s putting you all out. Perhaps she thinks nothing would make you and your family happier than doing her a solid on her big day. However, if you would rather sit at a table than bus one, you need to let her know. Try to have the conversation one-on-one, if you can; you don’t want your sister to feel like your entire family is ganging up on her. Explain that, although you want to help as much as possible, you also want to have time to make memories as a family. That won’t happen if you’re all running around like chickens with your heads cut off. Be careful, though. You don’t just want to present problems with no solutions, especially if she’s in bridezilla mode. Suggest ways you and your family can help before the big day instead. Maybe you can all stuff invitation envelopes or meet with caterers. Or, if the major obstacle is the bride’s lack of funds, ask if you could hire some extra help as a wedding gift to her. That way, you could all enjoy her wedding together. If all else fails, she’s your sister, and your relationship with her is more important than this one day. You might have to do some grinning and bearing, but you’ll make it through.