How to Attract Guys Without Talking to Them: 15 Classic & Reliable Tips

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Snag a guy using nothing more than body language and eye contact
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It's normal to feel nervous when talking to guys, especially if you're trying to flirt. Fortunately, it's possible to attract guys without even talking to them! To get their attention, wear clothes, makeup, and a hairstyle that makes you feel great. There are other ways to attract guys without talking to them, too, and in this article we dive into all of them with the help of dating experts, all to make sure your crush is in your arms by the end of it.

Making a Guy Obsessed Without Talking to Him: Quick Tips

  1. Wear an outfit that makes you feel confident.
  2. Make playful, flirty eye contact.
  3. Smile and laugh to show him what a catch you are.
  4. Play with your hair.
  5. Act a little uninterested so he wants you more.
  6. Brush up against him when you pass by him.
  7. Stay off your phone so you seem more available.
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How to Catch His Eye

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  1. Choose an outfit that makes you feel confident. When you feel confident, you seem more attractive to many guys. Wear clothing that fits you well and helps you look your best. This can help you attract attention without doing anything. [1]
    • Try on all of your clothes in your closet to figure out which outfits look best on you. Then, wear these clothes for when you're hoping to get a guy to talk to you.

    Tip: If you identify as female, showing off your curves can help draw a guy's attention. This might include a hint of cleavage, bottoms that show your hips, or pants that enhance your rear. Subconsciously, guys notice your curves and it makes them interested in you.

  2. Wear red to catch their attention. The color red is an emotional trigger that can draw all eyes to you. Additionally, men typically perceive the color red as sexy. When you're hoping to attract a man's attention, pick an outfit that incorporates the color red. [2]
    • Wear a red dress, a red blazer, or a red top or shirt.
    • For a pop of red, wear a scarf or tie.
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  3. Show off your neck and shoulders for subtle sex appeal . Revealing your neck and shoulders grabs their attention because your skin is bare in a nonsexual way. This makes them want to see more. Wear a low cut top, sleeveless or off-the-shoulder top, or tank top to make guys want more of you. [3]
    • Wear an off-the-shoulder top that covers your cleavage but bares your entire shoulder and neck area. Another option is to wear a tank top that has thin straps.
  4. Wear a natural makeup look . You don't need to wear makeup to get a guy's attention, so don't feel pressured to use it, especially if you don’t normally wear it. If you do enjoy makeup, use it to enhance your natural beauty and to get a guy's attention. Most guys say they like a natural makeup look, so keeping your makeup subtle may help you attract a guy. [4]
  5. Choose a flattering hairstyle that makes you feel confident. Styling your hair provides a frame for your face and brings your whole look together. Pick a hairstyle that flatters your face shape, works well with your hair texture, and is easy for you to keep up. Then, style your hair when you're going to be around guys you hope to attract. [5]
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How to Use Body Language to Attract Him

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  1. Make eye contact then look away. Dating Coach Lisa Shield says that eye contact is a subtle way to flirt without speaking. [6] When you meet his eyes, you're showing him that you noticed him. Hold his gaze for 1-3 seconds, then glance away. [7]
    • Don't make eye contact for longer than 1-3 seconds because he might feel like you're staring.
    • If making eye contact is hard for you, practice by staring at your own eyes in the mirror. Then, make eye contact with people you care about, like friends and relatives. It'll get easier with practice!
  2. Smiling brightens up your features so you look more attractive, and laughing makes you look like you're having a great time. This can make a guy more interested in getting to know you. Keep a smile on your face while you're out trying to meet guys. Find reasons to laugh, too, like the conversation you're having or something that's happening around you. [8]
    • If you're at school, try to look like you're always having fun at lunch or between classes. For instance, tell funny stories with your friends or talk about your favorite TV shows.
    • Practice smiling and laughing to make it easier for you to do it when you're trying to get a guy's attention.
  3. Shield says that twirling, mussing, or flipping your hair can draw a guy's eyes to you. [9] Additionally, it shows him that you're feeling flirty, which can make him feel comfortable approaching you. When you see a guy who interests you, casually flip your hair over your shoulder, twirl it around your finger, or run your fingers through it. [10]
    • Film yourself playing with your hair so you can see what looks most attractive.
    • You don't need to play with your hair all of the time. In fact, that might make you seem nervous. Just do it for about 5-10 seconds to subtly flirt.
  4. When you see a guy that interests you, signal to him that you're open to being approached by winking at him. If you're close to each other, catch his attention and wink. Otherwise, walk past him and give him a quick wink. [11]
    • For instance, let's say you're getting a drink at a bar and see a hot guy a few seats down. Lean against the bar and give him a wink to show him you’re interested in talking.
    • If you're in school, you might cross paths with him in the hallway and give him a wink.

    Tip: Try a slow wink to make it clear that you're being flirty. When he looks at you, meet his eyes and slowly wink at him. This shows him that you're intentionally flirting.

  5. When you know a guy may be looking, subtly touch your hip, play with your necklace, or stroke your arm. This will catch a guys attention and make him imagine touching you, which can make him approach you. [12]
    • To avoid being inappropriate, don't touch your breasts or bum. Similarly, don't rub yourself. Instead, lightly touch yourself for 2-3 seconds or run your fingers along your skin.
  6. Being out with friends can get a guy's attention because it makes you appear popular. However, it can also make it hard for guys to approach you. To show guys you're open to being approached, face your body away from your friend as you talk. [13]
    • For example, let's say you and your friend are at a party. While you're chatting, face the room instead of each other. This way guys will feel comfortable walking up to you.
  7. Guys are often attracted to legs because they make them think of touching you sexually. Moving your legs can catch a guy's attention, so crossing and uncrossing your legs often can attract guys to you. Angle your body so that your legs are facing the room. Then, slowly cross and uncross your legs about every 2 minutes. [14]
    • This works best if you're sitting on a high stool, but you can also do it in a regular chair.

    Tip: Dangling your shoe on the end of your toe can also help you get a guy to come talk to you. This shows him you're feeling comfortable and aren't afraid of looking a little undone.

  8. Touching is a great way to flirt with a guy, including casual touches. When you're trying to attract a guy without talking to him, “accidentally” grazing him is a great way to make contact. Walk past him and lightly brush your body against his. [15]
    • Brush past him as you walk down the hallway at school or towards the counter at a coffee shop.
    • As another option, choose the seat behind or next to him. Then, lightly touch him as you sit down.
    • Since you don't want to talk to him, it's best not to bump into him too hard.
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Ways to Draw Him to You

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  1. When you catch him glancing at you, look away. If you guys text, wait to text him back. Playing it cool like this will help draw him to you. Whether he’s curious about what you have to offer or is eager for your attention, he will want to figure you out and get to know you. [16]
    • Don’t act so disinterested that he thinks you don’t like him, just enough to make him want to chase you.
    • If he’s the popular type, act like he’s not all that to make him wonder why he can’t win you over and become interested in you.
    • Dating coach Cher Gopman says “When you are trying to flirt you're obviously interested in the person, but coming off too available is actually going to turn that other person away. So you want to make sure you leave a little bit to mystery.” [17]
  2. Many guys enjoy feeling helpful, so they're likely to offer assistance if you seem to need help. If the situation allows, create a minor problem that you need help with. Then, see if a guy will come to help. [18]
    • For instance, let's say you're at a party. Act like you're having trouble opening your drink and ask a guy you’re crushing on to help.
    • Similarly, you could act like you're having trouble reaching a high object.
    • At school, you might act like you need help with an assignment.
    • If you don't feel comfortable acting like you need help when you don't, don’t do this. Guys will be just as into you!
  3. You might want to pull out your phone so you look busy, but this can backfire. If you're looking down at your phone, it's hard for guys to approach you. Put your phone away so they know you're open to being approached. [19]
    • It's okay to check your phone occasionally. However, don't focus all of your attention on your phone.
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    If you're at a cafe, you could grab a straw and toss the wrapper in his direction. That's a definite way to get his attention!
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    You could always run your fingers through your hair, lean over the bar, or look at him over your shoulder on your way to the bathroom.
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    Even just flashing a quick smile or making eye contact with the person can show you're interested in them.
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