How to Build a Social Network

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A social network comprises a group of friends and acquaintances that share similar interests, careers or both. Building a social network online can also mean gaining an audience that will in turn benefit your career or your political clout. Building an effective social network will mean that you will always have contacts to help you with your personal or career endeavors. In fact, it can help to have separate networks for both. Expand your social network through person-to-person interactions, and keep in touch via social media.

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Networking Online and with Apps

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  1. Get established on popular sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Pinterest, Tumblr, Reddit, YouTube, and Flickr. Be careful what you put on any public profiles, as anyone can look you up. [1] You will find the broadest audience there.
    • Ask people you know what social media they use.
    • For professional social networking, try LinkedIn.
    • Once you have a nice picture and a cute or accurate name on your platform of choice, add friends freely.
  2. To network with the people you have in your life already, check out communication apps that will let you send what are basically cooler text messages. Check out messaging apps that are popular in Asia, like WeChat or WhatsApp. [2]
    • Consider using separate phone numbers for different networks. For example, a personal cell phone and a work cell phone.
    • If you're interested in privacy, download an encrypted app like Signal.
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  3. Search the platforms you have joined for causes you care about and other interests of yours. For instance, you can join groups on Facebook, follow organizations on Twitter. Post in these groups, reply to other members, and add other members with whom you get along.
    • For instance, if you're in a Facebook group for Panda Habitat Conservation, and you always feel inspired by the jokes some man named Heinrich from Idaho posts, you can like his post, reply with a joke of your own, and then add him as a friend.
    • Find message boards or online communities that focus on one of your interests. Post on the topic and share your knowledge. If someone on the message board has similar interests or can teach you something, then send them an email or a private message and get to know them.
  4. Request connections with everyone you know and like in real life. If the network is a personal one, add only your close friends you would want hearing your unguarded thoughts. If the network is a business one, add the people you interact with, whether virtually or in person, so you can grow your reach.
  5. Be active on the sites you choose! Once a day or so, share a comment, photo, or article that interests you and that you think may interest others. If you only use your site to follow others, people will forget you are there.
  6. [3] The best way to strengthen your network is to interact with the people you are connected with. Take a few minutes a day to check the site and express enjoyment of various posts. Different platforms will let you do this different ways—you might comment or press "like" "heart" or "favorite." Only do this when you actually like something! Otherwise your feed will slowly fill with things that do not interest you.
    • Strive to be genuine in your interactions so you can find true common ground with others.
    • On many platforms, you may post things and tag the people you think may be interested. Only do this on occasion, and try not to tag more than a few people—otherwise it won't feel personal.
  7. Go through your address book, day planner, or other contact information for your current friends and contacts. Make connection with them just to talk. The subject of your conversation isn't really important at this point. Just staying in touch works wonders and will serve as the foundation for the next steps.
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Building Community

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  1. From a birthday party to a friendly get together, parties are a great way to gather your friends and expand your network. Ask all of your close friends to come and encourage them to bring guests. Speak with everyone at the party and get phone numbers and contact information from those you do not know and that you share common interests with.
  2. Attend weddings, funerals and parties that you are invited to. Showing that you care about the people in your network, even if you just pop in and say hi, will cause those that are in your 'network' to return the same courtesy. And, you could meet other people there too.
    • If you have to say no to an invitation, send an event-appropriate gift or card.
  3. Consider volunteering and joining a cause that you believe in. You might agitate for a change in election procedures, march against corruption, fundraise for the homeless in your neighborhood, or join an anti-deportation league. [4]
    • You will meet people who share your interests and do some good at the same time.
    • Being active also shows that you care about something greater than yourself, which may help you meet new people.
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    Focus on activities that really line up with your interests. Join a book club, hiking group, or volunteer with a cause you care about. When you surround yourself with like-minded people, it's easier to build meaningful connections. You might even find new people whose interests resonate with you on a deeper level.

  4. Meet new people by joining groups of strangers that gather for socializing. Sites like Meetup.com offer local volunteer-led hiking groups, poker parties, and other fun things. Since everyone is participating in the initial difficulty of meeting with strangers, the awkwardness is diminished.
  5. Go to large meetups that involve the topics you are interested in. Whether they are about technology, skiing or scrapbooking, you will meet new people that share similar interests. Introduce yourself to people in line, ask questions at panels, and add other attendees on social media.
    • Try going to the same gatherings every year. That way, you'll make friends with other regulars.
    • Create business cards that you can hand out to new contacts to stay in touch.
  6. If you want to participate in a community, you have to give back! That means hosting parties and connecting people, promoting the interests of others within your network, and otherwise being a mensch to those around you.
    • Consider starting your own activist, social, or artistic group. This can be a bit of a daunting task, but if you start your own group, whether an internet bulletin board group or an actual meet and greet group, people will be coming to you instead of you looking for them. This is a great way to meet new contacts and friends.
  7. Once you have established yourself in a community, and are known to give back to it, ask for favors. Should you be seeking a job, don't hesitate to tell everyone in your network about it. Send out resumes to those you are closest to or those that share business interest.
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    Don't be afraid to leave your comfort zone! If you are at a party, don't just stand in the corner. Instead, try to make small talk with people.
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      • Do not be afraid to leave your comfort zone. If you are at a party, don't just stand in the corner. Just make small talk with people. [5] Soon, you will be in a conversation that may lead to a closer relationship.
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      • Always carry business cards. They have your contact information on them and are an easy way to give your information to people you would like to hear from again.
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      • Never 'snub' anyone that is introduced to you. You may not like the way that they dress, act, or even look, but one of the people in your social network cares about them, so be very courteous when meeting a new contact. You don't have to stay in touch with them, but you can be polite! You could be meeting someone who will become one of your best friends.
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      • Get to know and trust people before giving out too much personal information. Although most relationships will be perfectly safe, it is possible to give too much information to someone who may ultimately cause you harm.
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      References

      1. ↑ https://www.lifewire.com/popular-types-of-social-networking-sites-3486530
      2. ↑ http://www.demystifyasia.com/popular-social-networks-asia/
      3. ↑ Annie Lin, MBA. Life & Career Coach. Expert Interview. 25 November 2019.
      4. ↑ http://www.helpguide.org/articles/work-career/volunteering-and-its-surprising-benefits.htm
      5. ↑ Annie Lin, MBA. Life & Career Coach. Expert Interview. 25 November 2019.

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      To build a social network online, start by making profiles on a few popular social media platforms, like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. You can also download messaging apps, like WhatsApp, so you can easily communicate with friends. Then, search for causes or interests you care about on the platforms you're using, and try posting and commenting on some group pages to meet other like-minded individuals. For example, if you're really passionate about animals, you could find a Facebook group for animal conservation and start networking on it. Once you start adding new friends, you can share and comment on their stuff to strengthen your network. For more advice from our co-author, like how to build a social network in person, scroll down!

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