Basic pointers how to dirty talk?

12/10/24 11:09am

I (m33) have been with my gf (f34) for 2 years now. We both want to spice things up in the bedroom a little more with some dirty talk, but neither of us has much experience with it and it feels pretty unnatural so far. Is it possible to get better at it? Is it supposed to get fun and feel less awkward/strange at some point? Any tips welcome.

WikiAntelopeKeeper764

12/10/24 4:17pm

You'll get better and more comfortable as you go, I promise. :) A good "beginner-friendly" technique is asking her what she wants you to do to her (or, the reverse of that, telling her what you want to do to her). Take it slow. Sexual tension is built on not rushing through things. Describe what you want to do/what you want her to do in explicit detail. (It's really almost a creative exercise!) Add a few moans.

What you and your girlfriend like will be different from what other people like and you'll slowly figure out what works for you both over time. Just try to communicate openly with one another about what you like and what you don't like, and respect each other's boundaries. You/she might prefer things to stay pretty vanilla, or you might want things to get more kinky. Don't be afraid to explore, but of course, practice good consent. Hope this helps :)

WikiGladeJumper104

12/11/24 11:06am

Communication is key here! Different people like different things. Talk to your partner about if there are certain names or dynamics that especially turn her on. For example, she might like it if you take on a more dominant role. If that's the case, in your dirty talk you can give her orders and tell her what she can and can't do it. It's also helpful to figure out what she doesn't like so that you can avoid it.

WikiLemmingKeeper571

12/11/24 5:39pm

When you talk dirty, say things that show how sexy you find your girlfriend and how badly you want her. Make her feel like you care about her and are highly invested in making her feel good. Try things like "I love the way you look/sound when you..." or "You like that?" or "Tell me what you want. Use your words."

WikiLorisCatcher846

12/13/24 6:48pm

It's totally normal for dirty talk to feel awkward at first. The two of you are figuring out what you like and experimenting to see what works best for your relationship. Speak openly with each other about what kind of dirty talk gets you going, and what kills the mood. The collaboration and vulnerability of it makes it all the more sexy.

Anonymous WikiMongoose

12/18/24 7:24pm

Yeah, don't worry, you'll probably get used to it soon. Trust me, dirty talk is WAY more easier if you subtly go into it, not straight away. Just relax and be yourself. :)