What does "negging" mean? Examples?
I've been chatting with this guy for a little bit, but my friends have told me that he's totally been "negging" me when we're together. I haven't heard this term before, but there must be some truth to it if my friends keep saying it's happening. So, what exactly is negging and how can I recognize it? It seems like a bad thing, so any pointers on how to stop it from happening are a plus.
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If you always feel bad about yourself after interacting with a guy, he's probably negging you. Negging can come in the form of backhanded compliments, thinly-veiled insults under the guise of constructive-criticism, comparing you to others, trying to one-up you/diminish your accomplishments, and painting you as too sensitive by saying that he is "just joking."
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Negging is basically short for "negative feedback" and it's saying something that makes you feel less confident so you look for a guy's approval, and honestly it's a form of emotional manipulation. It could be a backhanded compliment like, "You're really brave for styling your hair like that, but you make it work," or comparing you to other people like, "You could be in good shape too if you worked out like your friends." If you point out what they said as mean, they may say they're joking and try to play it off.
If it keeps happening, try not to insult or neg them back because that will only make them continue the behavior. Come right out and say that it's bothering you and that you don't want it to happen anymore. If they are actually thoughtful and apologize, just keep an eye on them. If they still try to play it off or don't take you seriously, it may be time to find a new guy.
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If it keeps happening, try not to insult or neg them back because that will only make them continue the behavior. Come right out and say that it's bothering you and that you don't want it to happen anymore. If they are actually thoughtful and apologize, just keep an eye on them. If they still try to play it off or don't take you seriously, it may be time to find a new guy.
Negging is so insidious!! It's a toxic behavior that can often go unnoticed because it's so subtle sometimes. Like he might say something that sounds like a compliment but is really just a rude comment about you. He'll do and say little things that chip away at your confidence so it's easier for him to control you. If you get a bad vibe from a guy who's doing this, trust your gut!
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Is he often making negative comments about you? Or saying things about you that don't make you feel great? Trust your gut and feelings here. The negging is going to be subtle, little things that feel like maybe you're being sensitive or blowing things out of proportion by pushing back but all these little remarks against you add up and impact your confidence and happiness. Pay attention to how he makes you feel and point out specific examples of what you don't want him to say! You deserve to be treated with respect
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