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Whether you’ve already touched down in the adventure-rich islands of Indonesia or you’re still in the obsessive-itinerary-building stage of your travels, there is so much beauty waiting for you in this equatorial country in Southeast Asia. While many Indonesians can communicate in English, it’s respectful to greet them in their native tongue, Bahasa Indonesia. Learning even a few simple phrases and following proper etiquette for interacting with Indonesians can go a long way when connecting with locals and their communities—and it may just make your trip everything you’ve ever dreamed of!

Things You Should Know

  • Greet someone in Indonesia by saying selamat pagi (good morning), selamat siang (good afternoon), or selamat malam (good evening).
  • In more casual settings, you can say halo, which is the literal translation of “hello.”
  • Ask someone how they are doing by asking apa kabar (how are you). Respond to this question with baik (good) or kurang baik (not good).
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Common Greetings

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  1. Halo literally means “hello,” while apa kabar? means “how are you?” If you greet a person using apa kabar?, their answer will most likely be baik (good) or kurang baik (not good). [1]
    • Both halo and apa kabar are used in casual situations among family and friends, so they aren’t appropriate greetings in formal settings or with strangers.
  2. Selamat pagi means “good morning,” while selamat siang and selamat sore both mean “good afternoon.” Typically, you’d use selamat siang between 11 am and 3 pm and selamat sore between 3 pm and 6 pm. [2]
    • Say selamat malam to greet someone with “good evening,” but it can’t be used to say goodbye to someone at the end of the night.
    • Note that the 'e' in selamat is not pronounced. To pronounce it correctly, say “slamat.”
    • When saying “good morning” in Indonesia, you can also omit the selamat completely and say pagi. This is similar to English, where “good morning” is often shortened to “morning.”
    • When saying “good afternoon” in Indonesia, be careful to pronounce the “i” in siang as a long “ai” instead of “ee.” Otherwise, it’ll seem like you’re saying “sweetheart.” [3]
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  3. Introduce yourself by saying nama saya ______, filling in the blank with your name. After introducing yourselves, it’s polite to say “nice to meet you,” or salam kenal. [4]
  4. The most common phrase for goodbye, selamat tinngal, can be used with both friends and strangers in any situation, formal or informal. Sampai jumpa, on the other hand, should only be used when you’re likely to see the other person again, like how you would use the English “see you later.” [5]
    • If you’re saying goodbye because you’re going to sleep, use selamat tidur, which is different from the “good evening” greeting, selamat malam .
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Handshakes and Body Language

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  1. Gently shake someone’s hand when meeting for the first time. Use a medium to soft handshake grip, as the firm handshake used in Western cultures may be seen as rude or aggressive. [6] Use your right hand to shake, as the left is considered unclean. [7]
    • Smile! Indonesians are, as a whole, open and friendly people. Smiles will do magic to oil social interactions with them.
    • A slight nod or bow is also a common practice. Bowing should not be equated with subservience but with extreme politeness. Westerners should not let it bother them.
    • In some faiths, like Islam, followers won’t touch people of the opposite gender except for family members. If you’re unsure, let the other party initiate the handshake, and don’t take it personally if they don’t shake your hand.
  2. Begin the salam by holding out both hands and gently touching the other person’s hands. They may loosely hold your hands for a few moments. Bring your hands back to your chest. This action shows sincerity and that your greeting comes from the heart. [8]
    • The sembah is another traditional greeting in Bali and other areas of Hindu-Buddhist heritage. Join your palms together and position them vertically against your chest. [9]
    • Bow slightly and use an appropriate greeting in the Indonesian language. The sembah is typically used when entering someone’s home.
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Addressing People

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  1. The main honorifics in Bahasa Indonesia are Mas, Pak, Bu and Mbak. In formal situations, use Bapak (“Sir” or “Mister”) to address an adult male and use Ibu (“Madam” or “Mrs.”) to address an adult female. [10]
    • When in doubt, you can safely address men by Pak and women by Bu, which are the shortened versions of Bapak and Ibu.
    • Coworkers and friends who are around the same age typically address each other as Mbak (older sister) or Mas (older brother).
    • For example, a middle-aged person named Djoko might be addressed as Bapak Djoko.
  2. Indonesian people do not always use surnames or family names. If a person is named Arif Perdana, it does not mean his family name is Perdana. Feel free to call him Pak Arif . Some Indonesians are even named with one single first name, without a middle name or family name. [11]
    • Don’t be offended if an Indonesian person you barely know addresses you by your first name.
    • Indonesian people use first name basis in daily life with whomever they meet. The exceptions are married women, nobles, and royalty.
  3. Married women will likely use their husband’s name, but they will introduce themselves with whatever name they prefer. Add Bu or Ibu before her name when addressing her.
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    How do I address a young girl?
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    In formal Indonesian: "Nona" (it means "Miss"), but most people use the area's respective traditional language - usually the word that means "older sister." For example, in Central Java & East Java, we say "Mbak" and sometimes "Ning," in West Java, we say "Teh" or "Teteh," in Jakarta we say "Neng."
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    How do I address a woman (business contact) informally to say, "How are you?"
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    You can say it as, "Apa kabar anda?" for a formal meeting. For an informal greeting, just say, "Hai! Oke oke aja kan?"
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    How can I say "My greetings and wishes to your family"?
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    You could say "Salam saya ke keluarga Anda" which literally means "My greetings to your family." Wishes isn't included in the sentence because "salam" is already considered "greetings and wishes" in Indonesian.
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