How kinky are you? Think you're ready to find out?
Answer some simple, spicy questions, and we'll calculate your kinkiness level!
Questions Overview
- That sounds exciting! I'd be down!
- Maybe, but it'd have to be with the right person.
- I'd probably rather not, but never say never.
- Nah, that's not something that sounds appealing.
- Totally, but actually, I'm not very nervous to say so.
- Yes, there are so many things! I need to find the right person.
- There are one or two things, sure.
- Not really.
- Bring it on! The more, the merrier.
- That sounds fun, but I'd have to think about who I'd be comfortable with.
- I'd give it a try, but I don't think I'd love it.
- Never, no thanks.
- Absolutely! Nature calls, and it feels so free.
- Maybe, but only if we're sure nobody else is around.
- Nah, I'll keep it to the great indoors, please.
- They're risqué and exciting, like it's dirty just thinking about them.
- They're fast and wild. They leave me breathless!
- They're pretty casual and low-key.
- They're slow and passionate.
- Sure! It can be super hot and help set the mood.
- Maybe, but it depends on the vibe.
- Nah. I'd rather focus on my partner.
- Yes! I think toys are a huge turn-on.
- I like toys sometimes, but not always.
- Nah. Just our bodies, please.
- Totally! It helps sink into the fantasy.
- Maybe, I'd at least give it a try.
- Nah, it doesn't do much for me.
- Sign me up! Makes the cleanup easier.
- I could be down for it, but it does sound a little tricky.
- No way. That sounds super dangerous. What if we slip?
- Of course! It's basically the best way to flirt.
- Maybe, but only if I knew for a fact they'd never be shared with anyone.
- Nope. I'd rather flirt in other ways.
- Feet
- Necks
- Hands
- Being romantic and emotional.
- Being physical and intimate.
- Both get me going!
- Neither.
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And that's a good thing! There's nothing weird or bad about being kinky, as long as everyone involved is safe and the situation is consensual. Even though it's for fun, sex is serious business, and communication is key.
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There's nothing weird or bad about being kinky, as long as everyone involved is safe and the situation is consensual. Even though it's for fun, sex is serious business, and communication is key.
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There's nothing weird or bad about being kinky, as long as everyone involved is safe and the situation is consensual. Even though it's for fun, sex is serious business, and communication is key.
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For more information on safe sex, check out these helpful resources:
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Answering Your Kink Questions
What is a kink?
A kink is a particular sexual practice that gets someone aroused and that is considered unconventional.
What counts as a kink?
A kink is anything sexual that’s more than the usual penetration. That includes toys, behaviors, lifestyles, positions—if it’s something unusual, then it’s probably a kink! Now, what counts as unusual depends on who you ask. For some people, things that others consider kinky are pretty tame. And for others, things some consider tame are pretty kinky. For the most part, though, it’s safe to say that if it’s more than just insertion, it’s probably at least a little kinky.
Is kink normal or healthy?
Absolutely! Almost everyone who experiences sexual attraction and pleasure has something in particular that gets them going, and for many people, that thing is considered a kink. It’s a natural human feeling, and it isn’t dirty or shameful.
Are some kinks unnatural or not normal?
That’s a trickier question! Experts are still debating where kinks come from and why they develop, but many sex experts stress that your urges, no matter how unusual, are nothing to be ashamed of. The more important question is whether acting on those urges would hurt yourself or someone else. Some kinks, like pain kinks, require much more care and communication between partners in order to be safe and healthy. With other kinks, there’s simply no way to practice them responsibly, but that doesn’t mean the urge itself is evil.
How can I practice kink? Communication, communication, communication! That’s all there is to it. If you have something you want to try, bring it up to your partner. Say, “Hey, I’ve been curious about doing this. Would you be down to try?” It’s okay if they’re not comfortable with it—everyone is into different things, and what’s kinky to you might be a turn off for someone else—but if they belittle you or act like it’s strange, they may not be the healthiest partner for you.
Want to learn more?
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