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    I told her how I feel but her response is "we need to become better friends." What do I do?
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    Become better friends! She won't forget your feelings for her, and she will like it that you care for her enough not to press her. Remember, it wasn't a "no," just a "not yet."
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    I have a thing for my church friend. I don't know what kind of guy she likes or about any of her interests. Every time I get the chance to ask, I never take it. What can I do?
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    Admitting an interest to a person is always awkward and embarrassing, and you have to take the risk of being accepted or turned down. You should just hang out some more to know her better. Ask her what she likes to do on weekends, or what activities she enjoys, or if she has a hobby. After knowing her better, then maybe you can ask her what kind of man she likes.
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    There's this girl. She's my youth pastor's daughter. We both like each other. Would it be the right thing to ask her parents before I ask her out? And what do I say to her? I have a hard time expressing myself.
    Lilly
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    It would be a nice idea to ask her parents first. Some parents would actually want to meet the person their child is dating and get to know them. For your second question, just be yourself when you talk to her. Do what comes naturally. It never hurts to pray to God for guidance!
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    I like a girl in my youth group. I think she likes me because she laughs at my jokes. But a lot of people think I'm funny, so I'm not sure.
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    If she laughs, then that means she notices you. Just be patient and you will be able to tell if she likes you.
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    I really like this girl, she's a Christian also. I don't think she is ready for a relationship. How would I be sure of this?
    EnBOOKds
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    Ask her. Then listen to her answer and respect it.
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    Is it okay to ask her out immediately?
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    You should get to know her first and find out if you like each other. If so, you can ask her out.
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    Are there any girls these days that abstain from sex until marriage? I'm afraid I'll never find one.
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    Christian girls should always keep themselves pure until marriage. While not all Christian girls follow this rule, there are many that take it very seriously. Keep looking, they're out there.
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    I have seen a girl at church and I like her, but I don't know if she likes me back. What should I do?
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    Get to know her as a friend first. Hang out and have conversations with her. Be polite and respectful. Her feelings will probably become clear to you after you've spent some time together.
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    I had a crush on a girl two years ago, but became friends with her two weeks ago. Is it right to propose to her now or it is too early?
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    It's not at all right to propose to her now. You don't even know her, and from the sounds of it, you're not even officially dating. There's no need to rush things. Take your time, get to know her, and then tell her how you really feel.
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    We were best friends but I started falling for her and asked her whether she wants to have sex with me, and she slapped me. How can I convince her again?
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    You should definitely not try to do that. Respect her, that is probably really important to her, and now you just sound sleazy.
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    I'm in a quagmire. I have been eyeing a Christian girl for a while, but I am slightly on the father's bad side, slightly on the mother's bad side, and we are very different people. She is calm cool and collected and of few words; I am emotional, wild, cunning, and eloquent. What do I do?
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    Many couples are polar opposites, so that's not a problem. You draw from each other's strengths and help remedy each other's weaknesses. Being on her parents' bad side is a problem, though. If you did something rude, awkward or embarrassing in front of the parents, you can apologize. Treat them and their daughter with respect, and they may change their opinion of you.
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    Is it possible to be with a girl that I've fought with in the past?
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    One fight does not ruin all chances. If God wants you two together, He will definitely make it possible. If you're not supposed to date this girl, then God will show you that there's someone else for you. However, you could apologize wholeheartedly and say that you'll try not to fight again. Be humble.
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    I like this girl, I've been always praying for her. The problem is, I don't have courage to talk to her. What should I do?
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    Just introduce yourself casually when she's not around her friends. Start by introducing yourself, saying you might want to hang out some time with her, like at your house or hers. Befriend her first. Be a good friend. Show her you care about her life and her feelings. Be loyal. After you think she knows you are a good friend, then you can get up the courage to tell her about your feelings.
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    I like this girl at my group. She is younger than me. She likes to talk to me, sit next to me, she even cuddled with me twice. I don't know if she likes me, or how to make my move. What do I do?
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    I'm pretty sure she likes you, since she likes to be with you and sit next to you. If she's cuddled with you, that is a sign of affection. Instead of directly telling her you have a crush on her, you can say, "Hey, I really enjoy spending time with you." Be casual but be genuine. See how she reacts and figure it out from there.
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    I love a girl in my church, and I have asked her out on a date several times, but she keeps saying she doesn't have time. What do I do next?
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    You can try asking her when she's available, but if you've asked her repeatedly and she always says this, she's probably just trying to tell you she's not interested without hurting your feelings. You should just accept this and move on.
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    I don't talk to her much but we stare at each other quite often. Do I wait to become better friends with her to tell her how I feel? Or should I just do it?
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    Be courageous and do it. If she doesn't feel the same way she will at least know that you are courageous.
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    Would it still be a sin to have sex before marriage if I pray during intercourse?
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    Praying while you sin does not cancel out the sin. That's pretty silly. If you consider sex before marriage to be a sin, praying would not change that.
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    I love a girl who was in a relationship with my brother. Is this okay?
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    It might make things a bit awkward. It would be strange for your brother to see his ex-girlfriend with his brother. It could be uncomfortable for the girl, as well. You might try talking to him about it before you take any steps.
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    I prayed and had the courage to tell her how I feel, but she said that a relationship is impossible because her father wants her to finish her studies. Do I have a chance?
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    Possibly, but God has His own plan for the two of you. You might find someone else and she might do the same, or you two could end up getting married in the future. Who knows? For now, it would be best to respect the fact that she needs to focus on her studies. You can still be friends in the meantime.
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    I like this Christian girl, but I found out she doesn't like me. I really feel God wants me to be with her. Do you think she could change her mind?
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    Maybe. You should confide in a trusted religious leader for guidance on how to proceed. You would never want a relationship to be forced, so respect her wishes and seek guidance as to how to proceed in a way that will please God.
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    What if she is a teenager, and I don't know her very well?
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    Then you can try to be friends. Find out what her interests are, learn to talk about those things, and engage her in conversation.
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    There is a girl in my class I like, but she's too religious and her father is a pastor. How can I get her to like me?
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    First of all, don't tell her you think she's "too religious." Just approach her like you would any other person. Be nice and respectful and try to be her friend first. As you're getting to know her, try to find out if she's allowed to date. If she is, and she seems to like you back, ask her out.
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    I invited my crush to a youth group outing. How do I handle this outing, since the only people she knows are me and my sibling?
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    Since you and your sibling are the only people she knows, she will most likely stick around you. Just be a good friend. Show her you're there to help her out. You can stick together. Talk to one another like normal.
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    I've asked a girl out (both of us are Christians), and she says that she's not ready. Does it mean that she's not into me?
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    No, it most likely means that she is not ready for a relationship. If she was not into you she probably would have told you, but you can ask her just to make sure if you want.
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    Many religious people seem to be against dating. How can I spend "alone time" with a girl without actually going on dates?
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    You can just hang out with her in a big group of people. However, not all religious people are against dating, so you should probably talk to the girl first about what she'd like to do with you before assuming she wouldn't be open to dating.
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    How can I be more than friends with a guy while still remaining pure?
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    You two can hang out, but have a friend with you as a "chaperone" to keep things appropriate. If you two go to Sunday School together, you can sit together while still having a crowd around you. You can also go on dates alone as long as you make sure not to engage in any inappropriate physical activity with him.
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    How can I tell a Christian girl that I like her if I'm Buddhist?
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    If she is devoted to the Lord, she might choose to stay strong in her faith and look for other Christian men, so prepare yourself for that possibility. When you want to tell her how you feel, simply say it. If you're interested in converting, you might want to mention that in the event that she brings up her Christianity in her answer. However, differing religious beliefs can be very difficult to overcome in relationships if one of you isn't willing to compromise.
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    How do you start a conversation with a girl that isn't from your religion?
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    Just talk normally like you would to anyone else. What someone's religion is generally shouldn't affect how you talk to them. If you need more help, see How to Talk to a Girl .
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    There is a girl at my church that I like even though she is older than I am. I think she likes me, but I'm not sure. Would a relationship like this work since she is older?
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    It is ok if the girl is older than the guy in a relationship. Age differences shouldn't matter.
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    I'm not a Christian, but I've loved a Christian girl for the past three years. She's not interested in me, though. What do I do?
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    Befriend her. Being willing to "just be friends" is important, because it shows that you value her enough that you want to be in her life in whatever way that you can be, even if it's not in a romantic context. She may never reciprocate your romantic feelings, but you will have gained a friend.
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