Q&A for How to Break up With a Married Man

Return to Full Article

Search
Add New Question
  • Question
    How do I stop loving a man?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
    Licensed Social Worker
    Expert Answer
    This is difficult. We often still love a person even though we might realize that they are not good for us. Don't expect to stop loving instantly. Surround yourself with your loved ones, like family and friends.
  • Question
    How do you break someone up?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
    Licensed Social Worker
    Expert Answer
    You cannot really break someone else up, but you can initiate a breakup with a person you are in a relationship with. First, think things through, make a list of the positive and negative aspects of the relationship. Once you are sure, have a face to face conversation unless the other person is abusive.
  • Question
    What do you say when you break up?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
    Licensed Social Worker
    Expert Answer
    If you are certain, let them know that you want to sit down and have a discussion when it is convenient for them. Take their schedule into consideration. Being open and direct is usually the best way even it can be very difficult.
  • Question
    How long do affairs usually last?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
    Licensed Social Worker
    Expert Answer
    This varies a great deal. An affair lasts while both parties are deriving something positive from it. When one person (or both) begins to feel used or is dissatisfied, there is usually a crisis. Sometimes lies are involved, and problems occur when those lies might surface. Also, broken promises also signal the end of an affair.
  • Question
    How can you completely separate from the man if you share a child together?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
    Licensed Social Worker
    Expert Answer
    You can still separate from him, much like in a divorce. Maintain only parental contact and communication. Request child support from him, if you do do not already receive it.
  • Question
    The man I'm with says his wife will lose his retirement benefits, and I won't get them if they break up. Is that a legitimate reason for not getting a divorce?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
    Licensed Social Worker
    Expert Answer
    You should consult an attorney on this subject. In most cases, an ex-wife can get her husband's retirement benefits as long as they write it into their divorce agreement.
  • Question
    How do you break up with someone?
    Klare Heston, LCSW
    Licensed Social Worker
    Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).
    Licensed Social Worker
    Expert Answer
    If you have decided that your partner is not good for you, it is best to let him know and end the relationship. You may still love him at this point, and that's okay. You can move on by cutting your ties and visiting with your friends and family more. Put the reminders of him out of sight for some time while you heal.
Ask a Question

      Return to Full Article