Q&A for How to Build a Positive Thinking Mindset

Making a change shouldn't require a lot of effort. If you're meant to change something like your mindset, believe that it will happen effortlessly. You still have to do your part, but if you are putting forth a lot of effort, you should switch out the way you're changing yourself or think about improving your mindset so that you don't get frustrated or discouraged.

First, try to work on a thought journal. Write in it so you have an outlet for all your thoughts and emotions. You may feel relief after you discuss all your feelings. Also try to express your pain in creative ways, like poetry. In order to lift your mood and experience a greater sense of belonging, join social groups and reach out to your friends. If you still find yourself struggling even after journaling and bonding with your network, reach out to a therapist. A mental health professional will help you reflect on your pain and create solutions to overcome or minimize it.

It's okay to be nostalgic for the past and miss someone you once had a strong connection with. Instead of feeling guilty or ashamed, use these emotions as a guide for what you want in future relationships. For example, if you crave the person's sense of humor or kindness, tell yourself that you'll search for someone who makes you laugh and supports you. Use positive affirmations to celebrate how lovable you are and to announce that you'll meet your best match.

When you feel weak, use positive self-talk to reframe the story you tell about yourself. For example, focus on how passionate and opinionated you are. If someone is cruel to you or calls you names, remind yourself that those words don't define you and they're just a reflection of the other person's poor behavior. Finally, think about reactions that are helpful and productive. You can practice self-care, talk to friends, or report bullying to cope with any negative interactions.