Q&A for How to Deal With Rude People

Try to have compassion. Usually, negative people are having a really tough time.You are not responsible for their behavior, but it's worth it to wish peace for that person. Think about how you can better the situation without sacrificing your integrity.

Allow yourself to have your initial reaction. It's important to acknowledge the hurt this person may have caused you. Then, ask yourself what you learned from the situation and how much it is costing you to hold onto your feelings. You don't have to forgive them, but try to think about how you can be made better from the experience moving forward.

Try to speak with the person first. If that doesn't work, ask your manager for help. If the situation still isn't resolved, take your concerns to HR, instead.

You don't deserve to be treated that way. Tell that person you won't put up with their rude behavior, and if they don't make any effort to change, find new friends.

Ignore him. You have done what you were supposed to do, and it's his choice to stay rude or to change.

Ignore them, and be the alpha in this situation. Chances are they are discouraged and insecure themselves and want to feel above those they envy.

Do not respond to the rude person. Only you can give a rude person power over you. If that doesn't help, talking to an authority figure explaining how the rude person is disrupting your schooling.

I'd suggest leaving yourself out of the situation. Politely explain to your friends why you feel the way you do and ask them to do the same. If need be, get some other friends and don't hang out with people that bring you down. Don't be afraid to get an authority involved, a teacher, counselor, management, etc.

A lot of rudeness stems from wanting to dismiss other people before other people dismiss the rude person. Such people can feel insecure, scared, irritable, incompetent or even lazy. Rudeness becomes a shield or a cover that protects them from having to deal with the situation in a more mature fashion or from having to be helpful when they'd rather just stay inside their own little shell. Sometimes rudeness stems from being frustrated at having to repeat what the person considers to be inane or common knowledge. Rudeness is most often a shortcut to cover up impatience.

Be polite but smart so that you limit yourself being owned. Rude people tend to sense your weaknesses and try and bring them out. Don't stoop to the rude person's level.

A rude family member isn't excused for being a family member -- rudeness is rudeness. The article will help you.

If this is a new behavior in your friend, there might be something going on in their life that's bothering them, so try sitting down and talking with them about what's on their mind. If it's a consistent behavior, you should find a new best friend. Nobody should have to put up with someone treating them badly, even if that person is your best friend. There are a lot of people out there you could meet who will treat you with kindness and respect, so don't waste your time on someone who doesn't care for you.

If you are being physically abused, get help from friends and family. If necessary, call police or a women's shelter. Be strong and get out.

Yes, she was being rude. Perhaps she had some sort of disorder and did not realize her question was inappropriate.

Ignore your sibling if possible and talk to your parents about his or her behavior.

Remember, people feel safer behind a screen and will say and do anything they want to, because they think that they are anonymous and nothing will come back to them. Just ignore them. They know nothing of your religion like you do and if that's their way of thinking, they are ignorant. Let them believe that ignorance is bliss. You know your religion, don't let some jerk on the internet sway you.

You don't change it because unless a person wants to change, they won't. However, what you can do is to be a bit of broken record as to how you perceive the behavior and its effects on you, so that the person has an opportunity to learn how their behavior is impacting others. For example, you could say things like: "That's not a polite way to talk about other people. It would better to say..."; or, "Wow, that was not a nice way to cut in front of that person!"; or, "I know you're tense and frustrated right now, but you don't know what is going on in other people's lives." Gradually help the person to see how what they do has a negative effect on others. But remember, it's hard to break habits, so praise them every time they do get it right!

We can't advise what you can and can't be disciplined for, that's totally up to your workplace rules. The fact that the person has a prior history suggests he is very good at wriggling out of being pulled up on things, so be careful there. The heart of this though is your management skills -- when you are alert to the fact that someone is a loose cannon like this, you need to be in control of the situation. Telling your colleague to beat it shows that you're fed up, not in control. The best response in future would be to work out a strategy for dealing with this colleague's bad attitude, such as keeping a record of bad performance and attitude, then scheduling weekly chats to elicit any issues he has, at which time you can upbraid him for any poor behavior that has been documented and dated. With this sort of constant updating on the fact his bad behavior is being noticed, he'll soon put things in order or ship out. If you do get disciplined, have such a strategy ready to show them how you intend to better manage the situation in future.

That's more than just being rude. See How to Deal With a Violent Person , or if the person is someone close to you, like a friend, family member, partner, boss, etc., see one of wikiHow's many articles on . The best thing to do, in general, is try to limit your contact with the person as much as possible and protect yourself if needed.

Get a friend or sibling to stick up for you or to say it for you. You could just walk away if it saves you from exploding at them.

You can inform them of your reasons for being vegan, and explain why it is appealing to you and why you believe it was a good idea. Or, you can calmly tell them something like, "I understand this is your opinion, but I have a different opinion. I respect yours, so please respect mine."

You could give him the option to dress up and be in the official photos or dress down and be in no official photos. You could also tell him that he will be digitally removed or digitally dressed in a suit where this is thought more appropriate. Finally, impress on him the importance on being a good sport for his grandson's wedding. If he still disagrees, let it go. He can be the amusing factor of the wedding: "Oh that's just grandpa, stubborn as always" and be certain to take some official photos with him right at the edge, so you can snip him off (or digitally dress him) where needed.

Discuss how you're feeling with your friends. You can't force people to pay more attention to you, but you can at least lay your feelings on the table -- it's likely they don't even know you're feeling left out. You may also want to think through your own feelings, because based on your wording (how can two people be "too close" to one another?), it sounds like you might be jealous. If you are, that's something that your friends can't fix for you.

Put the leaves right back in their yard. Or, if you want to avoid confrontation, put it in their bin and pretend like you didn't do it.

Honestly, the best option is just to ignore him. If the harassment is severe, you can get school officials involved. They can make sure that he is punished appropriately for his behavior, but more importantly, they might be able to keep the two of you separated.

Just say you're sorry and move on.

Don't deal with her. Ignore her. This sounds like someone you definitely don't need in your life, so just keep your distance.

Try not to get upset over it. They are probably just very happy to be a grandparent and want to share their joy with you. Try changing the subject after they show you their photos, so they will take the hint.

Answering this is hard because you haven't provided any context about what the "rude person" said or did. Perhaps there is another way of responding, such as following up after with an email, tweet or Facebook post. Depending on what the person said/did, you could express your feelings, such as saying you feel upset at what you perceive as impoliteness and don't feel reassured that the matter is going to be resolved or feel it's now worse. But that would depend on what the rudeness was, such as a retailer refusing to help you. Sometimes you can solicit support from a bystander, asking them if they considered what was said to be rude too. But ultimately, protect yourself and if you cannot say anything much, at least stop anything bad from happening to you, such as "You CANNOT do that." or "Stop talking like that right now!" or "Hey, no way!", to get them to stop saying or doing anything harmful.

Tell them you do not appreciate being visited without warning and next time you will ask them to leave. Set a boundary that they have to tell you at least 1-2 days ahead of time of their arrival and if they don't, then they are not welcome.