Q&A for How to Decide Who to Invite to a Party

If they know each other and are comfortable with each other, then it should be fine. There's no need to have an even number of both genders.

If you have enough space to invite them to your party, do it! They will probably really appreciate the invitation, and your party can give you a reason to talk to them more. It could be the start of a friendship.

Choose the friend who you think you would have the most fun with. Does one of your friend make you laugh more than any other? Maybe one of your friends loves the really cool place you're going. Choose the person who would make it the best birthday possible!

That sounds like a great idea! An invitation to your party is a great way to start a friendship.

Learn to stand up to them if they make you cry. If they make you cry often, you shouldn't consider them your friends, as friends don't hurt friends. Look for a friend or two who respects you and keeps out of the drama.

Discuss the matter with her before you finalise the party, and lay out some rules. If she tends to clash with a certain person the most, then try not to invite that person if possible. If she's just one of those gossipy, catty girls that cause trouble all the time and don't stop, tell her that you're not going to invite her to your party because of the way she acts. There's no point in inviting someone if they're going to ruin your party, and if she won't be nice for you, she's not that good of a friend.

Sometimes you simply can't invite everyone you want. Decide, from your list, the people who would have the most fun at the party and who you would have the most fun with. It might not be fun to eliminate potential guests, but you'll end up with the best possible group.

This is probably more common than you realize. Parents aren't endless bundles of money or patience. While you could ask your parents for a few extra, it might be best to just focus on inviting the people you really care about and enjoy being with. That will make the party more fun anyway.

If you're inviting only one of your three cousins, be sure to keep it a secret from the other two. If the cousins who are not invited find out, it will cause a rift between you and your cousins, and possibly even between other family members. Consider inviting all of them; it could even help in building healthy relationships with the whole family.

It's a good thing mixing with new people! if she is sociable and confident she will mix with people naturally, but if she is a bit shy help her to socialize with your other friends. Introduce her around and she'll hopefully then come out of her shell.

If he gets along with the others you are inviting, then yes. The only thing I would say is, don't only invite one boy. Invite a couple so he feels more comfortable.

This depends on your age, the space available and on how many people you feel you'll be able to connect with during the party without feeling overwhelmed. Some people suggest invite as many children as the child's age up to the age of 10. After that, find a comfort level that matches your personality and preferences. Remember that many people make it noisy, crowded and challenging to control. If you have to choose people, go for best friends and most liked people first.

When it comes to sleepovers, it's usually best to keep them small! Two guests is a great number of friends to invite, but you can invite three or four if there is space for everyone. The bigger the guest list, the more sleeping space you'll need! If you invite more people than you have beds, make sure you tell everyone to bring sleeping bags.

You should try to invite them anyway. It's nice to have your friends know each other, and this might be your opportunity. Who knows? They could end up fitting in well with your larger group.

If you're invited to two parties on the same day, choose the one that you want to attend or feel most obligated to attend. Make sure you RSVP to both parties, so one knows to expect you and one knows that you cannot make it.

Make them feel included, introduce everyone, make sure to talk to everyone, and include everyone in all group activities. It will be fine.

Yes, you choose who you want at your party. Just try to make sure that everyone is getting along.

Tell her that you're only allowed to have a certain number of people over, and make plans to spend time with her on another day.

You should. They would probably try to socialize as long as they know somebody else at your party.

If you have a lot of them, it's probably best not to, as you don't want to have too many people at your party and risk things getting out of control. I'd suggest you just invite your closest friends.

If you don't trust them, why are you friends with them? Don't invite people to your party out of obligation or because you're worried about how they'll react if they're not invited. If they get mad, just tell them why they weren't invited - you don't trust them.

Do what you want to do. It's your party and just as long as you don't ask them to do anything that would make them uncomfortable, I'm sure they'll have a great time.

Explain why you would rather invite one of your guests to your mother. Don't fight with her, but just tell her why you would choose that particular guest. She can explain why she wants the other guest. If she has the final say on the guest list and is paying for the party, it is probably best to skip the fight and let her choose. You can spend time with the other friend at a different time.

Did you already ask those four? If not, choose someone who you want the least and don't invite them. If you already have invited them, see if you can squeeze in one more, if not pick your favorite.

Ask your parents to squeeze in one more friend. If that is not possible, choose the friend that you have been friends with for the longest.

If you like the person, invite them anyway, unless you think they will do something to ruin the party. Your friends should be willing and able to put aside their differences for one night.

Send invites online, or call/text them. If you can't, try to talk to each one individually. Be sure to mention politely that others in the same group may feel left out if they hear you invited these people, and ask them to remain quiet about the party. If someone you didn't invite asks about the party, be polite and direct, and stay as close to the truth as possible. Explain why you couldn't invite them (not enough room, tension between other guests). At the end of the day, it is your choice who to invite.

Around 5-10, subject to your parents' approval.

If you have the courage, go up to her and talk to her about the matter. She may not take it well, but it's your party, and you shouldn't feel obligated to invite someone you don't want to. Also, don't let your friends do the deciding for you. If you want to invite her, then go ahead. If your friends are mean to her despite the fact that you chose to invite her, then you should correct them and tell them to stop bullying your friend.

Have an activity planned, like a movie you know everyone will enjoy. Ask your friends what beverages and foods they like beforehand. Have a back up plan like a board game. Leave the cake for last, near the last half hour of the party. Always have snacks available.