Q&A for How to Find out if Your Husband Is Cheating

Well, if you've caught him on Match.com, you already know that he's trying to cheat. I think that's all the proof you need.

He is using your forgiving and understanding nature to do whatever he pleases. Also, he may be hoping that you will indeed "do your worst" and leave him, so he can feel good about going to be with the other woman. If he has continually cheated, he is not likely to change. If you don't want to be married to a cheater, you should make plans to separate.

Leave him. You can do better with someone who will respect, love, and care about your feelings and well-being.

If he keeps his phone on him at all times, even when he's sleeping, he is probably hiding something from you, and yes, it could be that he is cheating. The only exception might be if he is a doctor or police chief, or someone else who is always on call at work.

There's no laws here. I would feel angry, betrayed and hurt. Jealous, too; insecure, and suddenly all sorts of question marks appear for things that were certain, like the future. People can talk to whomever they like and make new friends; it keeps us new and interesting for our partners. But if you feel this is cheating, then it is, even if he feels it's not, and he must take your feelings into account.

Yes! Unless you have agreed to an 'open' relationship and are okay with each other seeing other people, that is almost certainly cheating. There is no legitimate reason for your fiance to be signed up for dating sites, and all of what you describe is very shady. He's clearly not very serious about you. It would be best to get out of this relationship before you end up stuck in a marriage with him.

I don't believe there is a wrong or right in this situation. You have a son together so you will always have that bond, but I would have a serious talk with him, lay down the law about what your expectations are going forward. If you feel you can trust him again, great. But keep in mind, your son would probably choose to have divorced parents over a miserable mother.

Hide a automatic voice recorder where he spending the most time. Check it later.

If you are feeling the need to go through your partners phone, there are either other signs that make you think you need to do this, or you have trust issues. In either case, the two of you probably need to see a couples counselor.

Are his checks reflecting the extra hours? If so, then yes, you are wrong to assume that he is cheating. If the extra time isn't on his checks, it's a fair question.

Maybe, but he also might just be upset about something. You should try to have a calm, reasonable discussion with him. Don't accuse him of anything. Just say something like, "It seems like something is bothering you lately. I feel like you've become distant. Is something wrong?" Don't jump to any wild conclusions, just see what he says.

If I were you, I would be concerned. That seems like a strange comment to make to your partner at any point. I would recommend bringing it up to him and letting him know that the comment made you uncomfortable.

It sounds like it could be an emotional affair, if not a physical one. You should (calmly, respectfully) bring up your concerns. If you're uncomfortable with him texting this woman all the time, he should be willing to stop.

His friend has zero morals and your man has no problems with it. It's disrespectful to you. Dump him.

Sounds like you need to talk to him about it and see what he has to say. It's best to confront a problem head on.

Check his call list for any numbers showing no name. Write it down and call from a private number to see who answers before you move forward with confronting him.

He may be, yes. Have a serious sit down talk with him, and ask him why he feels the way he does. If he's not willing to work on your relationship, doesn't want to be with you, or gets defensive, chances are he could be cheating, or just unhappy. In either case, you should think about yourself and how you can become happy, even if that means leaving him.

If you are sure he is cheating, then there really is just one thing left for you to decide: can you live with it? If you can live with the fact that he will have sex with other people and not change, then accept it, never mention it again, and enjoy your life. But if you can't, then he has to either stop cheating or you have to end the marriage.

For some, wild repeated sex is not cheating as long as you don't fall in love. For others, even a hug is cheating. What matters is what you feel is cheating. If he knows you consider oral sex to be cheating, then, even if he does not, he must restrain himself. After all, he's supposed to love you, and cheating on you hurts you, and those who love us are supposed to try and avoid hurting us.

Link your phone to his Google account when he is asleep. This will allow you to see his activity daily.

Talk to him about why he doesn't want to talk about sex and suggest couples counseling. If you have suspicions he is having an affair and that that is why he has stopped talking about sex with you, then raise this as the reason for the discussion.

It sounds very likely that he is cheating. You at least have reasons to be concerned. If he is spending that much money on purchases he refuses to tell you about, he is being dishonest about something.

I don't think so. If you don’t get a response when you ask if he still finds you attractive, it means he might not find you sexually appealing anymore, even if he's not cheating. I would let him know that his response worried you so he can explain.

No, they cannot.

He probably does indeed have a lot of stress and has too much on his plate. That's what he said at least. You took a good first step - to talk about it - now, consider continuing on this road. Perhaps create some alone time for the two of you: "this Thursday, after 8:00 PM, let's just make it you and me, at home, nobody else, nothing planned, we can be quietly together". Don't plan sex, and don't expect it, plan rest. Once it feels right, it will happen. But sex follows when you two solve the underlying issues. These issues are not necessarily solved by having sex.

If you are both on a desert island or he is by your side 24 hours a day, or if he is dead. You will never know for sure, but if you want to believe him, then believe him. Let him know your trust is shaky and he will have to re-earn it. Remember it is not your fault. Ask him to go to a clinic for both of you to get STD tests. Consider couples counseling.

Dreams are just reflections of what is going on in your own brain. If you are at any level worried about your husband cheating, you may have dreams about it. It has nothing to do with whether or not your husband is actually cheating.

What is causing you to feel this way? Being apart is hard but be sure that your imagination isn't running away with you. If you have found signs, be upfront and ask him about your concerns. You can also ask for details about the trip and look for any holes in the retelling.

He's viewing something he doesn't want you to see. It could be pornography, chat sites, or maybe even online shopping for gifts for you.

Face him and ask him why he lied to you. You should choose the right time to talk (in person, not over the phone or texting) and make your question ''smooth'', not accusatory.