Q&A for How to Get over Not Having a Boyfriend/Girlfriend

Yes! Whether you’ve recently broken up, you haven’t met the right person yet, or you just prefer to be single, it’s absolutely okay to not be in a relationship. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you’re single, and it’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

Being single can be hard, but you can absolutely survive on your own. Focus on self-care, which can include things like caring for your health and hygiene, taking care of chores and other responsibilities, and doing things you enjoy on your own or with friends and family. Work on building life skills that will help you get by on your own, whether that means taking classes so you can get a better job or mastering life basics such as cooking, budgeting, or taking care of a car. Don’t be afraid to reach out to friends and family for support, or look for groups of likeminded people in your area if you don’t have anyone close by.

Yes. It’s common for people to feel lonely and sad about not being in a romantic relationship, and crying is a totally normal response to those feelings. If your sadness about not having a boyfriend is overwhelming or you feel like it’s interfering with your day-to-day life, consider reaching out to a counselor or talking to a trusted friend or family member about how you feel.

Babysit for your sisters as often as you can. You will soon realize that having a baby is not as simple and wonderful as you imagine it to be. Children require incredible amounts of work and responsibility. Your life is no longer your own when you have a child; you have to make all your decisions based on what is best for your child. Becoming a young mother also severely limits your choices in life. Instead, focus on being a great aunt to your sisters' kids, and on working toward things that make you happy.

Stop worrying. Chances are you don't have a bf/gf yet because you are particular and are holding out for exactly what you want, and that has not presented itself to you yet. THAT IS A GOOD THING! There is nothing wrong with being single - enjoy it. You will very likely find someone who is perfect for you. However, a relationship should not define your life. Get over your worries by making a good life for yourself and let that special someone just be the icing on the cake.

Nobody owes you sex, so wanting to stay single doesn't mean a woman should sleep with you. Maybe they're not attracted to you, or maybe they're religious and don't believe in having sex casually/before marriage.

Explore more and be more selective; don't keep dating the same type of person you've dated before and expect it to work out differently. Also, try not to get too discouraged -- a good relationship is worth waiting for, and each failed relationship is a learning experience about what to avoid or look out for in the future.

Make some more friends. Try joining a club and finding people with mutual interests, or you can use the extra time to do something productive. If you want a girls night out with your friends who have boyfriends, ask and plan it. Sometimes friends just really want to hang with only the girls.

I know how you feel. You'll get there, don't worry. It's perfectly okay for you to fantasize about having a boyfriend, and in the meantime, just try to show your parents that you're responsible so that they will eventually be okay with you dating. Focus on your studies for now.

Make a list of all the reasons your previous partner was not the right one for you - things you disagreed about, qualities you didn't care for, etc. Look at the list whenever you find yourself missing that person.

Understand that desperation is not attractive. Perhaps you want a relationship so badly because you think it will make you happier with yourself. That is not the point of relationships. In fact, relationships tend to find us when we are happy with ourselves. Instead of obsessing about relationships, find things that make you happy and work hard at them.

Yes, that is normal and completely fine.

No, it is not time to give up! You will find someone right for you. Just keep participating in the activities you love, and find someone who is interested in those same things. Don't try too hard and don't get impatient. The right girl is out there somewhere.

Women are very perceptive and can probably sense your underlying anger. There are a lot of "nice guys" out there who are really very angry and bitter towards women. That is not an attractive quality. Rage toward women in a large man is frightening. I recommend you get yourself some therapy to work through your anger issues.

You don't need a boyfriend just because they do. Just be patient. In time, you will find what you are looking for.

There is really no way to answer that for certain. It's probably not a mathematical certainty or anything, but most people believe that it is possible for anyone to find love.

Put yourself in social situations where you will meet new people and make friends there.

It is perfectly normal for a 13-year-old daughter to not have a boyfriend. Tell her that this doesn't mean no one likes her or that she isn't pretty, and that the right boy will come along when the time is right. Some people don't have their first relationships until high school or college!

It's horrible feeling so isolated, sorry you're going through that. What do you like to do? Can you join a club to meet new friends (or a potential girlfriend)? At the very least you wouldn't feel so alone and you'd be doing things you enjoy.

Nope! You may feel like you have nothing to offer or that people may be wasting their time on you, but if you have meaningful relationships with your friends and family, that obviously means there's something special about you that stands out to other people! Embrace yourself for your uniqueness, and the right person will eventually come along and love you for who you are. It's just a matter of patience and time! The time spend waiting is a perfect time for self-development: work out your issues, travel, explore new interests, and work toward being the best version of yourself you can be.

Make new friends! If that is hard, realize that just because your friend has a different best friend doesn't mean that you can't still be their friend. Also, you can't be everyone's favourite and if you socialize with more people, you will likely find someone with your interests who will be your perfect best friend.

It is a normal feeling every person has. Wanting to have a family is a great sign of someone's emotional maturity. It is nothing to regret.