Q&A for How to Have Phone Sex

Don't be afraid to use your imagination! Dial up the fun by asking something like: "If nothing was off-limits and it would be great no matter what, what would you want to do with me sexually that we haven't before?"

Not really, no. Since it's over the phone, there is obviously no chance of pregnancy or STDs. Just make sure you (and your partner) are not feeling pressured to do anything you/they don't want to do.

Maybe if the husband/boyfriend or wife/girlfriend is away somewhere and the person they are dating wants to do it with them but can't. In this case, phone sex might might feel like they are being intimate from afar. There are many potential reasons why though, it's personal and between the consenting partners.

Yes, but that's not the only way to do it. You don't need to have a video component if you're not comfortable with that. It's up to you and your partner.

The point to phone sex is really to be on the phone. However, if you find a way to use online video chat, that could work as well. If all else fails, you could ask a friend to borrow their phone for the night -- just make sure they're on board with the plan beforehand.

It could involve use of the phone's camera. It is entirely up to you and your partner. It may be worth a discussion with your partner. It all depends upon the rules you and your partner establish before and during the session. Pictures may heighten the level of excitement for each.

Did you discuss the idea of having phone sex before you called him? He may be surprised or shocked by you coming on too strong over the phone if this is a new idea to him. Phone or text him back asking for a normal chat, then raise the matter of what you were trying to do and ask him outright if it's something he is keen to try or feels uncomfortable with. Then take it from there.

If you are scared of pain, start with something small and comfortable. Basically, in your comfort zone. Test any that you may be using during the phone sex before the call, so you can become comfortable. Remember, sex toys are a thing totally based on preference, and if you've tried it once or twice and still don't like it, then you don't have to use it.

No, since your partner isn't actually with you.

She does essentially the same thing she would do if she were alone, except that she and her partner on the other end of the phone call are sharing by describing and other audible statements (moans and gasps for example) each others' feelings, thoughts and actions, etc. This is a form of sexually conversing.

If you get tired, it's time to stop. Sleep well!

Don't answer another call or reply to any messages unless it's very, very important. Shut the doors. You can even turn off the call waiting function on your phone ahead of time.

If she's your ex-girlfriend, there's a pretty good chance she won't want to have phone sex with you. However, if you want to try, just be respectful. Maybe tell her how much you miss her, and make some flirtatious comments. If she responds positively, ask her if she's interested in having phone sex.

Express how you really feel. Take it easy and relax. He'll understand, especially if it is your first time.

Yes, it's a good idea. Choose a character which makes your partner comfortable. But don't waste time on it. Your partner may get bored.

You're 12, you're too young to have sex. You will need to wait until you're more mature (physically, maybe, but mostly mentally/emotionally). If you like this girl, tell her you like her. Ask her out on a date. Hold her hand. Kiss her if she says it's okay. Take it one step at a time.

That's completely up to you; use it whenever it feels comfortable. There's no need to use a sex toy at all if you'd rather not.

It feels a little weird, but keep control of yourself and everything will be just fine.

Nope! You don't have to do anything you aren't comfortable doing.

Then just don't do it. Both of you have to be comfortable with doing it. Explain to your partner that you just are not willing. Don't do it until you are sure you are ready and feel comfortable.

If you don't trust the person, don't do it. Wait until you're more comfortable.

An 11-year-old is not physically or emotionally mature enough to do anything even remotely related to sex, and if they were to get caught, their parents would likely be very upset about it.

Don't confuse this with paid sex sites. This article is generally confined to individuals who at least know one another and for some reason decide that they want to have phone sex. Then they generally proceed as this article says to proceed, and generally for free mutual enjoyment.

People's bodies are different, there's nothing wrong with that. If you are truly in a caring relationship with your boyfriend, then you shouldn't have to worry if you think it looks weird, just know that he won't care. If it really feels like a problem to you, you can do one of two things. One, bring it up to your boyfriend before the phone sex and have a conversation about it. Two, if it is still really bothering you, just don't send pictures.

The only thing you physically feel is under your total control. Therefore, if you consider masterbation to be "real sex" then the answer is yes.

No. Phone sex doesn't usually involve any physical contact.

If you find porn to be the best way to masturbate, then you could use your cell phone's camera to watch your partner during a sexy video call. This is similar to porn in many ways, and many couples prefer being able to see each other during phone sex. Watching porn while having phone sex is not recommended, as it distracts you from your partner by making you think of other people, i.e porn actors. If you feel you can't live without porn or you'd rather watch porn than have physical sex, you should talk to a mental health professional about pornography addiction.

In some cases, yes. It could make it feel more realistic, but if you're uncomfortable with sex toys, it won't be very helpful. It's all up to you!

Tell him/her to hold on, or tell them you'll call them right back.

I would wait until you both reach a point where both of you are more mature.