Q&A for How to Have Sex Appeal

Take out a pen and paper and write down a list of 30 reasons why you're a catch. Don't censor yourself—just write. If you have a hard time coming up with reasons, ask your close friends why they think you're a catch. The more you focus on what's great about you and what you have to offer, the more confident you'll feel.

Clean out your wardrobe! Go through your closet and get rid of any clothes that make you feel frumpy or not great. Then, pick out 3-5 outfits that you know you look and feel great in. Having a set of go-to wardrobe items takes the pressure off and helps you relax, which also boosts sex appeal because you're not going to feel insecure about the way you look.

If someone sees you and feels sexual desire toward you, to that person you have sex appeal. Sex appeal is not the same for everyone; that's why people have sexual preferences for different types of people. There are some stereotypical ideas about sex appeal; for example, the blonde bombshell female and the talk, dark male - these looks do not have universal sex appeal.

You may be giving off signals unconsciously that are putting off guys. When you are out anywhere guys could approach you, do not think about how you are looking and how you can get guys to approach you. Simply enjoy what you're doing. It's appealing to guys to see a girl or woman just enjoying herself and not looking bored, anxious, uptight, shy or moody. Talk with you friends, play sports, dance, eat, shop; do your thing, and if you are obviously having a good time, people--even guys--will want to share the fun and approach you.

You can't help who you are attracted but yes, I suppose you may find it difficult to be attracted to women who are only attracted to other women if you yourself identify as male. Perhaps you can date bisexual women.