Q&A for How to Hold Hands With Your Girl/Boy Friend

Then you let him know how you feel and you don't go on to the next stage until you are ready. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything you're uncomfortable with.

Just inconspicuously wipe it on your side.

If they don’t want it hold your hand, don’t force it. They might just not be ready yet, or they might not like holding hands. Not everybody does.

It really doesn't matter if he's taller than you, just ask if he wants to hold hands. If you find it uncomfortable to hold hands while standing because of his height, just hold hands while seated.

No, it is not. If you don't feel comfortable with it, then that's your choice. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do/don't feel comfortable with doing yet, and don't try to pressure anyone else into doing something they're not comfortable with.

Whatever you're both most comfortable with - there's no standard for this.

If you want to hold hands with him but you don't want to ask/tell him, just reach out and take his hand. As for doing it in front of your friends, that's really up to you. Your friends might tease you about it a little bit, but that's not really such a huge deal.

There's no set period of time for when you should hold hands. Do it when you feel ready. Four weeks is a pretty long time, so if you feel comfortable, it's perfectly fine if you want to hold your girl/boyfriend's hand.

If you're both ready, then it's perfectly fine.

Interlacing your hands with your partner is more romantic, but the alternative may be more comfortable if you're just starting out in a relationship.

Why would he hate you? If he's your boyfriend, or someone who's given signs that he likes you romantically, you don't have anything to worry about. Just go for it!

Just ask him directly if he wants to hold hands. I'm sure he'll say yes. He might just be a little nervous.

The easiest and least-awkward way would be to just reach over and hold his hand the next time he asks. Or better yet, just do so before he asks; then it won't have to be awkward for him to have to ask, either.

That's totally fine! If you've already discussed it, just reach out and take his hand sometime when you're sitting together.

If you both are ready for that, go for it! Who cares about other people? Just make the first move, and let the events unfold from there!

You will have to be okay with it. Don't force her to do anything she doesn't feel comfortable with.

If possible, move the thing in between you without making it obvious you want to get closer. Maybe say that it was pushing into you and it was painful, or that you couldn’t move your arms freely. You could also ask them if you could move the thing so you could hold hands. If you can’t move it, maybe move next to them where there isn’t something in the way and ask them if you can hold hands.

You don’t have to hold his hand in front of people. If you are the one wanting to hold hands, wait till you’re not near as many people. If he wants to hold hands then tell him you don’t want to in front of as many people! I’m sure he’ll understand. Another alternative to this is hold hands discreetly until you are ready.

If your boyfriend isn't comfortable with holding hands, don't pressure him, as the more you ask, the less he'll want to do it. When the time comes, he'll let you know he's ready. However, be aware that some people are just never comfortable holding hands, this is a known phenomenon that may stem from bad childhood experiences, not enjoying close touch or feeling constrained by the "locked" feeling of hand holding. You might want to talk to him about this if his unwillingness drags on well into your relationship.

Sure, but it would be a good idea to ask them if they're comfortable with it first.

This depends whether you're really feeling comfortable with each other already and what stage you're at. If you're both ready, I say go for it.

I have a boyfriend and everyone at school teases us, so we try to leave early and meet up when no one is around to hold hands and hug. Also, you don't need to care; I know how hard it is, but you should forget about all those other people and if you think she wants to hold your hand, just go for it.

If you both are comfortable with it then go ahead. Just make sure your best friend is okay with holding hands before you make a move to hold theirs.

It depends on whether it's usual or not for young couples to hold hands there. If it's frowned upon, then don't do this but if it's celebrated as a normal part of young love, then it'd be fine. Ask one of the youth group leaders for their thoughts first.

Just do the same thing, gently grab his hand. Even if your friends tease you, stand tall and be proud!

A romantic relationship's success is defined by both partner's needs being met, boundaries respected and the overall satisfaction of each person. There's no one approach or timeline that is going to work in every relationship; if you've found a level that you're both fine with, then you're doing things right! However, if you don't feel romantic inclinations toward your boyfriend, you might want to consider whether he is actually your boyfriend, or if he's just a good friend. There's nothing wrong with either answer, but qualifying your relationship can be helpful in case someone comes along with whom you would like to get closer.

It does not matter what her friends think. If she thinks it is weird, she'll come around someday. The only opinions that matter are yours and hers, don't be influenced by others. What you guys do is private. And if she's not ready, she's not ready. If she's never ready, then it's just something she doesn't like doing. For some people, holding hands can feel constraining and uncomfortable.

Take a deep breath and tell yourself it will be fine. As yourself what could possibly go wrong? The worst is she will say no or not yet. Go for it, unless you're uncomfortable, then just wait!

if the girl truly likes you then she won't care what hand you use. But it is probably best to go with your smooth hand, just in case.

Usually you wouldn’t hold hands with them. If they are trying to hold your hand, either pull away or say “Not here.”. If they are respectful enough, they will stop pursuing.