Q&A for How to Identify a False Friend

Become a better judge of character. Pay more attention to their sincerity, true interest in you, and their ability to put the friendship above their own personal needs.

You can pay more attention. Does the other person show a sincere interest in you? Is conversation shared back and forth? Are they there for you when you are upset or in need?

A fake friend like to hang out but wants all the attention on them, their interests, and their needs. When you need something or want to go somewhere, they aren't usually willing to put themselves out.

A real friend is someone who is your friend in good times, hard times, and also bad times. It is someone who accepts you, encourages you, and believes in you. It is someone who gives you honest feedback but respects you to make your own decisions. It is also someone who accepts your other friends and family.

You can't avoid talking altogether if you work together, but you can limit the conversation to work-related topics. You don't have to "take the bait" if they ask about very personal things. You also don't have to encourage their over-focus on themselves; limit your own follow-up questions.

You cannot control others. It will be up to your true friend to figure out if your false friend is also her false friend or not. Try to limit the amount of time you spend with the two of them together.