Q&A for How to Look Cool

Likeability comes down to authenticity and openness. I’m not suggesting you should share your life story with every stranger. Try truly listening to others with empathy while reserving judgment even if they don’t align with you on every topic. You’ll find natural openings where you can be authentic in sharing your own experiences or thoughts. You may decide that some people don’t fit in your life and that’s perfectly okay. You will have learned something new, seen how others process information and created a connection that you can resource from. People need to feel seen and heard. If you give them a safe space to share that with you, they will usually come back to hear your thoughts on other topics.

Pull your clothes and toss anything that is too worn, too outdated or too small. Then make three piles of clothes: slightly off-trend items, trusty classics in good shape, and clothes you just don't know how to wear. We tend to get into the habit of wearing the same outfits over and over because it’s easy. Try pairing your trusty classics with the items you’re not sure how to wear. Tuck a bold printed top into a neutral pencil skirt and top it with a blazer so it’s just a hint of fun in an otherwise demure look.

Be funny and a good listener. Be a good friend and compliment people. Be confident.

If you're required to wear specific items (i.e. khakis and a white button-front shirt), but you can buy them from wherever you want, you can buy those items with subtle variations that you like, that make yours slightly different. If your uniform is more strict and you have to buy it from the same vendor as others, you can do things like make sure your uniform fits right (not too big or too small), wear allowed jewelry items, or make subtle changes to your hair.

Yes, but only at the right time because if you laugh at the wrong time then you would feel embarrassed.

Create your own style and your own crowd. Be yourself.

The best hairstyle changes with your type of face. If you have a small face, let your hair down. If you have a round face, put it up in a pony or a bun to make your face slimmer.

Not really. Popular people become popular because they're confident, and people find confidence attractive. Also, quite often they're not as confident as they look. A huge part of confidence is just being able to fake it convincingly enough.

Ignore them. If you want to be cool, you have to be yourself and not worry about what others think about you.

Be pretty. It may sound stupid, but by putting enough heart into it you can. Everyone is pretty and cool in their own way.

Looking cool is not that important. Be a nice and respectful person, that's what matters.

It is cool to be yourself. Sometimes you may not realize it, but people find self confidence and uniqueness really cool. Just stay true to yourself and don't copy anyone or be a fake.

If you feel like it's cool, it's cool. Be yourself and confident; confidence is key to looking and feeling cool.

Everybody's interesting in their own way, but try to cultivate some interesting or unusual hobbies that might set you apart from other people, like collecting insects, horseback riding, parasailing, making miniatures, archery, etc. When people find out about your interesting hobby, they'll want to talk to you about it!

Have cool mannerisms such as posture and the way you walk, but don’t overdo it. Have an open and friendly personality that will make yourself popular. And stick to no-name, no-brand basic clothes with plain colors (no images, no distinguishing features or fancy logos) from box stores. A good plain white t-shirt with a pair of plain black jeans is just fine to look cool in.

Not having a phone means that you're too cool to worry about what other people are doing or thinking, you have your own life to live and more important things to do.

Yes, the element of mystery might work in your favor. But there is also the opposite, which is being a people person. Both ways work. What's cool is you being yourself and being okay with it.

Being calm is important, as it shows you can control your emotions well. However, there is no problem in showing your emotion such as laughter during suitable times.