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  • Question
    How can I easily build rapport with anyone?
    Christophe Fox
    Magician and Mentalist
    Christophe Fox is a Magician and Mentalist based in Virginia. He travels around the country as a full-time performer, providing various entertainment programs, from headline shows as a keynote speaker to close-up magic. He specializes in pressure management, teaching clients and audiences how to live more productively and creatively. His speaking clients have included PBS, Bloomberg, Deloitte, J.P. Morgan, the U.S. Army, and many more. Christophe’s programs deliver jaw-dropping entertainment with a signature blend of magic, mind-reading, and audience interaction.
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    Start by listening more than you speak. Show genuine interest by asking questions about the other person, like their name or where they're from. Avoid looking at your phone to maintain focus and show respect. When an awkward pause occurs, take it as a cue to ask more questions and then listen attentively to their responses. Also, you can create humor by cracking a joke, but make sure that it's appropriate for the conversation.
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    How can I help a child with cancer feel more happy?
    Community Answer
    Be a friend, and be nonjudgmental and understanding.
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    How do I make someone feel good about life and themselves, if they're feeling depressed/suicidal?
    Community Answer
    Just talk to them. It may seem simple enough, but it really helps them bring that negativity out. Let them know you care.
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    Someone did wrong to me, and I told him. Now he's feeling really bad and can't even concentrate, so I want to make him feel better - how do I do it?
    Community Answer
    Tell him that you don't feel differently about him and it wasn't your intention to make him feel bad, you needed to express how his actions/words hurt you. Allow him some time to process the guilt over having done wrong by you, and let him know that things are OK between you.
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    How can I help someone with depression?
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    Tell them that you're there for them, no matter what they're going through. Also, listen to what they have to say, and do not brush aside their problems, no matter how trivial they seem.
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    How do I make someone who's insecure about his/her appearance love him/herself?
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    Tell the person she's/he's beautiful or handsome. Compliment hairstyle, shoes, clothes etc. to show you think the person has good taste and looks nice.
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    How do I get more people to like me?
    Community Answer
    Be kind. Express interest in others. Those are perhaps the two most important things to keep in mind.
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    How do I make someone feel appreciated?
    Community Answer
    Remember to say thank you. They will feel much better if you say nice things, and you have to mean it.
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    How do I improve the self esteem of others?
    Community Answer
    Be kind to them, and really listen to anything they say. Make sure you let them know that their opinion is valued. Compliment them (but not too much or it will feel fake). Chat about their good qualities - talents, sense of humor, personality, etc. Just be there for them, and help them feel valued. If they open up to you with secrets, fears, or guilty feelings, don't judge them. Be honest, trustworthy and supportive. Don't brush aside their "trivial" problems, and give them both emotional support and advice if you have any.
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    How do I make someone feel better if he is suicidal?
    Community Answer
    Let him know your care. Make sure he knows you will be there for them no matter what.
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    How do I make someone feel better if they're having a bad day or just sad?
    Community Answer
    Spend a lot of time with them and maybe get them a nice gift and comment on them. This will hopefully help them feel better.
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    How do I make an online person feel useful?
    Community Answer
    Take an interest in that person's life. Ask him questions about his interests and talents, and help to tease out what he might be good at doing and what he might contribute to his family and community.
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    How do I make someone feel good?
    Community Answer
    You should start by making a funny remark about the weather or something that makes him/her feel good. Then talk and listen to the person and make sure that you are sincere.
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    How do I cheer someone up who just got out of a relationship?
    Community Answer
    Do things with them that they enjoy. Try to make them forget about it by taking them to the cinema, bowling, or simply the park.
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    How do I start a friendly conversation with the person who hates me?
    Community Answer
    Compliment what they're wearing. They may even appreciate it. Be persistent, they may keep ignoring your attempts to talk to them, so it may take a while before they respond to your attempts to chat to them.
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    How do I make someone feel better that just lost her child?
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    You probably can't make them feel better, but you can be there to support them. Bring meals to their house, offer to clean up or run errands for them, and sit and listen to them if they want to talk, or if they just want some company.
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    I tried to make people happy by calling everyone beautiful but everyone hates me and thinks that I'm weird. What did I do wrong?
    Ginger
    Community Answer
    You didn’t do anything wrong. Not everybody likes being called beautiful by strangers, though. Trying giving individual compliments, like “I love your shirt, where did you get it?”. Or, let them know you really appreciate their help or kindness from time to time.
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    How can I make my child feel good when she is self destructive?
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    You are the most influential person in your child's life. She may not be able to tell you everything about her life, you but should tell her that you are there for her, and explain to her what she means to you as her child. Tell her more than that she is special, tell her that she brightens up your life. Tell her that she is an amazing person who goes through so much by herself, but she isn't alone. She may also be self-destructive because she has a guilty conscience. If it's about school, then help her out. Sit down with her for a good hour, and be patient and help her out and give her tips. Make her feel smart. Don't be critical.
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    What should someone with a bad childhood do to feel better about their life?
    Michelle Parent
    Community Answer
    Understand that you are not at fault. And you can and will get better. You are not the only one who has had a bad childhood; you are not alone. Live for yourself today, not for your past. Replace expectations for appreciations. Remove yourself as much as you can from toxic circumstances of your past. Focus on you and your today. Separate logic from emotion. Treat your 5 senses. Give yourself the love that you deserve.
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    My friend is always heartbroken. After that, she will drink a lot of alcohol. How can I help her to feel better and stop drinking too much?
    Tom De Backer
    Top Answerer
    It really is acceptable to drink some alcohol, even a skull-splitting amount, if desired. Just not all the time, all day every day. People have been looking for relief from this harsh life since the dawn of humanity, brewing fermented drinks and smoking all sorts of weeds. Don't forbid her to drink, or guilt her if she drank; try and make her think of good reasons why she doesn't want to do that and some alternatives you can do together.
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    How do I encourage someone to get professional help for mental well-being?
    Tom De Backer
    Top Answerer
    Nobody can be forced. The person needs to first understand that it's necessary and what the benefits will be. You can suggest it a few times, though not too often. But you can also lower a few thresholds: "You don't have to be mentally ill before you can benefit from such help", "It's getting more and more mainstream instead of taboo", "They can give you insight in thought processes that happen to us all", "You only share the things you want to share", etc.
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    How can I comfort a sick friend who lives in another state?
    Community Answer
    You can call of FaceTime them, or text them little messages like “Thinking of you,” “feel good” or others. If they need meals, you can also order from a restaurant to be delivered to them.
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    How to stop hating myself when it's all I know?
    Tom De Backer
    Top Answerer
    I've always wondered, when we say "it's" instead of "it is", is it one word or two? I ask, because in those ten words you wrote (or eleven) I've already found something positive about you. I, just a guy on the internet trying to answer people's questions if I can, who has never met you and doesn't know anything about you, have found something I do not hate about you, quite the opposite: I respect and admire you for it. You have a question, and instead of crying about it, you ask for answers. That's a good quality. Surely you, who knows yourself better than I know you, could find three or four things you don't hate about yourself. Do more of those things.
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    How do you make someone feel special?
    Drew Hawkins1
    Community Answer
    Oh wow, there are all sorts of ways you can make someone feel special! Try spreading some positive energy their way. A simple first step is to try to smile as much as you can when you're around them. Make a conscious effort to do it and you'll look like a much friendlier person that could help brighten up their day. Try talking to them and do your best not to dominate the conversation so they feel like you're listening to them. If you do all the talking in a conversation, people will feel like you’re talking at them. Give them the opportunity to open up and talk about themselves and ask them questions to keep the conversation going. Sometimes, just knowing that someone is interested to talk to them about their life can make a person feel special and appreciated. But don't just ask superficial questions. Show them that you're listening by asking questions based on what they're saying.
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    How do you make someone feel better?
    Drew Hawkins1
    Community Answer
    If someone is feeling down or like they're in a funk, you can try making them feel better by showing them that they're important and they matter. Sometimes, generic compliments or positive words can fall a little flat. But, if you use specific examples and show them why you think they're important, it can help your message have more of an impact. For instance, try bringing attention to their accomplishments. It doesn't only have to be private matters, either. If someone you know accomplished something, let other people know about it. They'll be happy to see that other people take their accomplishments seriously. Sometimes, it's easy for someone to lose sight of their own worth when they're feeling upset or depressed. Try bragging on your friend to show them that you're proud of them and that you care about them. It could help turn around their mood.
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    How do you make someone smile?
    Drew Hawkins1
    Community Answer
    One thing about smiles is that they're super contagious. If you want to make someone smile, start smiling as much as you can around them. Don't make it weird, and don’t try to make your smile as wide as you can, which can look fake. Just slightly turning the corners of your lips up makes you look bright naturally. Make a conscious effort to smile more often. Smiling can help you feel more positive and also spread positivity to the people around you. So if you've got a friend who's feeling a bit down or you just want to get somebody to smile, project your own positive energy onto them through your smile. Chances are they won't be able to help it and you'll see them crack a smile back at you.
  • Question
    In my online friend group I feel like I can never be positive enough or I risk ruining people’s days. How can I make myself more enjoyable to be talked with, or how to make myself a more brighter person?
    Community Answer
    Start by giving compliments, and share any positive thoughts you have. If you think your thoughts are mean or dark, keep them to yourself. Don't forget to smile, have good body language and maybe even dress in lighter colors, people pick up on the little things.
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