Q&A for How to Play 7 Minutes in Heaven

It can be if you want. It is just tradition that but most people do seven minutes, also some people may not want to leave people in there too long so that nothing bad happens.

It is true that sometimes people take this game to an intimate level, but you should never take part in something that makes you feel uncomfortable or engage in sex before you are ready. Doing so could result in pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, or other complicated situations.

You could ask before the game starts if everyone wants to agree on a longer time period. Otherwise, try to stick to the seven minutes so everyone gets a turn to play.

If you feel like you don't actually have the privacy to do something, you may want to avoid doing it. In some cases, people may be listening at the door to the room where you're having your 7 Minutes in Heaven.

You don't have to kiss. Try explaining it to them, or just don't play with that group of people.

Respect other people's boundaries. If the other person doesn't feel comfortable, don't force him/her to do anything.

They could, but they shouldn't if they're good friends, and they definitely should not try to force you to do anything you're not comfortable with. Not wanting to have to kiss or touch people you're not romantically interested in, or not wanting to make a game of such things, has nothing to do with being a wimp; it's perfectly reasonable. If you don't want to do it, don't let anyone pressure you. See Method 3.

You can do whatever you want in the room. You can talk, ignore each other or just stare at each other. It's up to you.

Leave the party immediately. You should never stay someplace where you feel you're not being respected and/or are being pressured to do something you don't want to do.

This game does not require you to be sexual, but in some cases that does happen. If you feel uncomfortable, you might suggest playing a different game or opt out of playing.

If the two girls are comfortable with it, then yes, but usually it is a boy and a girl. Keep in mind that 7 Minutes in Heaven does not have to involve romantic or sexual activity.

It's not technically dangerous if you are with a nice group of people who won't do anything bad to you.

Say you are in your room, close the blinds and turn the lights off and make the other players wait outside the room.

The worst outcome of playing this game depends on your personal limits. If, for example, you decide to have sex while playing, it could result in pregnancy. If you're only kissing, there is less risk, but you could still get a sickness like mononucleosis (mono).

Picking names and spinning the bottle are two different ways to do the pairing. You can do one or the other, or something else entirely, as long as the end result is a paired couple.

It's random. That unpredictability is the point of the game.

You can, yes. Talk to the person, so you can understand there will be no hard feelings.

Well, that depends on how you feel. It's normal to feel a little nervous and you should feel free to say no if you're too uncomfortable. But it might be a good opportunity to tell them how you feel, or even kiss them!

Older teenagers are generally the target age group for this game.

There is no official age requirement, but the participants should probably be no younger than 14.

Well the people will of already have seen you so you can't really do anything about it. Just let it go.

Well, if everyone really wants to play, the straight girls will have to be willing to experiment (make sure everyone understands that it is just a game, and no feelings are involved). Otherwise, choose a different game.

If there are only girls at the party and you aren't interested kissing someone of the same gender, it might be best to play a different party game. Some options include games like Truth or Dare, 21 Dares, and Ghost.

You should play only if you tell them not to lock you in again. Explain to them that locking people in the room is not how the game is supposed to be played.

There isn't exactly an age limit to playing the game. You could be 10 and play it without any sexual activity, or you could be 20 and play it as you like. It all depends on the rules you set and on making sure the others feel comfortable doing it!

In a very straightforward manner, you should tell him that you don’t want to have sex. If your partner tries to force you, then leave the closet and let everyone know that they should avoid going into the closet with that person.

If you're comfortable with it, say yes! It sounds like he likes you back but he's shy. He sort of got up some courage there at the end, but then he wished he would have done more. Just make sure you don't let him talk you into anything you're not ready for.

You should start with kissing and ask her if it's okay to go further. You should never touch someone sexually without getting their consent first.

Just say, "Hey guys, who wants to play 7 Minutes in Heaven?" Explain the game if they don't know what it is. If you want to play with a specific person, say, "Would you like to play 7 Minutes in Heaven with me?" If they say no, accept it and don't try to pressure them.

You can if you're both adults, both want to have sex, and if you have protection (condoms).